Izingane ezazibonakala zizethemba kulo lonke umzabalazo wobuntwana ukuze zigcine ukuziqinisekisa ngesikhathi seminyaka esemusha. Kwabaningi, ukukhulelwa kugcwele ukungabaza, isithombe esingabazeki somzimba, nokungavikeleki.
Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi, ungathatha izinyathelo zokusiza ingane yakho ukuba ikwazi ukuzethemba. Nazi izindlela eziyisishiyagalombili ezizokwenza ukuthi ingane yakho iqiniseke ngokugcwele:
1. Fundisa Intsha Yakho Ukulinganisela Ukuzivumelanisa Ukuzivumelanisa NgokuziThuthukisa
Intsha ehlukumezayo ukuze ikwazi ukwenza ikhono ingaphetha ngokuthi ihluleka ngokuphelele. Intombazane enenkinga yezibalo anganquma ukuthi akahlakaniphile. Noma intombazane ehluleka ukwenza iqembu lebhola lezinyawo linganquma ukuthi ngeke lihle emidlalo.
Bonisa ingane yakho ukuthi kungenzeka ukwamukela amaphutha akhe ngenkathi futhi uzama ukuba ngcono. Esikhundleni sokuzibiza ngokuthi "uyisiphukuphuku," usize ingane yakho ibone ukuthi ngenkathi ihlukumezeka ngokwezemfundo, ingakwazi ukuzama ukwenza ngcono.
2. Dumisani Umzamo Wentsha Yakho Emkhakheni Wempumelelo
Kunokuba ukhulise ingane yakho ukuze uthole ibanga elihle ekuhlolweni, mdumise ngakho konke okufundwayo. Esikhundleni sokuthi, "Umsebenzi omuhle uthola amaphuzu angu-5 emdlalweni," uthi, "Konke okwenzayo okwenzayo bekukhokha."
Ingane yakho ingakwazi ukulawula umzamo wakhe kodwa ayikwazi ukulawula njalo umphumela. Futhi, awufuni ukuthi acabange ukuthi ufanelwe udumo kuphela uma ephumelela.
Mbonise ukuthi kubalulekile ukuzama kanzima futhi kulungile uma engaphumeleli ngaso sonke isikhathi.
3. Fundisa Amakhono Okuqinisekisa
Intsha kudingeka ikwazi ukukhuluma ngokwabo ngendlela efanele. Intombazane eqinisayo izokwazi ukucela usizo lapho engayiqondi umsebenzi wakhe wesikole, kunokuzivumela ukuba awele ngemuva.
Intombazane engakwazi ukuzikhulumela yona nayo ingase ibe yinto encane yokwelashwa kontanga. Uzozikhulumela uma engathandi ukuthi uphathwa kanjani futhi uzokwazi ukucela lokho akudingayo ngendlela eqondile.
4. Khuthaza Intsha Yakho Ukuhlola Amathuba Amasha
Ukuzama imisebenzi emisha, ukuthola amathalenta afihliwe, nokuzibekela inselele ukuba abe nakho kungasiza ukukhulisa ukuzethemba kwentsha. Kodwa, intsha eningi isaba ukwehluleka futhi ayifuni ukuzihlazisa.
Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuthi ijoyine iqembu elisha, idlale ithuluzi lomculo, lihlanganyele emsebenzini wokuzithandela, noma uthole umsebenzi wesikhashana . Ukufundisa amakhono amasha kuzomsiza azizwe kangcono ngaye.
5. Ukuzethemba Isibonelo
Ingane yakho izofunda kakhulu ngokuzethemba okusekelwe kulokho okwenzayo-hhayi lokho okushoyo. Uma unecala lokwenza izitatimende ezibucayi ngomzimba wakho noma ngamakhono akho, uzofundisa ingane yakho ukwenza okufanayo.
Imodeli enhle indlela yokubhekana nezimo ezintsha ngesibindi nokuzethemba futhi ubonise ukubaluleka kokuzithanda wena. Khuluma nengane yakho ngezikhathi lapho usuke waba nesibindi noma izinto ozenzile empilweni yakho ukusiza ukwakha ukuzethemba kwakho.
6. Yakha Ukuzibheka Ngokuziqhenya Kwisisekelo Sempilo
Uma ngabe ingane yakho eyedwa kuphela izwa kahle ngaye uma ithola okuthile okuthandayo kuma-social media noma uma ifinyelela ebhodini lezinsikazi ezithile, kuzomzabalazela ukugcina ukuzethemba uma izimo zingasifani nezidingo zakhe.
Ukusekela ukuzibheka ezintweni ezingaphandle, izimo zangaphandle, noma abanye abantu kubangela ukungabi nokuzethemba esikhathini eside.
Siza ingane yakho ibe nesisekelo esinempilo nesesimweni sokuzibiza kwayo. Gcizelela izimiso zakho futhi umfundise ukuthi ukuziqhenya kweqiniso kuwukuphila ngokuvumelana nalezo zimiso. Isibonelo, msize abone ukuthi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba nomusa nokunakekela kunokuba mncane noma omuhle.
7. Ukulinganisa Inkululeko Nesiqondiso
Ukukhetha izinqumo zakho kwentsha kuyomqinisa kuye ukuthi angethembeki ukwenza izinqumo ezinhle ngokuzimela. Kubalulekile ukulinganisa inani elifanele lenkululeko ngesiqondiso esiningi.
Nikeza ingane yakho ithuba elihle lokusebenzisa amakhono owaye wamfundisa. Menze ahlangabezane nemiphumela yemvelo futhi uzofunda emaphutheni akhe. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzokwakha ukuzethemba okukhulu ekwenzeni kwakhe ukwenza izinqumo eziphilile.
8. Siza Ingane Yakho Yakha I-Self-Talk Talk
I-monologue yengane yakho yangaphakathi iyoba neqhaza elikhulu endleleni azizwa ngayo ngaye. Uma ehlale ecabanga izinto ezinjengokuthi, "Ngiyingozi kangaka," noma "Akekho ongithandayo," uzozizwa engalungile ngaye.
Fundisa ingane yakho ukuthuthukisa ukuzikhulumisana okunempilo. Khombisa ukuthi mangaki amacabango angelona iqiniso futhi amsize abone ukuthi ukuhlukumezeka ngokweqile kungalimaza kanjani. Mfundise ukuba avuselele imicabango engacabangi njengokuthi, "Ngizohluleka ngoba ngiyisiphukuphuku," ngenye into engokoqobo, "Ngingadlulisa isigaba samathuluzi uma ngisebenza kanzima."
> Imithombo
> HealthyChildren.org: Ukusiza Ingane Yakho Yakha Ukuziqhenya Ngokuziqhenya.
> HealthyChildren.org: Izindlela Zokuzakhela Ukuzidela Kwentsha Yakho.
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