Ukucindezeleka kuyakhula phakathi kwentsha-ikakhulukazi amantombazane asencane. Kodwa amantombazane amaningi ayatholi ukwelashwa abawadingayo.
Kusesekhona inhlamba ehambisana nompilo wengqondo eyenza ukuthi kube yinto engokomqondo kwabanye abazali. Abanye abazali abanalo ulwazi mayelana nokucindezeleka noma kumane banobunzima ukuze bazi ukuthi bangakhulisa kanjani indaba.
Izintela Zokucindezeleka Phakathi Kwabasebasha
Abacwaningi abavela kuJohn Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health rates ukucindezeleka kliniki kuye kwanda ngamaphesenti angu-37 kusukela ngo-2004 kuya ku-2014 phakathi kwentsha.
Ngenkathi izinga lokucindezeleka liye landa nakubantu abaningi asebekhulile, akukona okweqile ukwanda uma kuqhathaniswa nentsha.
Cishe amaphesenti angu-11 entsha abhekene nokucindezeleka kunoma yimuphi unyaka onikeziwe. Emantombazaneni, lelo nani lenyukela kuma-17.3%.
Ukucindezeleka okungabonakali kungaba nemiphumela ebuhlungu. Ukuzibulala kuhlanganisa nenani lembangela yokufa kwabantu abaphakathi kweminyaka engu-10 no-24.
Okwenza Kungenzeka ukuthi Amantombazane Asencane Asakhubeke
Asikho isizathu esicacile sokuthi kuye kwaba khona ukukhuphuka okukhulu kokucindezeleka phakathi kwamantombazane asencane. Abacwaningi abavela kuJohn Hopkins Bloomberg School of Health Public bakholelwa ukuthi kungenzeka ngenxa yezizathu ezingezinkinga zokucindezeleka.
Amantombazane angase abe nesifo se- cyberbullying , isibonelo. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi amantombazane asebenzisa ama-Smartphones kaningi futhi anamandla kunabantwana abasha. Futhi ukusetshenziswa kwefoni ephathekayo kuyinkimbinkimbi kuye kwaxhunyaniswa nokucindezeleka.
Esifundweni se-2014 eshicilelwe ku- Clinical Psychological Science , abacwaningi bathola ukuthi amantombazane asemantombazaneni ayengozini enkulu yokucindezeleka kunabesilisa ngenxa yokuthi amantombazane ahlangana nabantu.
Bangase babe nokungavumelani okuningi nabangani futhi kungase kube nobutha phakathi kontanga yabo.
Bangase bakhuthazwe ukuba bakhulume nabangane babo ngezinkinga zabo ngaphezulu. Kodwa kunokuba bathole izixazululo, izingxoxo zabo eziqhubekayo ngezinkinga zabo zingabangela ukuba bagxile ezintweni ezimbi ekuphileni.
Indlela Yokukhuluma Nendodakazi Yakho
Nakuba kubalulekile ukwazi izibonakaliso zokucindezeleka kunoma imuphi umfana, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ubuke indodakazi yakho. Kubalulekile futhi ukukhuluma nendodakazi yakho mayelana nokucindezeleka.
Amantombazane asebancane angase angaqapheli ukuthi acindezelekile. Esikhundleni salokho, bangase babe nezibonakaliso zomzimba, ezifana nezitshalo zomzimba noma ikhanda. Noma angase abike ukuthi uzizwe ekhathele ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi ungabona ukukhubeka okukhulu.
Ungase futhi angazi ukuthi angakutshela kanjani ukuthi unzima kanzima. Kodwa uma uqala izingxoxo ngokucindezeleka kuqala, angase azizwe ephoqelekile ukuba akhulume.
Nazi izindlela ezimbalwa ongayenza ingxoxo mayelana nempilo yengqondo yengane yakho :
- Buza mayelana nomzwelo wakhe. Veza indaba yengane yakho yengane ngezinye izikhathi. Vele uqinisekise ukuthi uyakwenza ngendlela enomusa nangothando. Esikhundleni sokuthi, "Ungumuntu okhululekile kangaka," buza, "Ingabe wenza kahle?" Yenza kucace ukuthi angakhuluma nawe mayelana nokudabuka noma ukuthukuthela noma ngabe yikuphi ukuzwa okungenzeka ukuthi uhlangabezana nakho.
- Mtshele ukuthi uzimisele ukumthatha ukubona umelaphi. Iningi lentsha alikhululekile ukucela abazali babo ukuba bakhulume nomsebenzi wezempilo yengqondo-futhi abaningi babo abangeke babone ukuthi kuyadingeka noma ngisho nokukhetha. Yiba nesifiso sokukukhuphula kuqala futhi umtshele ukuthi uzimisele ukwenza i-aphoyintimenti uma eke acabange lokho okungasiza.
- Mkhuthaze ukuba akhulume nodokotela wakhe. Ngesikhathi sokuhlola ukunikeza ingane yakho isikhathi sokukhuluma nodokotela yedwa. Mkhuthaze ukuba akhulume nganoma yimiphi imibuzo engokomzimba noma ehlobene nempilo noma okukhathazayo okungenzeka abe nayo.
- Khombisa izikhathi lapho uzinzima khona. Uma uke wanqoba ukucindezeleka noma ezinye izinkinga zempilo yengqondo, vula ngakho ngezingane zakho. Vele uqiniseke ukuthi awuqhathanisi ukuphila kwakho nezinkinga zentsha yakho. Ukusho into ethi, "Oh ucabanga ukuthi unakho okubi? Lalela lokho okwenzekile kimi, "kuzokwenza kuphela ukuhlukunyezwa kwengxabano yengane yakho.
- Xoxa ukuthi ucabanga ukuthi yiyiphi inontanga yakhe ecindezelekile. Buza umntanakho uma ecabanga ezinye izingane esikoleni noma omunye wabangane bakhe banenkinga yokucindezeleka. Angase abe nokuzimisela ukuvula mayelana nezindaba lapho ekhuluma ngabanye abantu, kunokuba yena ngokwakhe.
- Letha izindaba zezindaba zempilo yengqondo. Khuluma ngezindaba ozibonayo ezindabeni ezingase zibe mayelana ne-cyberbullying, ukucindezeleka, noma ukuzibulala. Buza ukuthi ingane yakho icabangani ngalezo zindaba futhi uxoxe ukuthi lezo zinkinga zingabhekiswa kanjani ngendlela enempilo.
- Mbuze ukuthi uzokwenzenjani uma ecindezelekile. Qinisekisa ukuthi ingane yakho inesimweni endaweni engakwenza uma ezwa ecindezelekile. Xoxa ukuthi ubani ongakhuluma naye nokuthi ungaphila usizo.
Funa usizo kumntanakho
Uma ucabanga ukuthi ingane yakho icindezelwe, khuluma naye ngakho. Hlela i-aphoyintimenti nodokotela wakhe ukuze ukhulume ngokukhathazeka kwakho futhi. Udokotela wakhe angamdlulisela kumchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo ukuze aqhubeke nokuhlolwa nokuphathwa.
Ukucindezeleka kungaba nokwelashwa kakhulu kuntsha. Ukukhuluma ngemithi, imithi noma ukuhlanganiswa kokubili kungasiza ingane yakho iqale ukuzizwa ingcono maduzane.
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