I-coaster emotion roller ehambisana nentsha ingase ihambe ngendlela engafanele. Kubazali, ukusabela kwakho kwengane yakho ngaphezulu kungase kubonakale kuphumele ngaphandle kwenani.
Futhi-ke, abanye abasha babonakala bewuthanda idrama. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi basakaze inhlebo noma baqale inkathazo emithonjeni yezenhlalo, bayakhula ngenjabulo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane yakho inomshado ocansini on-back-again noma unenkinga ngenxa yengxoxo yakamuva yezindaba zenhlalo, inkinga yansuku zonke yendlela ethile ingase ibonakale ingenakugwenywa.
Abazali, ukuxokozeleka okuqhubekayo kungadabukisa. Kodwa, qiniseka ukuthi lesi sigaba kufanele sidlule.
Ingqikithi yemidlalo yasencane ihlobene ne-biology. Ukuthuthukiswa kobuchopho nokushintsha kwe-hormonal kuholele ekuguqukeni kwemizwelo evame ukusabela ekuphenduleni kwentombazane yakho.
Ngezinye izikhathi, isifiso sentsha sokushintsha yonke inkinga encane ibe yinkinga enkulu yomphakathi ingase isuke isifiso sokuthola ukunakwa. Lapho ingane isencane ifunda izindlela ezinempilo zokuthola ukunakwa, idrama ngokuvamile iyanqamuka.
Futhi ngezikhathi ezithile, ukusabela okuphawulekayo kubangelwa ukuthi intsha ihlole izindlela ezehlukene zokuveza imizwelo yabo. Lapho bekhululekile ngokwengeziwe esikhumbeni sabo, izethulo ezimangalisayo zivame ukwehla.
Indlela ophendula ngayo iphrezentheshini eliyinkimbinkimbi yentsha ingabe yengeze umlilo noma ithele ingane yakho ukuba ithule. Lezi zindlela zingakusiza ukulungisa idrama yasencane ngokuphumelelayo:
1. Sebenzisa Ukulalela Ukuzindla
Gwema ukugxuma ekuxazululeni inkinga ngokushesha. Ukunikeza izeluleko ezingaceliwe cishe kungenza isimo sibe sibi nakakhulu.
Sebenzisa ukulalela okubukekayo ukukhombisa ukuthi uzama ukuqonda amaqiniso ngesimo. Yisho into enjengokuthi, "Ngakho-ke engikuzwayo ukuthi uthisha wakho uhluleka amaphepha akho ngenxa yokuthi akakuthandi?"
2. Qinisekisa imizwa yengane yakho
Ngisho noma ungacabangi ukuthi inkinga yakho yenkinga yakamuva ibangela inhlekelele, gwema ukumtshela ukuthi uyaphatha kabi.
Esikhundleni salokho, vumela imizwa yengane yakho ngokusho into ethi, "Ngiyabona ukuthi uthukuthele kakhulu ngalokho okwenzekile emini namhlanje."
Siza ingane yakho ibhale imizwa yakhe bese ithi into eqinisekisa ukuthi kulungile ukuzwa ngaleyo ndlela. Intombazane ezwa ukuthi iyayiqonda ingase iqale ukuthola izindlela zokubhekana nayo.
3. Hlalani Nenhlanhla
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane yakho ishaywa ngokuphelele ngenxa yamahemuhemu amasha, noma iphikelela impilo yakhe ibhidliwe ngoba usho ukuthi akakwazi ukuphuma ngoLwesihlanu ebusuku, kubalulekile ukuhlala uzolile. Ukufanisa izinga lengane yakho yengane ngokukhala noma ukuveza ukukhungatheka kuzokwenza isimo sibe sibi nakakhulu.
Gwema ukuhlanganyela engxoxweni evuthayo. Uma ingane yakho ikhala noma iziphatha ngokungahloniphi , mtshele ukuthi uyajabula ukukhuluma ngakho lapho engakwenza ngendlela efanele. Hamba ngaphandle, thatha umoya ojulile, noma uvumele ukubuyela emuva kwengxoxo kamuva.
4. Fundisa Amakhono Okulawula Umzwelo
Chaza ukuthi kuhle ukuzwa uthukuthele, ukhathazekile, futhi udabukile, kodwa kwenze kube sobala ukuthi imizwa ejulile ayifuni ukuziphatha okubi. Fundisa ingane yakho ukuba ilawulwe imizwelo yakhe ukuze imizwa yakhe ingamlawuli. Sebenzisa isikhathi sokufundisa amakhono okulawula intukuthelo kanye namakhono omthetho wokuzivocavoca ukuze athole izindlela ezinempilo zokubhekana nemizwa yakhe.
5. Khuthaza ukuxazulula izinkinga
Fundisa amakhono wokuxazulula izinkinga ngokucubungula izixazululo ndawonye. Isibonelo, uma eqiniseka ukuthi akasoze adlula esikoleni esiphakeme ngenxa yokuthi wehlulekile ukuhlolwa, xoxani ngalokho angakwenza ukuze akhulise amathuba ukuthi uzokwazi ukudlula. Khuluma ngokukhetha kwakhe nezinyathelo angathatha.
6. Thuthukisa Amakhono Asemntanakho
Intombazane engaqiniseki ukuthi angayenza kanjani ingxoxo ingase igxilise emdlalweni njengendlela yokuthola ukunakwa. Ngokufanayo, intsha engazi ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nesizungu ingadala idrama ukuze ithole ukunakwa. Qaphela ukwehluleka kwamakhono akho kwentsha futhi uzimisele ukufundisa amakhono amasha wokuxhumana, amakhono wokuxazulula izingxabano, namakhono okuphatha intukuthelo.
Njengoba ukuzethemba kwakho kwentsha kuyakhula, isifiso sakhe sokubanjwa kule drama cishe sinciphisa. Bamba iqhaza emisebenzini eminingi ehlukene. Intombazane ematasa izoba nesikhathi esincane sokudala idrama.
Buka Kufakiwe 7 Foster Gratitude
Ukuphendula okuphawulekayo kuvame ukuvela ekungabi nabulungisa-kwangempela noma okucatshangelwe. Ukwenza umbono wokubonga kuzokusiza ingane yakho igxilise kulokho anakho, kunokuba ifune ukuthi ibaluleke kakhulu. Fundisa ingane yakho ukuba ibone zonke izinto ezinhle ezenzeka empilweni yakhe futhi cishe uzonciphisa umdlalo ngokushesha.
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