Cishe wonke umzali uye wabhekana nezikhathi ezimbalwa ezifanelekayo lapho isimo sengqondo sengane esingathokozi sibonakala khona. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane yakho ithi, "Ingabe yilokho engikutholayo usuku lwami lokuzalwa?" Ngemva kokuvula ibutho lezipho, noma uzwa, " Angikaze ngenze noma yini ejabulisayo" njengoba usuke ushayela ekhaya kusukela ngosuku olugcwala umkhosi epaki, awuyedwa.
Yize kuvamile ukuba zonke izingane zibe nezikhathi lapho kubonakala khona umqondo wabo wokufaneleka, ufuna ukuqinisekisa ukuthi isimo sengqondo sokungathokozi kwengane yakho asihlali unomphela.
Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi, uma ingane yakho iziphatha ngokungathokozi ngaphezu kwalokho ongathanda, lezi zindlela zokuqeqesha ezingasiza ingane yakho ukuba ibonge kakhulu:
Ngenomusa Kodwa Qinisekisa Isimo Sengqondo Esingaxolisi
Uma uzwa ingane yakho isho noma yenza okuthile okubonisa isimo sengqondo esingenasibindi, sikhombise. Gwema ukusho into enjengokuthi, "Yeka ukuba yi-brat." Esikhundleni salokho, cacisa ngaphandle kokuthuka.
Yisho okuthile okufana nokuthi, "Ukukhalazela ngokuthi ungatholi izipho eziningi akungabongi. Abangani bakho nomndeni wakho babenomusa ngokwanele ukukuthenga isipho uma kungadingeki bakuthenge noma yini. "
Qondanisa ngokuqhubekayo izigameko ezibonisa isimo sengqondo sokungabongi ukusiza ingane yakho ukuba ifunde ukuziphatha kungabongi.
Fundisa Uzwela
Izingane zidinga usizo ukuqonda ukuthi ukuziphatha kwabo kuthinta kanjani abanye abantu. Ungakwenza lokho ngokufundisa ngenkuthalo ukuzwelana.
Khuluma nengane yakho ngokuthi amagama akhe noma ukuziphatha kwakhe kukuthinta kanjani.
Yisho izinto ezinjengalezi, "Uma usho ukuthi awusoze wenza noma yini ejabulisayo, kuyabuhlungu imizwa yami. Ngizama ukuqinisekisa ukuthi senza izinto eziningi ezimnandi ndawonye, njengokuya epaki noma ukudlala imidlalo."
Uma ufunda izincwadi noma ubuka i-TV ndawonye, hlala bese umbuza ukuthi abalingiswa abathile bangase bazizwe kanjani. Buza imibuzo enjengokuthi, "Uma lo mfana ethi lezo zisho izinto, ucabanga ukuthi umfowabo wazizwa kanjani?" Siza ingane yakho ukuthi ibone futhi ifake ilebula ukuzwa amagama.
Vumela kuphela amalungelo okuthola lapho ezuzwa
Ukuthungula ingane yakho ngezinto ezingapheliyo nezinto ezingenakubalwa zingamlimaza. Izingane azikwazi ukubonga ngalokho abanakho ngaphandle kokuthi zinikezwe ithuba lokuthola amalungelo abo. Xhumanisa amalungelo, njengesikrini sesikrini nosuku lokudlala, ukuziphatha okuhle.
Ungalokothi udibanise isifumbathiso nomvuzo. Ukubamba ingane yakho kuyothuthukisa isimo sengqondo esingenasibindi. Ukuthi, "Nansi ibhaluni, manje mhle," isifumbathiso. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umvuzo ukhuluma ngokuthi, "Ubumnandi ngempela. Wathola ibhaluni."
Kodwa-ke, uhlelo lokuvuza luzomsiza ukuba azizwe kahle ngokufezekisa kwakhe futhi uzokwazisa amalungelo akhe uma ewutholile ngempela.
Thatha izinyathelo zokubonga ukubonga
Kunezinyathelo eziningi ongazithatha ukuze ukhulise ukubonga kwabantwana. Enye yezinyathelo ezibaluleke kakhulu ongayithatha kungukuthi imodeli isimo sengqondo sokubonga.
Khuluma njalo ngazo zonke izinto okufanele uzibonge ngosuku ngalunye. Bonisa ukubonga ngezinto ezingathathwa kalula, njengokubona umbono omuhle kakhulu noma umoya ohlanzekile ukuphefumula.
Qala imikhuba yomndeni ekhuthaza ukubonga. Yakha imbiza yokubonga lapho wonke umuntu ebhala into eyodwa abonga ngayo nsuku zonke.
Khona-ke, ngosuku oluthile, njengoNyaka Omusha, funda kuzo zonke izitifiketi zephepha.
Noma, yenza umkhuba ukukhuluma ngokubonga usuku ngalunye ngesikhathi sokulala noma eduze kwetafula lesidlo. Buza wonke umuntu, "Yayiyini ingxenye engcono kakhulu yosuku lwakho namhlanje?" Bese-ke, xoxani ukuthi kungani ubonga ngezinto ezinhle osukwini lwakho.
Gxila ekusizeni abanye
Yenza abanye basize umkhuba ojwayelekile. Thatha ingane yakho lapho usiza umakhelwane osekhulile noma umnike ithuba lokukusiza ukuba wenze isidlo somuntu odinga usizo.
Yenza ingane yakho iqhaza emsebenzini wokusiza . Mfundise ukuthi akakaze omncane kakhulu ukusiza abanye abantu.
Ukusiza abanye abanesidingo kuzokwehlisa isimo sengqondo somntwana wakho. Kuzosiza futhi ukuzwelana, okunciphisa amathuba okuthi ingane yakho ingabe ingabongi.
Khuluma ngokuba nomusa kaningi. Yenza umkhuba wansuku zonke ukubuza, "Yini into enomusa oyenzile kumuntu namuhla?" noma, "Usize kanjani ukwenza umhlaba ube ngcono namhlanje?" Uma ingane yakho yenza izenzo zomusa, cishe uzogxila kulokho angakunika, kunokuba ucabange ukuthi kufanelekile.