Okufanele Ukwenze Lapho Intsha Yakho Ifunga Kuwe

Ukuzwa ingane yakho isifungo noma isebenzise ulimi olungcolile kuwe kungaba yingozi. Ungase ugcwale intukuthelo noma ungase umangale kakhulu awukwazi ngisho nokuthi ungaphendula kanjani.

Kodwa, kubalulekile ukuthi uphendule ngendlela ezovimbela ingane yakho ukuthi ingabe isenza futhi. Ngokusobala, awufuni ukuthi ingane yakho ikhulume nomqashi ozayo, umlingani othandana naye, noma umngane onesimo esifanayo sokungahloniphi.

Indlela Yokuphendula Ngendlela Ekhiqizayo

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane yakho ikhuphukela kuwe ngoba uthe ngeke ukwazi ukuphuma nabangane bayo noma uthukuthele ngoba umtshele ukuthi ahlanze ikamelo lakhe, ngokucacile ukuziphatha kwakhe akumukeleki. Nakhu ukuthi ungaphendula kanjani ngamazwi afunga futhi ulimi olungcolile luqondiswe kuwe ngendlela ephumelelayo:

1. Hlala uzolile. Kungaba nzima ukuzwa lelozinga lokungahloniphi. Kodwa ukuphakamisa izwi lakho noma ukusho izinto ezingenandaba kuzokwenza izinto zibe zimbi nakakhulu. Ngakho thatha umoya ojulile futhi ungasho lutho kuze kube yilapho uzolile ngokwanele ukwenza amagama akho avele.
2. Thatha ikhefu uma udinga. Uma ulahlekelwa yikho okufanele ukwenze, thatha ikhefu ukucabanga ngakho. Ungase uthi, "Ngizohamba ngizolahla futhi uma ngibuya, ngizokwazisa ukuthi imiphumela yakho izoba yini."
3. Qinisekisa imithetho. Unganikeli ingane yakho ngoba uzizwa unecala noma ngoba uyazi ukuthi uphazamisekile. Uma usho ukuthi cha noma umtshele ukwenza into ayifunayo, kubalulekile ukuliphoqa manje. Uma kungenjalo, uzomfundisa ukuthi ukusebenzisa ulimi olungcolile nokufungela abantu kuyindlela enhle yokuthola noma yini ayifunayo.

1. Nikeza imiphumela. Kubalulekile ukunikeza ingane yakho imiphumela ecacile yokuziphatha okungalungile. Thatha amalungelo , njengokuvakashela nabangani noma ukubukela i-TV, izinsuku ezimbalwa. Noma, ungase unikeze imisebenzi eyengeziwe, njengokuhlanza igaraji noma ukuguqula utshani.
2. Khuthaza impumelelo yesikhathi esizayo. Yenza kucace uma amalungelo akho entsha azobuyiselwa. Isibonelo, tshela, "Ungaphinde uhambe nabangani bakho kusukela ngoLwesithathu uma nje uziphatha ngokuhlonipha phakathi kwesikhashana," noma "Ungabukela i-TV futhi ngemuva kokuba usuqedile lolu hlu lwabasebenzi." Gwema ukunikeza isikhathi esingaqondakali sokuthi, "Ungabuyisa amalungelo akho uma nginethemba," ngoba lokho kungaholela ekudidekeni okwengeziwe.

Izindlela Zokuthuthukisa Ukuziphatha Okuhloniphekile Esikhathini Eside

Uma ingane yakho isetshenziselwa ukuhlambalaza, kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi unomsebenzi owenzayo emnyangweni wokuhlonipha. Ngakho-ke lapho kubalulekile ukuthatha isinyathelo ngokushesha ukuze ingane yakho iqonde ukuthi ukuziphatha kwayo kwakungalungile, kubalulekile futhi ukusebenza emasu okunciphisa amathuba okuthi azokwenzeka futhi esikhathini esizayo.

1. Qinisekisa ukuthi wena nomlingani wakho kukhona ekhasini elifanayo. Uma unomlingani, qiniseka ukuthi ubeletha ndawonye njengeqembu ukubhekana nokungahloniphi. Uma ungavumelani, ungakwenzi phambi kwengane yakho. Futhi ungalokothi ukhulume ngokuphazamisayo ngomunye nomunye phambi kwengane yakho. Ukusho izinto ezinjengalezi, "Uyihlo ukhululekile kakhulu," noma "Uyazi ukuthi umama wakho uthola kanjani ngezinye izikhathi. Uyenza imithetho yezinyathelo ngaphandle kwesizathu sangempela," izokwehlisa inhlonipho ingane yakho inayo kuwe noma umlingani wakho.
2. Yiba isibonelo esihle. Lawula intukuthelo yakho ngezindlela ezinempilo. Phatha abanye ngenhlonipho futhi. Uma uthanda abasebenzi basevisi noma uqala ukulwa nomlingani wakho futhi uthi izinto ezingamhloniphi, ingane yakho izothatha imikhuba yakho ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi uyisibonelo esihle kumntanakho .
3. Fundisa amakhono akho wokuphatha intukuthelo yentsha. Qinisekisa ukuthi ingane yakho inamasu okubhekana nokuphikisana okunempilo ukubhekana nemizwa evuthayo. Fundisa amakhono okuphatha intukuthelo , njengokuhamba, ukuthatha ukuphefumula okujulile, noma ukubhala encwadini.

1. Qaphela imisebenzi yakho yezindaba yengane . Ingane yakho ingase ilandele ukuziphatha okungenandaba nabezindaba. Ungase uthande ukunciphisa ukuchayeka kufanele abe nemiboniso enobudlova noma imidlalo yevidiyo lapho abantu bephatha khona kabi.

Imithombo

Chavez D, Steffey CL. Ukuxazulula Izingxabano Phakathi Ne-Adolescence. Izingane ezibuyiselwe ekubuyekezweni . 2012; 33 (3): 142-143.

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