Njengoba izingane zikhula kancane kancane zibe yintsha, ukuthuthukiswa kwabo ngokomzwelo kuyoba lula njengokuthuthuka kwabo ngokomzimba. Ukubuka ukuthuthukiswa komzwelo kwengane yakho kwande futhi kukhule kuyathandeka futhi kuyinselele ngesikhathi esifanayo. Ngezansi kukhona izinguquko ezimbalwa ongalindela ukuzobona kusuka phakathi kwakho njengoba efika eminyakeni eyishumi neminyaka nangama-meanders ngokusebenzisa ubusuku.
Ukuthuthukiswa komzwelo nokuchaza
Izindaba ezinhle zifana nezingane ezisondela eminyakeni eyishumi nambili, zihlakulela ukuqonda kangcono imizwa yazo, futhi zingakuveza kangcono imizwa yazo kuwe. Lapho umntwana wakho esemncane, kungenzeka ukuthi uthukuthele, kepha akazange akwazi ukuveza ukuthi kungani. Njengengaphakathi, kufanele akwazi ukuveza ukuthi kungani ezwa imizwa ethize (enhle noma engalungile) futhi okugcina ungacabangi ukuthi unjani imizwa yakhe noma ukuthi kungani ejabule noma ejabule kakhulu.
Ithiphu Yokuzali: Uma usebenzisa ama-tweens athukuthele , qiniseka ukuthi usetha imingcele yokuthi avunyelwe kanjani ukuveza imizwa yabo. Ukuthukuthela okudlova, ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba, nokuziphatha okungahloniphi akufanele kubekezelelwe. Kubalulekile ukufundisa phakathi kwakho manje ukuthi ungaphatha kanjani kahle imizwelo yakhe. Ukwenza kanjalo kuzokwenza kube lula kakhulu kuwe eminyakeni eyishumi nambili.
Ama-Tweens nama-Moods
Uma kunenkinga ekupheleni kweminyaka edlule kumele kube ukuziphatha okuhamba phambili.
Ukuthuthukiswa ngokomzwelo kanye neminyaka ephakathi akulula kubabili noma ngabazali. Njengoba ingane yakho ibhekene nokucindezela okwandayo esikoleni, emphakathini, futhi ubhekene nokudideka nokukhathazeka ngokukhulelwa , ungalindela ukuguquka kwenhliziyo. Kumantombazane, ukuguquka kwemizwelo kungase kubangelwe izinguquko ze-hormone ngaphambi noma ngesikhathi sokuya esikhathini, ukwenqatshelwa kontanga, nokucindezeleka okwandayo esikoleni.
Abafana nabo bakhathazeka ngenxa yesikole, ubungane, amantombazane kanye nokukhulelwa.
Ukuguquka kwemizwelo kungabonakala ngokushesha futhi kungalindelekile, kodwa ngokuvamile kuphila isikhathi esifushane.
Ithiphu Yokuzali : I- Moody tweens ivame ukudinga isikhathi esisodwa ukuze ithole futhi ibeke izinto ngendlela efanele. Uma uhlangothi lwenu lunezinkinga zemizwelo , msize afune izindlela zokubhekana nemizwelo yakhe ngokuqinisekile. Wayengalalela umculo, afunde incwadi, noma asebenzise isikhathi edlala imidlalo yevidiyo.
Amantombazane amantombazane angase abe yi-Self-Conscious
Ingxenye enkulu yokuthuthukiswa ngokomzwelo ukuziqaphela. Njengoba i-tween yakho ikwazi ngokwengeziwe ngokwakho kanye nezwe elikuzungezile lingase liziqaphele ngokubukeka kwayo, izingubo zakhe, kanye nakho konke okunye. Phakathi neminyaka eminyaka amantombazane ajwayele ukuziqhathanisa neontanga, futhi ngemifanekiso, abona kumamagazini, kuthelevishini nakuma-movie. Ngeshwa, amantombazane amaningi akholelwa ukuthi ayinalo abanamakhono, amahle, ahlakaniphile, noma abathandekayo njengamanye amantombazane.
Ithiphu Yokubeletha: Phakathi neminyaka edlule amantombazane adinga ukuqinisekiswa okuncane ukuthi akukho lutho olungalungile kubo nokuthi bahlakulela indlela abahlosiwe ngayo. Nika uthando lwakho nokusekela futhi ubuze ukuthi ungabasiza kanjani ukuba babhekane nezinkinga abangase bazikhandle nazo.
Futhi, qaphela izimpawu zokuphazamiseka kokudla, kanye nezimpawu zokucindezeleka.
Ukuthuthukiswa komzwelo nokubonisana
Njengoba ingane yakho ikhula yona ingabonisa izimpawu zokucabanga okuyinkimbinkimbi, enye into ebaluleke kakhulu ekuthuthukiseni ngokomzwelo kwengane yakho. Njengoba ingane yakho icabanga ngokwengeziwe njengomuntu omdala, yenza ukuxhumana naye kube lula, futhi kunzima kakhulu.
Uma ingane yakho iqonda ukuthi kulula kangakanani ukwenza iphuzu lakho futhi ngethemba, yifinyelele kuye. Kodwa-ke, abantu abangu-13 badume ngokuzama ukuxoxisana nabazali babo, noma ukuthola ukungahambisani nokucabanga kwabazali babo ukuthi bangasebenzisa ngokumelene nabo.
Lindela phakathi kwakho ukuze uphikise wena kanye nezinqumo zakho ngezikhathi ezithile.
Ithiphu Yokuzali: Kubalulekile ukuthi uphathe imizwelo yakho lapho i-kati yakho ishaya izinkinobho zakho. Qinisekisa ukuthi uthatha isikhathi sokuphuma uma ucabanga ukuthi ungase ulahlekelwe.
Futhi, kulungile ukuzinika isikhathi sokucabanga ngendlela ofuna ukuphendula ngayo phakathi kwakho lapho ephikisana negunya lakho noma wabeka ohlangothini lwendaba ongazange uyicabange. Ungase uthi, "Kusobala ukuthi lokhu kuyindaba eyinkimbinkimbi. Ngidinga isikhathi sokucabanga ngalokhu futhi uma ngikwenza, sizoxoxa ngakho futhi."
Intuthuko Yomzwelo Nemicabango Yothando
Ama-Twee angase aqale ukubonisa isithakazelo sothando kwabanye njengabantu abancane abaneminyaka yobudala engu-9. Ngokuvamile, abayishumi nambili abakhulile ngokwanele ukuphatha ukuthandana , kodwa bangase baxoxe ngokuthandana, abafuna ukuzobambisana nabo, futhi bakhulume nabo ekilasini asebevele bephola.
Ithiphu Yokuzali: Awufuni ukuvimbela uhlangothi lwakho kuze kube yimanje, njengoba lokho kuzokhuthaza kuphela ingane yakho ukuba ivukele kuwe. Vumela uhlangothi lwakho ukuxuba namalungu obulili obuhlukile ngamaqembu (uma nje eseduze). Kuhle ukuvumela uhlangothi lwakho ukuba ucabange ngokuphola, kodwa ungakhuthazi ukuthandana kuze kube yilapho ingane yakho isilungele ngempela isipiliyoni.