Ungavumeli isimo sengqondo sakho se-tween sikwenze phansi
Uma ingane yakho ihlasela ukuthomba noma ingena esikoleni esiphakathi kweminyaka, kungenzeka ukuthi uzobona ushintsho ebuntwini bakhe noma esimweni sakhe sengqondo. Izinkinga zesimo sengqondo zivame kakhulu neqembu lobudala eliphakathi. Ngisho kanye nezingane ezinothando nezokulula zingaba ngabahlukumezi kubazali nabafundisi babo. Uma isimo sengqondo somntanakho sishintshe kakhulu, ungase uqiniseke ngamakhono akho wokubeletha noma ukhathazeke ngokuziphatha kwengane yakho.
Ngaphambi kokuba ucindezeleke kakhulu, cabangela ulwazi olungezansi ukuthi ungaphatha kanjani izinkinga zesimo sakho sengqondo.
Ukubhekana Nezinkinga Zokubhekana Nezimo Zengqondo
- Izinkinga Zengqondo Zivamile: Okokuqala, kungokwemvelo ukuhlola imingcele ngesikhathi esisodwa, futhi enye yezindlela abazenzayo ukubhekana nesimo sengqondo nomama noma ubaba. Ingane yakho ingase ikhulume , ihlakulele noma ingakuhloniphi, oshade naye noma omunye umuntu omdala. Lezi zimo azikho ngokwazo zisho ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle phakathi kwakho. Ngokuphambene nalokho. Bakhombisa ukuthi ingane yakho ikhula futhi izama ukusungula ukuzimela okuncane. Ngamanye amazwi, ingane yakho iqondiswa ekufikeni kwentsha futhi uhamba ngokuhamba nge-bumpy. Nakuba izinkinga zengqondo zivamile, lokho akusho ukuthi kuyamnandi noma kulula ukubhekana nayo, kodwa njengomzali, kufanele. Ukusiza ingane yakho ivuselele amandla ayo kuzobasiza bafunde amakhono okubhekana nokubhekana nokusebenza, futhi kungasiza ukuthi phakathi kwakho kube nombono omuhle kakhulu.
- Ungakwazi Ukubeka Imingcele: Nakuba izinkinga zengqondo zivamile phakathi neminyaka ephakathi, lokho akusho ukuthi awunayo indlela yokuziphatha okubi. Wenza kanjalo, njengoba nje uhlale unenketho lapho umntwana wakho engalungile. Isihluthulelo kulesi sikhathi ukusiza ingane yakho ukuthola izindlela zokuphatha imizwa yakhe kanye nokudumazeka nokukwazi njengomzali lapho kudingeka ungene futhi ulawule ukuziphatha okubi. Yiqiniso, lokho akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukukwenza. Abazali abaningi banquma ukungazinaki izimo ezingathandeki ezinjengokuqhafa kwamehlo, ukububula noma izinselele ezincane eziphathweni zabo, njengokungathi lapho abantu behamba izingubo ezingcolile egumbini labo lokulala ngemva kokuba sebexelelwe ukuthi bayothatha. Kodwa izingane ezingenangqondo kwabanye, ezingabonisi abazali bazo, kusho ukuthi izingane zakini noma abangane bafuna isiqondiso somzali. Okufanayo kuya kubantwana abangalaleli imithetho yomndeni. Khuluma ngqo nengane yakho ngalokho ongakubekezeli, futhi kucace ngemiphumela uma ingane yakho iphula leyo mithetho. Okubaluleke kakhulu, uma ingane yakho iphula imithetho yakho , landela ngesiyalo sakho ngakho uyazi ngesikhathi esizayo ukuthi usho ukuthini ngempela lokho okushoyo.
- Siza Uhlangothi Lwakho Ulawule Imizwa Yakhe: Uma ku-13 ukuziphatha kabi kubiza kaningi ngoba bayathukuthele futhi abazi ukuthi bangabhekana kanjani nemizwelo yabo. Uma ingane yakho iphoqa isimo sengqondo ngokuhambahamba lapho ukhuluma naye, ikukulahla, noma ikuhlabelela, impendulo yakho yokuqala ingaba intukuthelo. Melana nokulahlekelwa ukufutheka kwakho ukuze ukwazi ukusiza ingane yakho ukuphatha imizwelo emibi. Khombisa ukuthi ngenkathi uqonda ukuthi ingane yakho icasukile, intukuthelo noma idumazekile, ukuthi kunezindlela ezifanele zokubhekana nalezi zindlela kanye nezindlela ezingafanele. Vumela i-kati yakho yazi ukuthi uzimisele ukuxoxa ngalolu daba lapho ehlisa phansi futhi angakwazi ukuxoxa ngesimo ngaphandle kwegama elibizayo, ukugcoba iso, noma ukuziphatha okubi. Isibonelo, ungase uthi, "Ngisho nalapho uthukuthele, igama lokubiza noma ulimi olubi akuvumelekile. Uma uziphatha ngaleyo ndlela uzoqondiswa noma ulahlekelwe amalungelo."
- Isibonelo Sokuziphatha Okuhle : Enye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokufundisa ukuziphatha okuhle phakathi kwakho ukuzifanisa wena. Ngokubeka isibonelo esihle kunazo zonke ongayenza, ubonisa ingane yakho ukuthi ngisho noma izikhathi zikhuni noma uma imizwelo iphezulu, kungenzeka ukuthi ungavumelani nabanye futhi ubonise inhlonipho. Ukushintsha ukuziphatha kwakho kungase kube nzima, kodwa kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokulingisa ukuziphatha ofuna ukubona kumntanakho.
- Lapho Ukuziphatha Kuyingozi: Kukhona izikhathi lapho ngisho nomzali ongcono kakhulu adinga usizo oluthile ochwepheshe. Uma ukuziphatha komntwana wakho kukhula noma uma ingane yakho iba nobudlova noma ingozi kuye noma kwabanye, kungase kube yisikhathi sokuxhumana nomeluleki wesiqondiso esikoleni noma ngisho nodokotela wezingane wengane yakho ukuthola iseluleko. Ukufinyelela kwabanye akubonakali kabi kuwe. Kunalokho kufakazela ukuthi uzimisele ukusiza ingane yakho ukuthola izixazululo ezidingekayo ukunqoba nanoma yiziphi izinselelo engase zibhekane nazo.