Ukuhlala ngephakathi kungacaciswa ngokunembile ngamazwi e-Forrest Gump, "Awukwazi ukuthi yini oyothola." Yeka ukuthi kuyiqiniso kangakanani. Ukubikezela ukuthi imizwa yakho ye- tween ayinakwenzeka, kodwa into eyodwa ngokuqinisekile: i-kati phakathi kakhulu izobonisa intukuthelo ngezikhathi ezithile. Imoya ye-kati ingenza ukuphila komzali kube nzima kakhulu. Uma ucabangela zonke izinguquko zomphakathi, ezemvelo nezingokomzwelo ezenzeka phakathi kwakho, akumangalisi.
Kodwa kuyasiza ukwazi ukuthi ingane yakho ivelaphi lapho kufanele uthathe isinqumo ukuthi uzophendula kanjani izingane, intukuthelo nazo zonke ezinye izinkinga eziyinkimbinkimbi phakathi kwakho okuzobonisa.
Izimbangela Zokufutheka Okuphakathi
Ngokombono wezenhlalakahle, ama-tweens asebenzelana kakhulu kakhulu . Phakathi kweminyaka engama-9 no-13, i-tween evamile kumele ibhekane nokusebenza okwenyuka ekhaya, ukushintsha ubudlelwane, isikole esiphakathi , nokucindezela kontanga konke ukuphumelela, ukuhlubuka, ukulingana nokuhambisana.
Ngokomzimba, izibalo ezingu-12 ziyashintsha ngesivinini esisheshayo. Imizimba yabo ikhula, ama-hormone abo ashintsha, futhi ubuchopho babo bukhula. Ngeshwa, ama-tween ahlale engalungile ngokomzimba noma ngokomzwelo ukuze abhekane nakho konke okwenzeka kubo. Intukuthelo, izikhathi eziningi, umphumela.
AmaTweens angathukuthela into encane. Ibanga lokuhlola elibi lingase libekwe, njengokungathi ingxabano nomngani, usuku olubi ensimini yebhola, noma isicelo sokuhlanza ikamelo lokulala.
Bangase baze bathukuthele uma belahlekelwa ibhasi esikoleni, noma bakhohlwe ukubhala phansi umsebenzi wabo wesikole lolo suku.
Ukuqhuma ngezikhathi ezithile kuvamile, futhi akukho okumele ukhathazeke ngakho. Khumbula ukuthi uma abangu-13 bathukuthele, bafuna wonke umuntu ukuba azi, ngakho-ke ukushaywa umnyango, ukuthukuthela, nokumemeza kungenzeka.
Uma uhlangothi lwakho luzilimaza yena noma abanye noma lulimaza impahla, kufanele uxhumane nodokotela wezingane zakho. Udokotela wengane yakho angase ancome umqeqeshi oqeqeshiwe ongasiza wena nomntanakho.
Ukuphendula Ukuthukuthela Kwengane Yakho
Ukuze uthole ukuthukuthela okuvamile, ungasiza phakathi kwakho:
- Kuzolile lapho uhlangothi lwakho luzama ukukhuluma nawe. Uma uthukuthela lokho okuyokwenza ukuthi intukuthelo yakhe ibe yimbi kakhulu.
- Gwema ukunikeza iziphakamiso ekuqaleni, vele uvumele inkulumo yakho yangaphakathi, futhi ugcine ukugxeka noma ukwahlulela.
- Uthi, "Ngiyazi ukuthi uthukuthele, ngingabasiza kanjani?" Ungasho ukuthi, "Lokhu akuyona into enkulu. Khohlwa ngakho."
- Qinisekisa ukuthi amakhono akho okulalela afika emsebenzini. Zama ukuphazamisa uhlangothi lwakho njengoba echaza ukuthi kungani ekhathazekile. Buza imibuzo ukudweba ulwazi oluthe xaxa futhi uqiniseke ukuthi ugcina izwi lakho kakhulu, lizolile.
- Khumbula ukuthi phakathi kwakho kungase kungabi nentukuthelo. Ungadumala, umhawu, uhlazeke noma wesabe. Ungase nje angazi ukuthi kufanele ukwenze kanjani ngokuvumelana nesimo esiseduze, ngakho-ke intukuthelo yimbangela. Ukumsiza ukuthi aqonde imizwelo yakhe isinyathelo esihle sokuqala ekufundeni ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nabo.
- Qiniseka ukuthi u-kati wakho uthola ukulala ngokwanele . Ingane encane yokulala izofutheka kaningi, ngoba nje ikhathele futhi ayikwazi ukubhekana nayo.
- Nika iziphakamiso ezingase zisize uhlangothi lwakho luzolile. Uma kubonakala sengathi intukuthelo yakho yangaphakathi ikhula, cabanga ngokuthula ukuthi athathe isikhathi esithile ekamelweni lakhe yedwa ukuze azinze futhi azihlanganise.
- Abanye abayishumi bathola ukuthi ukuloba, ukudweba noma ukuzivivinya kubasiza ukuba babhekane nokucindezeleka , intukuthelo nokudumazeka kokuphila. Futhi, isikhathi esisodwa nabangani singase sisize, njengoba kungenzeka isikhathi esincane sesithelevishini noma isikhathi segeyimu yevidiyo.
- Vumela uhlangothi lwakho ukuba luvule, kodwa hhayi kakhulu. Kuhle ukuphuza umusi, kodwa ufuna nokuqiniseka ukuthi uhlangothi lwakho alukhiphi umlilo futhi luzithukuthelise.
- Buza phakathi kwakho ukuze ucabange ukuthi ungakuvimbela kanjani noma yikuphi okumkhathazayo. Ingabe ikhona indlela yokuthi ayisebenzise kahle isimo noma avimbele ukuthi ingabe isenzeka futhi?
- Gwema ukuqhuma okuncane njengoba kujwayelekile futhi kuyingxenye yokukhula. Umsebenzi wakho ukusiza phakathi kwakho ukuthuthukisa amakhono wokubhekana ukuze akwazi ukuthuthukisa indlela abhekana ngayo nezimo ezimbi nokudumazeka.