Izinto ezibonakalayo zishintsha uhlangothi lwakho luzobhekana nokuqala, ngesikhathi nangemva kokukhulelwa ngokuqinisekile ngeke kube okuphawulekayo, kodwa ezinye zezici ezinzima kakhulu zokukhula zibhekene nazo zonke imizwa emibi ehambisana nokukhulelwa. Ingane yakho izodideka, ikhungatheke futhi inomsindo ngoba ayinaso isipiliyoni sokwazi ukuphatha imizwelo emibi.
Ungasiza isizinda sakho sifunde indlela yokunciphisa ngisho nokuguqula imizwa emibi ekhona phakathi neminyaka ephakathi nonyaka. Ngezansi kunemizwa embalwa evamile ephakathi kwakho okuzobhekana nayo, nemibono yokuthi ungasiza kanjani phakathi kwakho.
Usizi
Wonke ama-middle and adolescent azozizwa edabuka ngezikhathi ezithile. Ukudabuka kungase kwenzeke ngesenzakalo esithile, njengokungqubuzana nomngani , noma uhlangothi lwakho lungase luzizwe phansi ekuphumeni futhi ungazi ukuthi kungani. Uma uhlangothi lwakho lubuhlungu angase angabi nomuzwa wokuthi wenza okuningi kunoma yini futhi angase anqume ukuzigcina ngenkathi izinto zihlelwa.
Nikeza phakathi kwakho igumbi elincane ukuze usebenze izinto ngokwabo. Ngezinye izikhathi isikhathi esincane sodwa siwusizo kakhulu. Ungazihlinzekela ngokwakho njengomuntu ingane yakho engayikhuluma nayo, noma umphakamise ukuthi afune iseluleko somngane omuhle noma umntakwethu. Uma ngabe ingane yakho ingabonakali ukuphuma kumnandi, kungase kudingeke ufune iseluleko someluleki wakhe wezokuqondisa noma udokotela wezingane.
Intukuthelo
Intukuthelo ingenye yemizwelo eyinkimbinkimbi kunayo yonke yokunqoba, kokubili izingane kanye nabantu abadala. Uhlangothi oluthukuthele luyoba namandla amakhulu kangangokuthi angeke alukwazi ukulawula, futhi angase abe nomuzwa wokuthi uzotshabalalisa. Ingaphakathi lakho lingase lizwe intukuthelo uma ethathwa, noma lapho ecabanga ukuthi impilo ayikho kahle.
Ungasiza u-tween wakho ukuba ahambe-ngokukhula ngokubeka imingcele ekuhlukunyezweni. Isibonelo, angavunyelwa ukuthi asebenze ngokuthukuthela ngokuzivocavoca umzimba, kodwa hhayi ngokukhetha noma ukuklolodela kubantwana abancane. Qinisekisa ukuthi u-kati wakho uyazi ukuthi imizwa ivunyelwe, kodwa ukuthi kumele iphathe izimpendulo ezinomsindo. Siza izingane zakho zibonise izimpawu zokuthi zizolahlekelwa yiyo - bese zizisiza ukuba zithuthukise uhlelo lokuqondisa kabusha ukuqhuma.
I-paranoia
Lona kungumkhuhlane. Abantu abayishumi nambili baziqhenya ngokweqile, futhi lokho kungabangela ukuba abantu abaningi bacabange ukuthi kukhona okubi okuyokwenzeka njalo nokuthi akukho muntu, ngisho nabangani abahle, okufanele bathenjwa. Izinguquko zokukhulelwa nokukhulelwa ngokuqinisekile ngeke zidibanise phakathi kwakho ngezikhathi ezithile. I-paranoia yesikhathi esithile akuyona into yokukhathazeka ngayo, futhi ucabangela ukukhuphuka nokukhuphuka kokukhula, kuyaqondakala ukuthi kungani phakathi kwamanye umuntu angase acabange ukuthi wonke umuntu uphumelele ukuzithola.
Yilapho ukubonisana kwakho okuphakathi kwakho kuqhubeka khona, noma uma i-paranoia iphazamisa ubungane ngisho nobudlelwane bomndeni, kungase kube yisikhathi sokubonisana nochwepheshe kwizinkinga zempilo yengqondo yengane. Kungase kube isinyathelo esinzima ukusithatha, kodwa i-interne ehlushwa isikhathi eside se-paranoia ingase ibe nezinye izinkinga eziqhubekayo, ngakho ungasheshi ukuthola usizo.
Ukuthunjwa
Uma ubuka emuva emkhatsini wakho kanye neminyaka engama-adolescents, unemikhumbuzo ecacile kakhulu yokuba namahloni. Njengoba ukuziqhenya kwengane yakho kukhula, kanjalo kungaba khona ukuhlazeka komphakathi noma ukujabha okubonakalayo. Ingaphakathi lakho lingesaba ukuthi oontanga bazohleka usulu izinwele noma izingubo ezintsha, noma bahlekise ngomndeni wakho.
Ungasiza uhlangothi lwakho ukunciphisa le mizwa ngokufundisa amakhono omphakathi, njengokuthi ungakhuluma kanjani neqembu noma phambi kwekilasi, futhi uqaphele ukuthi kufanele unike imvume yakho ukuba uhlazeke. Siza uhlangothi lwakho lufunde ukuhleka ngamahloni amancane, futhi ukuwaxosha uma kungenzeka.
Kulukhuni ukuba abantu ababili baqonde ukuthi ontanga abazikhathazekile njengoba becabanga ukuthi, kodwa ngokuqondisa okuncane okuvela kuwe, phakathi kwakho kuzothola ukuzethemba ngokwanele ukuze izimo ezihlazo zimbalwa futhi ziphakathi.
Qinisekisa ukuthi ama-tweens akho ayazi nokuthi bazolahlekelwa uma bevumela ukuthi izimo ezingase zibe namahloni angamvimbela ukuba enze izinto afuna ukuzenza, njengokuzama ukudlala esikoleni noma ukugijima ehhovisi lesigaba.
Umhawu
Intukuthelo ingabonisa izinselelo eziningana eziyishumi nantathu. Ingaphakathi lakho lingase lizwe ukuncintisana nabangane, umntakwethu, noma ngisho nomuntu abangazi kahle kakhulu. Ukuzihlonipha okuphansi kungenza ukuba phakathi kwakho uzizwe unomona ngabanye, futhi kuphazamise ubudlelwano boontanga. Ukuhawukela kungabangela ingane yakho ukuba iphathe abanye kabi, futhi ithuthukise ukuziphatha okulimazayo okungenzeka kube yingozi.
Ngakho-ke, usiza kanjani u-kati phakathi kwabo obonisa umhawu? Okokuqala, ukuvuma umhawu kuyisinyathelo esihle sokuqala. Uma ingane yakho ihawukela ingane yakini, sebenzisa isikhathi sokubambisana nengane ngayinye ngomunye. Uma ingane yakho inomona ngezingane ezintsha ebhlokheni owenza abangane nomngane wakho omkhulu, qiniseka ukuthi uvumele ingane yakho ukuthi ubungane akufanele kube yodwa nokuthi njalo kukhona indawo yabangani abangaphezulu.
Umhawu ongavamile noma wokugulisa umzimba kuzokwenza ukuthi phakathi kwakho kuhambisane ngendlela elawulwa kakhulu, futhi akufanele kubekezelelwe. Ukwelapha kungadingeka ukusiza ingane engakwazi ukuphatha noma ukulawula umhawu.
Kuthiwani Ngokukhohlisa?
Ukukhohlisa akuyona imzwelo ngempela, kodwa ukuziphatha. Noma kunjalo, awukwazi ukuxoxa ngokugcwele mayelana nemizwelo engafani phakathi kokungenani ngaphandle kokukhuluma amanga . Ingaphakathi lakho lingase lilale ukuze ungangeni enkingeni, ukugwema ukukhuluma nawe ngento ethile, noma ngoba engacabangi ukuthi kuyinto enkulu yokugwema iqiniso.
Zama ukungaqambi amanga, kepha zama ukuqonda ukuthi kungani i-tween yakho i-fibbing ukuze ukwazi ukuthatha isinyathelo esifanele. Uma ingane yakho ilele ngoba ayifuni ukukhuluma ngendaba ethinta inhliziyo, kungcono kakhulu ukugwema ingxoxo kuze kube yilapho isilungele. Uma beqamba amanga ukuze bangangeni enkingeni, udinga phakathi kwakho ukuze uqonde ukuthi iqiniso lihlale liwumzila olula ukuthatha. Ingane yakho izovuleka kuwe uma uwusizo futhi ungenacala.