Izimpawu Zokungalungi
Intsha ingaqamba amanga kubazali bayo ivikele ubumfihlo bayo nenkululeko, ifihle amaphutha kanye nokuphulwa kwemithetho, nokuvikela abanye. Njengomzali, ukuphepha kwengane yakho kungenzeka ukuthi ukukhathazeka kwakho kokuqala. Ufuna ukwazi iqiniso ukuze ukwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga zokuziphatha okungaphephile, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyisisetshenziswa somzimba, ubulili, imisebenzi enobungozi, noma ngisho nobugebengu obuphansi.
Ungazi kanjani uma ingane yakho ilele?
Izindaba ezimbi ukuthi ukucwaninga kubonisa ukuthi iningi lethu linamathuba amahlanu namashumi ayisihlanu (okungcono kakhulu) okuthola lapho umuntu elele engakalungi, futhi kubi nakakhulu uma ingane isenesikhathi sokulungisa amanga abo. Kodwa uma uqaphela ukuziphatha kwengane yakho uma kungenzeka ukuthi ayinamaqiniso, ungase ukwazi ukuthuthukisa lezo zingqinamba.
Wonke umuntu unamanga
Ngisho noma ngabe uye wabeka inani eliphakeme ekutsheleni iqiniso njalo, ukuqamba amanga kuyingxenye yokuziphatha komuntu okuvamile. Vumela ukushaqeka ingane yakho ezokuqamba amanga kuwe futhi wamukele ukuthi kuyokwenzeka. Sebenzisa okukhunjulwayo ngokuziphatha kwakho kwentsha lapho ekutshela amanga ukuthi usebenzise ukwahlulela izitatimende zabo zesikhathi esizayo. Lapho ukuthola amanga kungalimaza izinga lokuthembela onalo nomntanakho, cabanga ngalokho amanga angakufaka khona bese ulinganisa impendulo yakho ngokufanele.
Ukukhohlisa kwenza umuntu acabange kanzima (okuthiwa ukwandisa umthwalo wabo wokuzizwa). Lokhu kungaholela embonisweni ukuthi umuntu ucabanga kanzima kunokuba abeke lapho enikeza isitatimende esiyiqiniso.
Elinye lamaqhinga asetshenziswe ukuphoqelelwa komthetho ukwenza ummangali ucabange ngisho nakakhulu ngenkathi ephendula. Lokhu kuholela ekuziphatheni okuningi lapho ukhuluma amanga.
Izimpawu zamanga
Khumbula ukuthi izimpawu zokuqamba amanga zizohluka kumuntu ngamunye. Udinga ukusebenzisa isipiliyoni sakho nengane yakho ukukuqondisa.
Kodwa qaphela lezi zindawo bese ubona ukuthi izenzo zakho zentsha lapho ukhuluma iqiniso nalapho uqamba amanga.
- Ukumisa okwesikhashana: Lalela ukuyeka ngaphambi kokuba ingane yakho iqale ukunikeza impendulo yombuzo kanye nokuyeka isikhathi eside phakathi nezimpendulo zabo. Amaphutha angokwemvelo ayimpawu ukuthi kumele bacabange kanzima ukunikeza impendulo.
- Ukuxhumana Kwamehlo : Lokhu kuguquguqukile. Amehlo aqhekezayo, ebuka phansi, noma ebuka ngendlela ehlukile angase abe uphawu lokuqamba amanga. Kodwa-ke, abanye abasha bangakwazi ukugcina amehlo lapho beqamba amanga. Enye inkomba ingaba yinguquko ekutheni zivame kangakanani ukukhanya. Bheka uhlobo oluhlukile lokuxhumana kwamehlo uma uqamba amanga uma uqhathaniswa nalapho benza izinkulumo ezingokoqobo noma ingxoxo evamile.
- Umlomo ophuthumayo nowomile : Ukuguqulwa kokuphefumula nokomisa ngamathe kuyisibonakaliso sokucindezeleka ekuqaliseni amanga. Kungase kube nokuguqulwa kwekhwalithi yezwi, okungajulile.
- Ukungabi nalutho : Ngenxa yokuthi ubuchopho buyimatasa ekhuphuka ngamanga, umzimba uvame ukwanda. Ungase ubone ikhefu ekugciniwe okujwayelekile.
- Ukukhomba kanye noLwandle Ukuxubha : Abanye abantu bazosebenzisa izandla ezithintekayo ezifana nokukhomba lapho bekhuluma amanga. Ngenkathi umzimba ungase uqhubeke ukwedlula ukujwayelekile, izinyawo zingase zinikeze izinto ngokuziphendulela ngendlela yokubalekela.
- Ukuthinta Inhlanzi Noma Umlomo : Lezi zibonakaliso ezivamile zokutshela amanga, ukuvikela indawo esengozini kanye nokuvimbela ngokoqobo ukuxhumana.
- Imininingwane : Umfana oqamba amanga angase agweme ukunikeza imininingwane, okungenani uma ebuza kuqala, ngaphandle uma eqhuba impendulo yakhe. Angashintsha le ndaba ekutsheleni kwesibili. Ukucela imininingwane eyengeziwe kuzofaka ingcindezi eyengeziwe kumntanakho futhi kungabangela izibonakaliso eziningi zokuqamba amanga. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukunikeza okuningi okungavunyelwe-ngemininingwane kungaba uphawu lwezindaba ezenziwe.
Izwi elivela ku-Verywell
"Themba, kodwa uqinisekise" kungaba yindlela ehle uma ufuna ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ingane yakho ikhuluma iqiniso futhi ayihlanganisi ukuziphatha okungaphephile.
Cela izinto ongazihlola, ukhumbule ukuthi izinkinga zakho zokuthola amanga nje zingcono kakhulu kunezithuba.
Yenza kube lula kumntanakho ukuthi akutshele iqiniso. Qinisekisa ingane yakho ukuthi iphephile ekujezisweni ngokukutshela iqiniso ukuze ukwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga ndawonye.
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