Ukuthola Ukulingana Phakathi Kokubekwa Nokusebenza Njengomeluleki
Uma kuziwa ekuqondiseni, ochwepheshe bezingane bagxila ezintweni ezishintsha abazali lapho ingane yabo iqala ukukhula. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi intsha iqala ukwakha ubunikazi babo futhi idinga ukuzimela okuningi. Ngakho-ke, umsebenzi womzali uguquka ekubeni ngumuntu ophethe isikhathi sonke sokuba ngaphezulu kokuqapha nomeluleki.
Njengoba ubona ukushintsha umsebenzi wakho wokubeletha, kungase kubonakale njengamalungelo akho kanye nemithwalo yemfanelo njengomzali futhi ashintshe.
Kuyiqiniso, amanye amalungelo kanye nemithwalo yemithwalo yemfanelo ishintshela ingane yakho. Lokhu kubanika inkululeko eyengeziwe yokwenza izinqumo zabo futhi bazimele ngokwengeziwe.
Kodwa-ke, kukhona ezinye ezizohlala zingaguquguquki kulokhu ingane yakho isakhula. Ake sibukeze amalungelo ayishumi ebaluleke kakhulu kanye nemithwalo yemfanelo yabazali bentsha.
Ukuphathwa Ngenhlonipho
Abazali, kanye nabo bonke abanye emndenini, banelungelo lokuphathwa ngenhlonipho. Lokhu akubandakanyi abazali kanye nentsha kuphela, kodwa nabantwana bomndeni kanye namalungu omndeni asele asekhaya.
Beka Imithetho kanye Nemikhawulo Yelungelo
Abazali banelungelo lokusetha imithetho futhi banciphise amalungelo lapho imithetho ingalandelwa. Lokhu kuhlanganisa imithetho yomndeni nemindeni elandelwa ngenhlonipho kubo bonke abahlala ekhaya.
Ezinye izibonelo yimithetho emayelana nemisebenzi yomsebenzi, izivakashi, izikhathi zokufika ekhaya , nezinto ezingekho emthethweni noma imisebenzi emakhaya. Abazali bangasho ukuthi 'cha', ngisho nalapho becabanga ukuthi kukhona okungalungile.
Ukuthembela kuyinkinga enkulu phakathi kwabazali kanye nentsha. Ngenkathi intsha ivunyelwe ukwenza amaphutha-futhi abazali kufanele banikeze intsha yabo ikhono lokubuyisela ithemba labo-elingasusi umthwalo womzali ukugcina ingane yabo encane ingazilimaza ngokubeka imithetho futhi ithi 'cha' uma kudingeka .
Yazi Iqiniso
Abazali banelungelo lokubuza imibuzo futhi balindele ukuthi bazophendulwa iqiniso. Abazali kufanele baqaphele isidingo esakhulayo sabasakhulayo lapho becela khona lokhu.
Futhi, khumbula ukubuza imibuzo lapho imizwelo ingapheli ukugwema ukuphikisana nentsha evuthayo. Lokho kuzongeza kwenkinga kuphela kunokuxazulula.
The Who, What and Where
Abazali banelungelo lokukwazi ukuthi izingane zabo ziphi, ukuthi zini kanye nokuthi ngokuvamile zenzani. Ngenkathi intsha ingadingeki ibe nemininingwane mayelana nezindaba zangasese, njengemicabango yabo mayelana nomuntu abathandana naye , isibonelo, kufanele bavumele abazali bazi izinto ezifana nendawo yeqembu abazoya kuzo nokuthi ngubani ozobamba iqhaza .
Xoxa Ngengane Yakho Nezinye
Abazali banelungelo lokukhuluma nanoma ubani ohilelekile empilweni yabo yentsha. Lokhu kuhlanganisa, kodwa akukhawulelwanga othisha, odokotela, abaqeqeshi, abaqeqeshi, abangani nabazali abangabangane.
Abazali kufanele futhi balindele ukuthi bazothola izimpendulo eziqotho zemibuzo yabo lapho bekhuluma nalaba bantu.
Mina, ngokwami, ngikuthola kunzima ukubhekana nabazali bami abangane bami lapho ngiyazi ukuthi banomkhuba wokuqamba amanga ingane yabo.
Yini okumele igcine ingaqamba amanga kimi mayelana neyami uma izwa ukuthi izosiza ingane yami ukuba iphume enkingeni '? Akukho lutho.
Ukwazi ukuthi lokho kwenza abanye abazali bazizwe ukuthi kungani ngihlale ngithembekile lapho abazali babangane bami abasha bebuza imibuzo. Ngikhuthaza ukuba wenze okufanayo.
Londoloza Ubunye Bomndeni
Abazali banelungelo lokukhuthaza ubunye bomndeni. Bangalindela ukuthi wonke amalungu omndeni ahlanganyele kumasiko omndeni, ukuphumula komndeni, imihlangano yomndeni, kanye neminye imisebenzi eyenza izibopho zomndeni eziqinile.
Ukuqapha Ukuxhumana
Abazali banelungelo lokuqapha ukufinyelela kwezingane zabo ezweni langaphandle. Lokhu kuyiqiniso noma ngabe ukufinyelela kufinyelela ekuziphatheni komzimba noma ngokusebenzisa ubuchwepheshe beselula noma i-intanethi.
Khuthaza Izinketho Zesikhathi Esizayo
Abazali banelungelo lokukhuthaza nokuqapha umbono wengane wekusasa labo. Ngenkathi intsha inikelwa ukukhetha okuphelele ngalokho abafuna ukukwenza ngokuphila kwabo esikhathini esizayo, abazali bangayithonya ngokusebenzisa izindlela ezikhuthazayo, kodwa hhayi ngokusebenzisa isiyalo.
Isibonelo, khuthaza ingane yakho ukuba ithande isayensi ngokuyithumela ekamelweni lesikhamera, kodwa ungasusi amalungelo ngoba awazange afunde le ncwadi ohlelweni lwelanga owanike lona.
Yenza amaphutha
Abazali banelungelo lokwenza amaphutha futhi bashintshe izingqondo zabo. Kuvele amaphutha, ukufunda ukulungisa iphutha nokuxolisa kubalulekile.
Akekho ophelele futhi isinqumo owenzile angeke sibe ngcono uma ubuka emuva kuso. Kungase kube yisikhathi sokubuyela emuva futhi uhlangane. Ngenkathi ingane yakho ingase ingabongi ukuguqulwa kwakho ngokushesha, ukuzimisela kwakho ukuxolisa nokulungisa iphutha kuhle ukuyifanekisela.
Bonisa Ukukhathalela
Abazali banelungelo lokuvumela izingane zabo ukuthi ziyabathanda futhi ziyabakhathalela. Ngesikhathi ucela ingane yakho ukuba ikhuleke kakhulu phambi kwabangane bayo uma ushiya phansi ingase ingabi yisikhathi, ukuvumela ingane yakho ukuba ikwazi nsuku zonke ukuthi uyayikhathalela ibalulekile ngokwanele ukukhuluma, umbhalo, i-imeyili, njll. Umlayezo olula usebenza kahle, uqaphele hhayi ukubahlazisa nxazonke zontanga.
Imicabango Yokugcina
Uzoqaphela ukuthi uma ubuyela emuva kulolu hlu bese ushintshanisa inkulumo ethi 'Abazali banomthwalo wemfanelo' ngenkulumo ethi 'Abazali banelungelo', uzobona ukuthi ibuye ifanele. Njengomzali, ngizizwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi yini esinika ilungelo lomzali yilokho okulindele ukuba sithwale umthwalo wokuba ngumzali.
Ukuthatha iminithi ukukhumbula amalungelo akho wokubeletha njengoba imithwalo yemfanelo izokuthobisa noma kunini lapho uqala ukuzizwa unesizotha uma uyala. Zama.
Umthombo: Uthathwe ku-Bill Bill wamalungelo kanye nemithwalo yemfanelo, i-Tri-City Substance Abuse Coalition.