Abantu abasha abaphumelelayo ngokuvamile abanenkinga yokuheha abazali nabafundisi, kodwa ontanga labo abaziphatha ngaphakathi, noma abahlanganyele ekuziphatheni, bangase banganakiwe. Iqiniso le ndaba ukuthi abantu abayishumi nambili abasebenzisa i-internalizing behaviors ukuze babhekane nezinselele ekuphileni okudingayo nje ngosizo olunjengezingane ezisakhula ezizibandakanya emzimbeni ozilimazayo.
Kungcono ukuqonda kwakho kwe-internalizing behaviors kanye nemiphumela yabo engalungile engaba khona kulokhu kubuyekezwa.
Ukuchaza ukungena phakathi kwamakhono
Ukuzibandakanya ukuziphatha kukhona izenzo eziqondisa amandla enkingeni. Ngamanye amazwi, umuntu okhombisa ukuziphatha nge-internalizing enza izinto ezizilimaza yena ngokumelene nokwehla kwabanye (okuyaziwa ngokuthi ukuziphatha kwangaphandle ). Ukuzibandakanya ukuziphatha kuhlanganisa ukudla kakhulu noma okuncane kakhulu, ukuzwa ucindezelekile , ukuxhaphaza izinto, nokusika.
Ukuzibandakanya ukuziphatha kungaholela ingane ukuthuthukisa izinkinga zempilo ezinzulu, ezifana nokulutha izidakamizwa, utshwala, i-anorexia, i-bulimia noma ukukhuluphala. Izingane ezisetshenziswa ekuziphatheni kwe-internalizing zingase zibe nenkinga ekwenzeni ubuhlobo obuhle nabanye. Ngenxa yokuthi ukuziphatha kwe-behavioralization kusiza izingane nabantu abadala ukuba banqande ubuhlungu obungokomzwelo ababuzwayo, bangase bazizwe benqunywe kubangane babo, abathandekayo nabo ngokwabo.
Izibalo ezingu-12 ezikhathazayo zivame ukubonisa ukuziphatha ngaphakathi. Isibonelo, ukuziphatha kwe-internalizing kuye kwatholakala ezisulu zokuhlukunyezwa , kuzihlukumezi , nakwezinye izikhathi ezinamandla kakhulu. Izingane eziye zazisho ngamazwi, ngokobulili, emzimbeni, noma ezenzelwe ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo zingase zihlanganyele ekuziphatheni okunjalo. Okufanayo kuya kubantwana abaye babhekana nezinye izinhlobo zokuhlukunyezwa, njengokufa komuntu othandekayo, ukushiywa abazali noma ukuhlukaniswa.
Ukungena phakathi kokuziphatha kungase kungabonakali futhi kube "ngokwamukelekile emphakathini" kunokwenza izinto ezingaphandle, okuthinta ngqo abanye abantu. Ngezinye izikhathi abazali benza iphutha lokugxila kwengane yabo kuphela ngokuzikhandla ngokweqile, benganaki ukukhala kosizo kwengane ephendula ubuhlungu bayo ngaphakathi.
Uma uqaphela ukuthi ingane yakho ibonakale ukuthi izuze noma ilahlekelwe isisindo esikhulu sesisindo, ungayinaki lesi sibonakaliso sokuziphatha ngaphakathi. Futhi uma ingane yakho ibonakala igubungela izingubo ezinde isikhathi sonke, lokhu kungase kube isibonakaliso sokuthi usika.
Khuluma nomntanakho ngendlela engafanele yokwahlulela mayelana nezinguquko eziphawulekayo zomzimba ozibonayo. Ungamnaki ingane yakho uma ebonakala ekhombisa izimpawu zokusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa, njengezinhlobonhlobo zegazi, isicanucanu, ikhanda, ukuphazanyiswa noma ukuvilapha. Ungacabangi ukuthi ingane yakho ayinayo inkinga ngoba ayibonakali ephuma ngaphandle. Ingane ehlanganyela ekuziphatheni kwangaphakathi akuyona into enempilo kunomntwana obizelwa ehhovisi likathishanhloko ngokuphazamisa ekilasini noma ukungalaleli othisha.
Ukufaka phezulu
Uma ingane yakho ihlanganyela ekwenzeni umsebenzi noma ekuqedeni ukuziphatha, kubalulekile ukuthi uthole usizo ayidingayo.
Khuluma nomeluleki wesikole somntanakho, isazi se-psychotherapist noma ezinye izichwepheshe zokunakekelwa kwezempilo ngokunikeza ingane yakho usizo oludingekayo ukuthuthukisa izindlela eziningi zokubhekana nazo. Ukweluleka nokusebenza kwengqondo kungasiza ingane yakho ukuthi ivule izinselele noma ukuhlukunyezwa okuye kwamenza wakwazi ukubhekana nokuthembela ekuziphatheni ngokuziphatha.
Umthombo:
Izigaba, uVicky. Ukuqonda i-Psychology Engavamile Engane, Inguqulo Yesibili. 2008. Hoboken, NJ: UJohn Wiley & Son.