Njengoba ingane ikhula, ubuntu babo buzoqala ukuma
Njengoba sisebancane, sibheka izingane izici ezithile zobuntu. Singase sithi "ungumntwana ojabulayo," noma "uhamba kalula," noma uvula ukuthi ingane "inenkani." Kodwa ngenkathi lezi zici zingase zihlinzekele izici zalokho okuzofika, ubuntu bomntanakho abuqali ngempela ukuthatha ifomu kuze kube yilapho.
Kunezizathu ezinhle zokuba abazali bafune ukwazi ukuthi ubuntu babantwana babo buyoba yini.
Ukubeletha i-introvert kungabandakanya amaqoqo namasu ahlukene ahlukene kunokuba umzali abe ne-extrovert, futhi izingane ezinezici zobuntu ezihlukahlukene zizophendula kangcono ezenzweni ezihlukahlukene nezindlela zokuziphatha.
Lezi zimfanelo zobuntu ziqala ukuvela esikoleni samabanga aphansi. Nansi indlela ongayitshela ngayo lapho ubuntwana bendodana yakho ikhulayo, nokuthi lokho kungasho ukuthini lo muntu.
Isimiso asiyona Ubuntu Bomntanakho
Kukhona izici zobuntu bezingane kusukela ekuqaleni kakhulu empilweni. Ngokwesibonelo, ezinye izinsana zifisa izifiso, kanti ezinye zikhetha ukuguquguquka okukhulu. Izazi zengqondo zibiza lezi zici zakuqala "ukuzithoba."
Isimiso singenasisekelo futhi siye sabonakala ngezindlela ezihlukahlukene ngabacwaningi abahlukene - ngamanye amazwi, izingane zinezimpawu ezithile ngokwemvelo, kepha isimo sengqondo asiyona "ubuntu" babo.
Ubuntu buyingqikithi yesiphetho somuntu, izimpendulo nezendlela zokuziphatha.
Ngokwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uDan McAdams, ubuntu bomuntu bungabonakala ngokubheka izici zabo zobuntu phakathi nenkathi yeminyaka.
Lezi zici azibonakali ngendlela ecacile futhi engahambisani kuze kuphele iminyaka ephakathi. Ngakho-ke, ubuntu bomntwana buvela esimweni esibucayi nje kuphela lapho ingane isondela.
Ngaphambi kwalokho, ungabheka ukuziphatha kwezingane njengokuphendukela kwamanye abantu abakuzungezile, kanti izimpendulo zokuziphatha zenzeka kusukela eminyakeni engu-11 no-12 ubudala.
Izici zobuntu obukhulu ezingu-5
Njengesimo sengqondo, izici zobuntu ziye zavezwa ngezindlela ezihlukahlukene ngabacwaningi abahlukahlukene.
Mhlawumbe enye yezintambo ezivelele kakhulu zigxile ezintweni ezinhlanu ezibalulekile zobuntu. Kunjalo:
- Unembeza. Lokhu kuchaza umuntu ovame ukuba ngesikhathi noma ekuqaleni kokuqokwa, unomthwalo wemfanelo kakhulu futhi usebenza emigomweni yesikhathi eside.
- Ukungavumelani . Ebizwa nangokuthi i-pro-social, umuntu ovame ukuvame ukuxhumana ngokuhle, unomusa wokuba ujikeleze, usebenzela ukusiza abanye, futhi ubambisane kahle nezimo zeqembu. Ubuye avame ukubonisa uthando kalula futhi kaningi.
- Ukuvuleka ukuzwa . Umuntu ovulekile ukuzwa ukudala, ukuguquguquka, ukufuna ukwazi nokuzijabulisa. Uyakuthanda ukuba nengqondo yakhe nezinzwa zakhe zivuselelwe, njengokubuka ubuciko, ukulalela umculo omusha, isampuli yokudla okungavamile nokufunda izincwadi nezinkondlo. Umuntu ovulekile uyathanda ukuhlukahluka ekuphileni kwakhe kwansuku zonke futhi ufuna ukufana.
- Neuroticism. Umuntu onokuthambekela kokuzwa izinto ezingokomzwelo ezingemuhle, njengokukhathazeka, intukuthelo, icala, nokucindezeleka, njalo. Abantu abanamazinga aphezulu okuthiwa yi-neuroticism banamathuba amaningi kunesilinganiso sokuphendula ngokungafanele ukucindezeleka nokuhumusha izimo njengokusongela noma ngokungenakuphikisa.
- Ukukhipha . I-extrovert ngumuntu okhuthazwa ngokuba ngumunye wabantu. Lokhu okuphambene nesethulo, okhuthazwa ngokuba yedwa.
Ubuntu Bentwana Yakho Eminyakeni Yabo Ephakathi
Lezi zici ezinhlanu ziqala ukukhanya phakathi kwezingane phakathi neminyaka ephakathi, kanti ukuhlanganiswa kwezici eziholela ekugcineni kudala ubuntu bomntanakho.
Ngokuyinhloko, abacwaningi baqala ukuthola ukuhlukana okuvela kumntwana oyedwa kuya kwesinye kulezi zici ezibizwa ngeBig Five ezinyangeni eziphakathi. Futhi bathola izitayela ezijwayelekile kumazinga wezinhlamvu ezinkulu ezingu-5 ezenzeka kuwo wonke ama-tweens. Isibonelo, ukulalela ngokweqile kuvame ukukhula phakathi neminyaka ephakathi.
Ukuhlanganiswa kwemibono ebonakalayo ebonakalayo ehambisana nomkhuba jikelele jikelele kubonisa ukuthi izici - ngakho-ke "ubuntu bentwana" - iningi livele ngesikhathi sokuqala.
Uma ubuntu buvela, aluguquki kakhulu: isifundo se-2010 sathola ukuthi izici zobuntu ezibonwa kuqala ngabafundisi bezikole zasepulazini zingacacisa ukuziphatha kwabantu abadala.
Lelo cwaningo, kusukela kubacwaningi eNyuvesi yaseCalifornia, e-Riverside, e-Oregon Research Institute naseYunivesithi yase-Oregon, lisetshenziselwa ukulinganisa ubuntu kusuka othisha besikole samabanga aphansi eqenjini lobuhlanga elihlukahlukene lezingane eHawaii emuva ngawo-1960, kuqhathaniswa nalabo abalingiswa bokulinganisa ngevidiyo izingxoxo zabangu-144 kulabo bantu eminyakeni engama-40 kamuva. Abacwaningi bathola ukuthi izici ezibekwe othisha zilokhu ziqhubeka iminyaka engamashumi amane futhi lezo zici zabikezela izimpendulo eziphathelene nezimo zomphakathi.
Ubuntu bomuntu wonke buhlukile. Njengoba ingane yakho ifika eyakhe, yisekela izici ezinhle zobuntu ngokugubha lokho abakubonisile kakade ukuthi ubaphazamise.
Umthombo:
UMcAdams, uDan, & Olson, uBradley. Ukuthuthukiswa komuntu: Ukuqhubeka nokuguqula inkambo yokuphila. Ukubuyekezwa Kwangonyaka Ka-Psychology. 2010. 61: 517-542.
I-Nave CS ne-al. Ukuzimela Kwemvelo Kubuntu: Ukuhlolwa Kothisha Ukubikezela Ukuziphatha Okuqaphele Ngokuqondile Ngemva Kweminyaka Emine. I-Social Psychological and Personality Science. 2010 Jul 8; 3 (1): 1-9.