Ukuthinta ingane yakho encane ngokuvamile kuholele ekuthumeni kokuhleka, kodwa kunemibono ethile ethakazelisayo ngokumelene nayo. Ingabe kukhona iqiniso kulowo mbono wokuthi ukukhipha ingane encane kuyingozi?
Impendulo Edukisayo
Nakuba abazali abaningi baye bakhonkotha ingane ngenye indlela, ngenxa yokuthi ingane ihleka impendulo akusho ukuthi ujabulela umklomelo.
Abantu bahleka lapho sitshelwa njengendlela yokuphendula ngokuzenzekelayo, kufana nokuthunga.
Ukuphawula kwakusetshenziselwa njengendlela yangempela yokuhlushwa kulo lonke umlando, ngakho-ke, njengabazali, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ukuhleka kwengane akusho ukuthi uyakuthanda noma ufuna ukukhathala.
Umphumela Wokukhawula Ngokuzimela Komzimba
Ngaphandle kokuthi ingane yakho engase ingakwazi ukuxhumana ukuthi iyakuthanda ukukhathala, ukuphoqa ingane ukuthi ikuvumele ukuyikhahlela nayo ingathumela umlayezo owingozi ngokuzimela komzimba. Ngokufanayo, kusukela embonweni wengane, iqinisa umbono wokuthi umuntu omdala unelungelo lokwenza okuthile afuna ukukwenza emzimbeni wakho, ngisho noma ubacela ukuba bangabikho.
Kungumcabango owesabekayo, kodwa kunzima kakhulu ukucabanga ngakho futhi mina kanye nami ngifuna ukubhala umqondo ngokuthi "ubuwula," kubalulekile ukucabangela ukuthi njengabazali, sinesibopho sokufundisa izingane zethu kusukela esemncane kakhulu ukuthi bona-futhi kuphela-yibo abalawula imizimba yabo.
Lokhu kufundisa ukuzimela komzimba, umcabango wokuthi akekho omunye onelungelo lokuthinta ngaphandle kwemvume yabo. Futhi lokho kusho ukuhlonipha lapho bengathandi ukuthinteka ezingeni elilula, ukuze kuthi uma bezobe besesimweni esihlukumezayo, bangaqaphela ukuthi lokho omdala akwenzayo, kubi kakhulu.
Ukufundisa izingane ukuzimela
Nakuba kungahlobene ngokuqondile nokuzimela komzimba, isifundo se- Journal of Child and Family Studies sathola ukuthi izingane zokufundisa ezisanda kusenesikhathi ukuze zenze izinqumo ziyimfanelo ebalulekile yokuphila. Lolu cwaningo lubheke ukuthi izingane ezisencane zifunda kanjani ukuxazulula izinkinga futhi zenze izinqumo.
Imiphumela yocwaningo yaphakamisa ukuthi uma abazali bethatha indlela ekhululekile futhi bevumela izingane zabo ukuba zihole futhi zikwazi ukuthi zifuna ukwenzani, izinsana zikwazi kangcono ukuthuthukisa umsebenzi ophezulu wokusebenza kobuchopho. Ngamanye amazwi, ukuvumela izinsana ukuthi zithathe indima ekhuthele ekwenzeni izinqumo kusiza ubuchopho babo bakhulise amakhono namakhono abayodinga konke kulo lonke ukuphila.
Futhi ngenkathi uvumela ingane yakho ukuba yenze isinqumo mayelana nokuthi ngabe bafuna ukukhishwa yini noma cha kungenzeka ukuthi ayingeyona iphuzu yalolu cwaningo oluthile, kusengumzekelo wendawo lapho kufanele sivumele izingane zethu zizwakale imibono yabo futhi mhlawumbe ngisho nangaphezulu okubalulekile, ufunde ukuthi yizona kuphela ezilawula imizimba yazo.
Khetha ezinye izindlela zokuxhuma ngokomzimba
Ukuxhumeka ngokomzimba, njengokuthintana kwangempela, phakathi komzali nengane, kubaluleke kakhulu. Abantu badinga ukuthinta ngokomzimba ukuze basinde futhi bathuthuke, kodwa kunezinye izindlela zokugqugquzela isibopho esingokomzimba phakathi komzali nengane, ngaphandle kokuklanywa.
Ukufunda ndawonye. Buza ingane yakho ukuthi ingathanda yini ukuhlala ethangeni lakho ukufunda indaba, noma ingane yakho ikufunde indaba.
Ukushisa . Ezinye izingane zingase zizuze ekuxhumeni kokusikhipha. Ukubuthwa kwabantwana kuye kwaxhunyaniswa nezinsana zokutholisa, kwandisa inzuzo yesisindo, nokulawula izinga lokushisa. Ungakwazi ukulandela amasu afanayo wokusila okuncane , usebenzisa i-lotion elula noma i-oyela ngokudonsa okukodwa kweoli oyithandayo oyintandokazi. Qinisekisa ukuthi uhlole nodokotela wezingane ngaphambi kokuba usebenzise amafutha ebalulekile esikhumba somntanakho, njengoba ezinye izingane zingase zizwele kakhulu kunabanye noma zibe nesimo sezokwelapha esingenza amanye amafutha abalulekile ayingozi.
Ukudlala okusekelwe emzimbeni. Uma umgomo wakho ukuthi ujabule ngokunyakaza, zama amanye amasu wokudlala omzimba, njengokudlala i- "horsey," i-ring-around-the-rosy, noma ukuncintisana. Isihluthulelo ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ingane encane yilawo olawula umdlalo nokuthi umzimba wakhe uthintwa kanjani.
> Imithombo:
> Matte-Gagné, C., et al. Ukuzinza ekusizeni kwezokubeletha kwabamama kanye nokusebenza kwezingane eziphezulu. J Child Child Stud. 2015.