Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi izingane ezincane zingalimaza ngenhloso.
Kuhlale kunzima ukubona ingane yakho ikhukhumezekile, kodwa kubi nakakhulu lapho ekhungathekile noma ethukuthele ukuthi uqala ukuzibulala. Lokhu akuyona into evamile ezinganeni-ngokuvamile, ingane encane izomshaya omunye umuntu lapho ethukuthela kunokuzilimaza ngokwakhe-okungenza kube yinto esabekayo ukuba ubone.
Nokho, lokho akusho ukuthi umkhuba wokukhathazeka ngokweqile mayelana.
Hlale uqaphele lapho kwenzeka khona nokuthi isimo sibheke kanjani ukuze ubone ukuthi udinga yini ukuthola isiqondiso esivela kudokotela wezingane.
Njengoba ingane yakho ikhula, cishe uzoyeka ukuziphatha okulimazayo. Qaphela ukuthi umkhuba ukubuyela, noma kunjalo.
I-KidsHealth poll yabuza izingane ezindala mayelana nezicindezelo zabo nokuthi zenzani uma zithukuthele. Cishe ngamaphesenti angu-25 baphendule ukuthi uma becasukile, bazikhiphela ngokwabo ngokushaya, ukushaya noma ukuphonsa amakhanda abo kokuthile.
Kungani Umntanakho Othakazelisayo?
Njengoba ingane yakho ikhula kusukela usana kuze kube yintsana, uzoqala ukuhlola indawo eyayizungezile futhi ukhulume nezidingo zakhe nezidingo zakhe. Kodwa-ke, amandla akhe ngeke afanane nesifiso sakhe sokwenza kokubili lezozinto.
Ukuhluleka kwakhe ukufakazela ukuthi ufuna noma izidingo zakhe nokuthi umzabalazo wakhe wokuhamba kahle ngendawo yakhe kungaba yiphi indlela yokufutheka.
Uma ukukhungatheka kwakhe kuphakeme kakhulu, angase azibulale njengendlela yokuveza ukukhungatheka kwakhe.
Uma ubona lokhu kwenzeka, qaphela noma yikuphi okubangela ukuthi kube nzima. Mhlawumbe usho ukuthi ayikho into ayifunayo ngempela. Noma mhlawumbe, uvele ekhululekile noma elambile.
Uma ubona iphethini noma i-trigger eholela ebantwaneni bakho ukuzishaya, ungakwazi ukuvimbela izinkinga ngaphambi kokuba ziqale.
Uma ubona isimo esiseduze senzeke, singenele ngaphambi kokuba izingqimba ziqale ukuhamba.
Indlela Yokubhekana Nokuzilimaza Nge-Tantrum
Uma ungakwazi ukuvimbela ingane yakho ukuthi ingazibethi, kunezindlela eziphumelelayo ongayisingatha ngayo intukuthelo . Nazi izinto eziningana ongazama ukuzenza ukuze ugcine ingane yakho iphephile:
- Yakha indawo ephephile yengane yakho . Uma ingane yakho ithola izindlela eziningi zokuzilimaza-njengokushaya ikhanda lakhe odongeni-mhambise noma izinto ezingekho.
- Nikeza usizo lomzimba . Thatha ingane yakho ezandleni zakho bese umvimbela ukuba angazibambi ngokuvimba izikhali zakhe. Le induduzo ingase ibe ngokwanele ukuzolalisa ingane yakho phansi bese ummisa ekuzilimazeni. Lokhu kudala imvelo ephephile, enothando ngomntanakho ukunciphisa ubuhlungu noma ukukhungatheka ukuthi uzizwa.
- Khuluma emazwini aqabulayo. Tshela ingane yakho ukuthi iphephile futhi ukhona ukuze umduduze. Ungamnika enye into ukuba ibambe, futhi, njengobhere lwe-teddy lokucindezela noma indebe ye-sippy egcwele amanzi okuphuza.
Ungase ulingeke ukuba uzame ukuxoxa nomntanakho noma ukumtshela lokhu kuziphatha, kodwa manje akusona isikhathi. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzolalisa ingane futhi uqinisekise ukuthi akalimazi.
Uma umzuzwana usudlulile, ungaqala ukusebenza ekufundiseni izingane zakho ezinempilo izindlela zokuveza ukukhungatheka kwakhe.
Ungase uqale ngokumfundisa ukuthi angayibona kanjani futhi acacise imizwa yakhe ngokuthi, "Ngiyabona ukuthi uzizwa uphapheme kakhulu."
Uma eyazi ukuthi uqaphela ukukhungatheka kwakhe noma intukuthelo, kungenzeka ukuthi angeke akubonise ukuthi uyamcasula kanjani ngokuzibulala. Ukufundisa ukuzwa amagama kubeka isiteji ukuze umntwana wakho aqale ukufunda amakhono okuphatha intukuthelo enempilo kuyo yonke iminyaka yakhe yasenkulisa.
Ingane Yakho Ingaba Khona Ubuhlungu
Uma ingane yakho iqala ukuzishaya ngokuzumayo, ingase ibuhlungu ngokomzimba. Ingane encane ezingela eceleni kwekhanda ingase ibe nokutheleleka indlebe.
Amantombazane akhona amantombazane angase azibophe ngezikhathi ezithile ukuze abhekane nobunzima ezinsini zabo.
Ukushaya kungase kube ukuzithiba.
Qaphela izimpawu ingane yakho ingaba nayo ebuhlungu. Qaphela lapho ezingela khona. Kungenzeka uzama ukuxhumana lapho ibuhlungu khona.
Ngokuya ngomthombo wobuhlungu, ungase ukwazi ukuphatha ingane yakho ekhaya. Uma ungaqiniseki ukuthi yini ebangela ubuhlungu, noma kunjalo, uhambo oluya kudokotela wezingane lungase luhleleke.
Lapho Kufanele Ukhathazeke
Uma ingane izishaya njalo futhi ingaxhunyiwe ukufutheka komsindo noma ubuhlungu obunzima, lo mkhuba ungaba nokukhathazeka.
Ukuzilimaza kungase kuhlotshaniswe ne-autism. Ngaphezu kokuzibulala, izingane ezine-autism zingase zishaye, zibophe, zizilume noma zibambe amakhanda.
Izingane ezinokukhubazeka kwentuthuko zingase zithole ukuzilimaza ukuze zizithobe. Ukubamba ukukhanda kwekhanda , ngokwesibonelo, kunikeza ukugqugquzelwa kwe-vestibular.
Kufanele futhi kube isizathu sokukhathazeka uma ingane yakho ibangela ukulimala ngokomzimba kuye. Uma ezishaya kanzima eshiya imivimbo noma amamaki noma ubangela ezinye izingozi kuye, bheka udokotela wezingane.
Uma ingane yakho encane ikhulile kancane, ukukhungatheka okukhulu ngokungakwazi ukuzwakalisa kungabangela ukulibaziseka kwenkulumo . Ngakho-ke, udokotela wezingane angase afune ukuhlinzeka ngokudluliselwa kumchwepheshe wezinkulumo zokuhlola.
Uma ucabanga ukuthi ukuziphatha kuyisibonakaliso senkinga enkulu, bhala phansi uma uqaphela ukuthi kwenzeka futhi ulethe kudokotela wengane yakho ukucela iseluleko. Udokotela angase ancoma ukuhlolwa okungeziwe ukuze kunqume ukuthi kwenzekani.
Uma ungabaza, kungcono ukuthola ingane yakho ihlolwe udokotela wezingane ukulawula noma yiziphi izimo zezokwelapha ezingase zibe khona noma ukubambezeleka kokuthuthukiswa. Ukukhuluma nodokotela mayelana nokuziphatha kwengane yakho kungakunika ukuthula kwengqondo, amasu okusebenzisa lapho ingane yakho ihlasela, noma ukuhanjiswa kwesazi ukuze kuhlolwe futhi ukwelashwa okuqhubekayo.
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