Kukhona kokubili ubuhle nobuqili bokuba nezici ezinamandla "zokuvuma".
Ukungavumelani kungenye yezinto ezinhlanu eziyisisekelo, noma izici, zobuntu ngokusho kwe "Big Five" indaba yobuntu. Ezinye izici ezine zihlanganisa:
- Ukuchithwa: Abantu abasusiwe banamandla amakhulu, banenhlalo, futhi banokuxhumana ekukhulumisaneni.
- Ukungavumelani: Abantu abamukelekayo banezici ezifana nomusa , ukwethemba, nokuzidela.
- Ubunembeza: Izimfanelo zokwethembeka zihlanganisa ukulawula okuqinile , ukugxila emigomweni, ukuthembeka, nokugcina isikhathi.
- I-Neuroticism: Abantu abane-neurotic bangokomzwelo, bakhathazekile, bahlambalaza futhi bayathukuthela.
- Ukuvuleka: Ukucabanga , ukuqonda, kanye nezithakazelo eziningi ziyingxenye yalesi simo.
Umuntu onamaqhinga aqinile wokuba avumelane kakhulu abantu abanamakhono. Uzoba namakhono omuhle emphakathini, ajabulele ukusebenzisana kweqembu, ubonise uthando kalula, futhi uthola kulula ukusebenzisana nabanye . Labo bantu ababeka phansi lo mkhuba bakuthola kunzima ukusebenzisana kahle nabanye, kugweme ukuxhumana nabantu ngamaqembu, kuvame ukungazethembi abanye, futhi banamakhono omphakathi omphakathi . Iningi labantu liwela ngapha nangapha phakathi kwezingqimba ezimbili.
Ukungavumelani kuyanda kancane kancane kuze kube umuntu omdala. Kungokwemvelo ukuba izingane nezintsha zihambe ngezikhathi zokuvuma okuphansi, njengokungathi ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Yize kunjalo, noma kunjalo, abanye abayishumi nambili bayoba mnandi kakhulu kunabanye lapho bebhekana nezinguquko emizimbeni yabo nokucindezeleka endaweni yabo.
Ingabe Kuhle Ukuthi Uyamukeleke?
Yiqiniso, njalo kuhlanganisa ukukwazi ukusebenzisana, ukuhlanganyela, nokwakha ubuhlobo obuhle nabanye. Futhi "abantu abathandekayo" kungenzeka benze kahle emasimini lapho lamakhono abalulekile. Amanye amasimu afaka phakathi:
- Ukuthengisa nokuxhumana komphakathi
- Umnyango Wabasebenzi
- Fundraising
- Izinhlobo ezithile zokuthengisa
- Ezombusazwe
- Ukuphathwa Kwemicimbi
- Ukufundisa
Nokho, ukungavumelani, noma kunjalo, kungaba nezinkinga zayo. Abantu abathandekayo, ngokwesibonelo, bangase bakuthole kunzima ukusebenza kodwa, bahlaziye ubuqiniso bezingxabano, benze izinqumo ezinzima, noma banikele izindaba ezimbi. Ngenxa yalokho, izinga eliphansi lokuvumelana lingenza kube lula ukuphumelela ezinkambeni ezifana nalezi:
- Imithi
- Military
- Isayensi
- Ibhayisikobho noma i-Critic Movie
- Ukuphathwa Okuphezulu
- Usomabhizinisi
Ingabe Abantu Bangaba Okuningi Noma Okungavumeleki?
Izinga lapho umuntu ebonisa khona izici ezithile lixhomeke ekubuntwini okungenasici, kodwa futhi kuxhomeke kakhulu ezimweni. Ngisho nomuntu othakazelisayo angase angabi mnandi lapho ebhekene nokuncintisana ngokuqondile ngezinsiza ezibucayi noma amathuba abalulekile. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi kungenzeka ukwandisa ukuvumelana ngoku:
- Ukuvezwa kwezibonelo ezinhle
- Ukuqaphela (umuntu obukayo cishe kungenzeka ukuthi amukeleke)
- Ukufinyelela okulula kwamathuba okuziphatha ngendlela engafanele
Kuyinto iqiniso elimangalisayo lokuthi izingane ezincane kakhulu, ngokuvamile, zizikhukhumeza kakhulu kunabantu abadala. Kungenzeka ukuthi ukuhlangenwe nakho kwabantu abadala kanye nezinkinga zokuphila kwenza bazwele kakhulu ubuhlungu babanye.
Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi imfundo yokuziphatha noma yenkolo inegalelo elikhulu ekuvumelaneni. Incazelo yesithathu kungenzeka ukuthi sifunda, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukuthi abantu abaningi banamathuba okufaka izicelo zethu uma siqala ukwakha ubudlelwano bokuthembela.
> Umthombo:
I-Rathus, i-PhD, i-Spencer. I-Psychology: Imiqondo nokuxhumeka, i-Brief Version. Umagazini we-8. 2007. Belmont, CA: Thomson, Wadsworth.