Kungaba ukucindezeleka ukubukela ingane yakho isingatha ukulahlwa. Ngesikhathi ufuna ukuba khona ukuze uzivikele, kule minyaka yobudala, kubalulekile ukuthi ubanike amathuluzi okusingatha ukulahlwa kwezenhlalakahle. Nazi amathiphu ongazithatha ukusiza ingane yakho ukuphatha ukulahlwa eyedwa.
1. Khuthaza Ingane Yakho Ukucabanga Ngokunqatshwa
Ukwenqatshwa kwezenhlalakahle kungase kuzwe ubuhlungu kakhulu, mhlawumbe ngoba kuhlasela ezinye izidingo ezingokwengqondo ezingokwenyama kulesi sigaba sokuthuthukiswa.
Ubuhlungu bokuqala bokulahlwa kaningi buyadlulela, noma kunjalo, uma ingane ibonisa isimo, bangase bakuthole kulula ukuphatha. Siza ingane yakho ukuthi iphathe ukulahlwa ngokugqugquzela lokhu ukucabanga. Okokuqala, khuthaza ingane yakho ukuba icabangele ukuthi ubani owenzile ukulahla: ingabe ingumngane weqiniso, umngane wesikhathi eside noma umane nje owaziwayo ekati? Okwesibili, khuthaza uhlangothi lwakho ukuba ucabangele ukuthi kungani ukwenqatshwa kwenzeka: ingabe ingane yakho yenza okungalungile okuthile okungalungile, noma ontanga yakhe ngokuzikhethela noma ngokulinganisa ingane yakho ngaphandle. Izinyathelo ezilandelayo zizoxhomeka ezimpendulo ezithile kule mibuzo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiziphi lezo zimpendulo, noma kunjalo, isenzo nje sokucabangela singasiza ukuhambisa ingane ngaphezu kobuhlungu bokuqala bokungena endaweni engokwengqondo enempilo.
2. Fundisa umehluko phakathi kokugxeka okuqakathekileko nokuhlukumezeka ngokwezwi
Ngenxa yesidingo esiyingqayizivele sokuba abantu abangu-13 bavunyelwe emphakathini, bangase babe nesisindo sokungavumi lokho okungase kuqinisekiswe.
Kubalulekile ukufundisa ingane yakho ukuthi ukugxekwa okunomthelela kubonakala kanjani njengokuhlukunyezwa ngamazwi. Chaza ukubaluleka kokufunda ukuhlosela ukulimaza noma ukuhlose ukusiza phakathi kwakho. Bafundise ukubuza imibuzo enjengale, kungani usho lokho, usho ukuthini ngalokho, uzama kanjani ukungisiza, njll Ngokuzifundisa ukuba zibuze ukucacisa imibuzo, zingase ziqonde kangcono uma kunikezwa ukugxeka okwakhayo kubo .
Ngokufanayo, bafundise ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa ngamazwi kubonakala njengokuhleka usulu, ukuhlambalaza emphakathini ngisho nokwelapha. Ngokubonisa ingane yakho indlela yokuveza ukuhlukunyezwa ngamazwi, bangakhetha abangani babo nabangane babo kangcono, futhi bafunde ukunikeza ukugxekwa okwakhayo.
3. Bolster Amakhono Ezenhlalakahle Yengane Yakho
Ukwenqaba kwezenhlalakahle kungase kwenzeke ngekati, ngezizathu ezingenasisekelo noma ngenxa yezizathu ezingahambisani nengane yakho ethile . Ngezinye izikhathi, noma kunjalo, amakhono omphakathi omntanakho ompofu angase abekwe icala. Uma kunjalo, ungase ugxile ekufundiseni ingane yakho ukuthi ifunde kangcono izinhla zokuxhumana nabantu-njengokuthi umuntu uzama ukuqeda ingxoxo noma uma umuntu ematasa kakhulu ukukhuluma. Ungase futhi ugqugquzele ingane yakho ukuba igweme ukudlula ulwazi lomuntu siqu futhi ube ngumlaleli ongcono wokubukisa. Ungakwazi ukufundisa lezi zokuziphatha ngokuzifanekisela wena ngokwakho. Ungaphinda ukhombise izimo lapho ingane yakho isenza okungaphansi kokuhleleka komphakathi, kuyilapho ngesikhathi esisodwa imdumisa ngezikhathi lapho eziphatha kahle. Iningi lezingane eziye zathola ama-ostracism zizovuleka kakhulu kulezi zifundo. Eqinisweni, ukuhlola kubonisa ukuthi izingane zivame ukuba ziqaphele ngokwemvelo mayelana neziqu zomphakathi ngemuva kokunqatshwa.
4. Nciphise Ukuboniswa Kwengane Yakho Kuzobuhlungu
Nakuba izilonda zomzimba ziphulukisa ngokushesha, ubuhlungu obungokwengqondo bokukhishwa komphakathi kungapheli isikhathi eside.
Lokhu kwenzeka ngoba ubuhlungu obungokwengqondo buzwa buhlanzekile njalo lapho ukulahlwa kwengqondo kuncike, ngokwezifundo zengqondo. Amaphuzu ahlobene nokwenqatshwa angakhuthaza ukukhunjulwa kwengqondo okunjalo. Ngenxa yalokho, kufanele kugwenywe noma nini lapho kungenzeka. Isibonelo, uma wazi ukuthi ontanga abaye baxosha ingane yakho babe abalandeli abakhulu beqembu elithile lomculo, ungagwema ukuxoxa ngaleli qembu noma ukudlala umculo wabo lapho ingane yakho imoto. Ungase futhi uqaphele ukuthi ungabuzi imibuzo mayelana nabangane ababambisana bobabili umntanakho kanye noontanga owenqabayo. Yebo, awukwazi ukuvikela ingane yakho kuzo zonke izici; uma enqatshelwe esikoleni, cishe uzodinga ukukhuthazelela ukuhamba ngalezo zango zonke izinsuku.
Lokho kusho, usuku ngalunye oluhambayo futhi aluhambanga phambili, okungenani amandla okulahlwa ayoba khona.
5. Cabanga ukululekwa noma amanye amafomu asekela
Thatha isikhathi sokucabangela ukuthi ngabe ingane yakho ibonisa noma ibonise izibonakaliso zokucindezeleka noma ukuziphatha okuphazamiseka komphakathi. Uma ungaqiniseki , thintana nochwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo, bese uhlela iseshini yokululekwa uma kukhona isizathu sokukhathazeka. Uma kudingekile, uchwepheshe angasiza ukuguqulwa kwakho okuphakathi kwendlela ehamba ngayo inqatshelwe umphakathi. Ngenxa yalokho, ingane yakho ingase ingabi ncane amathuba okubuyisela ubuhlungu ngokuphindaphindiwe. Futhi thola izindlela zokusekela intuthuko yenhlalakahle yakho yengane ngokusekela izifiso zabo ukwenza izinto ezithile emphakathini, njengokungena ezenzakalweni nabangani, ukuthatha isigaba somdanso omusha, noma ukufunda ukudlala umculo. Into ebaluleke kakhulu okumele uyikhumbule ukuba khona nokutholakala kwengane yakho phakathi nalesi sikhathi esibucayi ekuthuthukisweni kwayo. Uma ungabagcina bekhuluma, uqoqe ingxenye yesigamu.
Umthombo
Williams, Kipling D., noNida, Steve A. Ukuphazamiseka: Imiphumela kanye nokubhekana. Izikhombisi-ndlela zamanje eSayensi Yezengqondo. 2011. 20 (2): 71-75.