"Ukuzijabulisa" kanye "neminyaka ephakathi" kungaba yimishwana eguquguqukayo. Ngomzuzu owodwa uhlangothi lwakho lugubha eceleni kwakho embhedeni, olandelayo uyatshelwa ukuthi uyamahloni. Ngezinye izikhathi izinguquko zingase zibheke ngokweqile nakakhulu, nge-interior brooding yakho ngaphakathi ekamelweni amahora ekugcineni. Ngabe kunesimo sengqondo ukukhiqizwa okuvamile okukhulayo futhi nini kubonisa okuthile okungathí sina?
Okwenza amaTweens ahlangabezane nokuzijabulisa
Uma simisa ukucabangela konke lokho okwenzekayo ngokomzwelo, ngokomzimba nasemphakathini, akumangalisi ukuthi bathola kancane kancane. Njengoba beya ekukhuleni, ama-hormone abo aqala ukushintshashintsha, okwenza ukungazinzi ngokomzwelo. I-Tweens nayo ayinalo ukuthuthukiswa ngokomzwelo ukulawula ngokugcwele imizwa yabo. Ngamanye amazwi, baveza kahle ukuthi bazizwa sengathi bathanda kanjani! Baphinde babhekane nokucindezeleka okuningi, kuhlanganise nokufuna ukuba ingane yakho encane egcinwa futhi evikelwe ngenkathi ngesikhathi esifanayo ifuna ukuba umuntu okhule ngokugcwele, ozimele. Hlanganisa lezo zakhi futhi zenza ezinye imizwelo engavamile.
Yiziphi Izinkinga Zemizwelo?
Ngisho noma iningi lezinhliziyo eziguquguqukayo liguqukile livamile, ukuphazamiseka kwemizwelo kungenza futhi kuhlume phakathi nale minyaka. Izinkinga ezimbili ezivamile zemizwelo yinkinga enkulu yokucindezeleka kanye nesifo se-bipolar. Kokubili ukuphazamiseka kuhilela izikhathi zokucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, ukunganakwa, izinkinga zokulala, ukuphazamiseka kokudla, ukukhathala nokuncipha.
Enkingeni ye-bipolar, lezi zikhathi ezicindezelekile zihamba ngezikhathi zokwenza i-mania noma i-hypomania (i-low-level mania) ehlanganisa ukungathandwa kwabathelisi esikubona noma ukucasula, ukulala kancane, ukukhuluma okunye, ukuziphatha okungathandeki nokubonisa isinqumo esibi. Abantu abadala asebekhulile noma abadala abanenkinga yokuguquguquka kwengqondo bavame ukuba neziqephu zemizwelo engase idlule amasonto noma ngaphezulu, kodwa ingane ene-bipolar ingase ishintshe phakathi kwamazwe aphezulu nephansi ngevrivini enkulu kakhulu.
Izimo Ezivamile Zemizwelo?
Ungase ucabange ukuthi izinkinga zemizwelo zizwakala kakhulu njengezinhlangothi zakho eziphakathi. Nokho, empeleni, lezi zifo zingavamile, ikakhulukazi eqenjini lobudala eliphakathi. Isifo esikhulu sokucindezeleka sishaya cishe amaphesenti angu-2 kuya kwangu-4 abantu abangaphansi kweminyaka engu-18, eba yinto evame kakhulu nokukhula kweminyaka. Isifo se-bipolar singavamile ngokweqile ngaphambi kokukhulelwa; kuphela amaphesenti angu-1.2 entsha anesifo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi izinkinga zemizwelo ngokuvamile zihamba zingatholakali lapho zisencane, ngokusho kwezingane kanye nezingane eziseBipolar Foundation. Asifuni ukuxosha isimo esingaba sína.
Ukwahlukana Phakathi Kokuzijabulisa Nezinkinga Zemizwelo
Ngakho ungatshela kanjani ukuthi ingane yakho isifo sikashukela noma nje iphakathi? Umehluko owodwa oyinhloko ukukhubazeka. Njalo ngezinye izikhathi u-sulks ngezikhathi ezithile, kodwa uqaphele ukuthi i-brooding yakho ye-tween ifika endleleni yokuya esikoleni, ukudla nokulala, ukuhlanganyela ezemidlalo noma ukuhlangana nabangani. Ingabe ngempela uhlala ngokuphila ngendlela efanayo njalo? Uma kunjalo, ukuhleka kwesimo kungenzeka kube lula. Futhi, gcina izingane ezifunda nazo kanye nabangani bakho. Benza kanjani? Yiziphi izinhlobo zokuguquguquka kwemizwelo ezenzekayo?
Ukuqaphela ukuziphatha okuvamile ebantwaneni babo kungakusiza ukuba uthole umbono wokuthi yiyiphi "evamile" - nakuba kungase kungabi yinto ejwayelekile kithi abadala! Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kufanele ukhulume nodokotela wengane yakho uma i-kati yakho ibonisa ukucindezeleka okukhulu, iqala ukuxosha emhlabeni, ithi ifuna "ukunyamalala" noma ikhuluma ngokuzibulala kanye / noma ukufuna ukulimaza abanye.
Indlela Yokusingatha Ukuzijabulisa Okuvamile
Ngakho-ke uma ucabanga ukuthi ubhekene necala lokuzijabulisa okungavamile - futhi amathuba, ukhona-ke ungabhekana kanjani na? Khumbula ukuthi ingane yakho ayikho ukuhlukumeza, kodwa kunalokho ihlukumeza i-cocktail engajwayelekile yama-hormone, ukungazinzi ngokomzwelo, nokuxabana komphakathi.
Msika kancane kancane . Ngesikhathi esifanayo, noma kunjalo, wazi ukuthi akukahle kulungile ukuthi izingane zilimaze abanye ngezenzo zabo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ziyaphi. Thuthukisa ukuzwelana kwabo ngokuchaza ukuthi izenzo zabo zithinta kanjani wena noma amanye amalungu omndeni. Gwema "imishwana" efana ne "Usukho ngokuphelele uma ukhononda ngesidlo sakusihlwa." Esikhundleni sokusebenzisa imishwana ethi "I," njengokuthi "Ngazizwa kabi lapho ukhononda ngesidlo sakusihlwa engisichitha isikhathi." Yazi ukuthi ingane yakho ingase ingaphenduli kahle okwamanje. Kungakapheli sikhathi, imizwa yabo izobuyela emuva futhi uzoba ndawonye embhedeni futhi. Yebo, okungenani okwesikhashana.