Ukuthuthukiswa kwebele kungaba yimbangela enkulu yokukhathazeka phakathi kwamantombazane aphakathi kwamantombazane. Ubukhulu besisu bungenza intombazane izwe ukuziqhenya futhi ingakhathazeki ukuthi iqalile ukuthuthukisa ngaphambi kwabahlobo bayo, noma uma ingakaqali ukuthuthukisa , kodwa bonke abangane bayo banalo. Ukwenza izinto zibe zimbi nakakhulu, izingane ezifunda nabo zingase zithathe ukummangaza ngomzimba wakhe, zenezela umlilo emlilweni.
Ngokuvamile amabele amantombazane aqala "ukuqhuma" phakathi kweminyaka engama-8 no-11. Ngezikhathi ezinjengalezi, amantombazane avame ukuzama ukufihla amabele ngaphansi kwezigqoko zokugqoka, noma angazama ukwenza amabele abo avele amakhulu, kodwa lokho kungakhuthaza nokuhleka usulu futhi ukuhleka.
Ukukhuluma nendodakazi yakho
Kunezinto eziningana ongazenza ukuze usize indodakazi yakho ngalolu shintsho. Ukuze uqale, khuluma naye ukuthi kungani umzimba wakhe ushintsha , nokuthi lesi sigaba sokuthuthukiswa sijwayelekile kanjani kumantombazane wakhe ubudala . Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi indodakazi yakho inomuzwa wokuthi izibilini zakhe zikhulu kakhulu noma zincane kakhulu, mqinisekise ukuthi zonke izintombi zakhe zizobhekana nalezi zinguquko futhi, ngamanani ahlukene.
Uma indodakazi yakho isetshenziswe ngokwemvelo kunamanye amantombazane ubudala, kungase kube umbono omuhle wokuthi ulungele ibha. Iminyango eminingi ingakulungela wena mahhala, futhi kuyindlela enhle yokuqinisekisa ukuthi indodakazi yakho igqoke ibhiya elungile kuye.
Uma enamahloni kakhulu ukuba afakwe, ungase ufune ukuthenga amabhande amaningana ngobukhulu obuhlukene ukuze uthole ubukhulu obuhle kuye.
Ukusiza Indodakazi Yakho Cope
Futhi, thatha isikhathi sokukhomba ukuthi noma yikuphi amantombazane amhlekayo akwenzayo ukuze azenzele "epholile" phambi kwabahlobo bawo noma ngenxa yokuthi unesihawu ukuthi aqala ukuthuthukisa.
Abafana abamgcobayo bangenza kanjalo ukuze bamnakekele, noma baziqhubekele phezulu kwesiteleka sezenhlalakahle.
Vumela indodakazi yakho ngezinkinga zokubhekana nazo ukuze kuthi uma ukuhleka kuqala, uzokwazi ukuyilawula. Isibonelo, mfundise ukunganaki lokho okushiwo abafundi ekilasini ngoba uma engaphenduli, ngeke kube lula ukuqhubeka nokumncenga. Enye into engavimba ukukloloda ukukhipha ihlaya. Uma othile ephawula ukuthi amabele akhe aseqalile kanjani (noma angakaqali) ukuthuthukisa, angase athi, "Angizange ngikwazi, ngingazi ukuthi ngiyabonga ngani."
Uma ukuhleka kuthatha ukuphenduka okubi noma kungavumi, kungase kube yisikhathi sokuxhumana nothisha wengane yakho noma umeluleki wokuqondisa ukucela usizo. Njengoba abantu ababili baqala ukushintsha ngokomzimba kubalulekile ukuba baqonde ukuthi ukwesekwa nothando lwakho kusekhona kubo. Qinisekisa ukuthi uthatha isikhathi sokwenza indodakazi yakho yazi ukuthi uyaziqhenya ngaye kanye nezinto azifezile futhi ukuthi ujabulile ukumbona ushintsho futhi ikhule ibe yintsha enomthwalo wemfanelo.