Ingaphakathi lakho likhula futhi uzodinga isiqondiso sokubhekana nalokho okuzayo
Iminyaka edlule ayilula kumuntu, umzali noma ingane, umfana noma intombazane. Kodwa iminyaka eyishumi nantathu ingaba nzima kakhulu kumantombazane. Ukukhulelwa kuyisiqalo nje. Ngaphambi kokuba ingane yakho iqhubekele esikoleni esiphakeme, kuzodingeka ukuthi ahambe ngendlela yakhe esikoleni esiphakathi, abafana, isithombe somzimba, ukucindezela kontanga namanye amathani. Ngenkathi ingane yakho ingase ifunde okuningi ngekilasi lezemfundo yezocansi, usafuna ukuthi umtshele ngalokho okudingeka akwazi, futhi kufanele akhumbule ukuthi uzoba khona ukuze umsize zonke izinyathelo zendlela.
Uma indodakazi yakho isanda kuqalisa iminyaka yakhe, noma uma inenkathazo yokwenza lokhu kule minyaka engavamile, ungesabi. Kukhona amathiphu ongayidlulisela ukuze umsize ahlele futhi aphumelele ukuze ngesikhathi esangena esikoleni esiphakeme, uzobe esendleleni eya ekubeni ngowesifazane osemusha owazi ukuthi uzoba khona.
Umholi Wokuba Ngaphakathi
- Ukubeletha kungokwemvelo (kodwa ubuhlungu obuncane!): Indodakazi yakho ingase ingene ekukhuleni ngenkathi iphakathi. Ukubeletha kungabesabisa intombazane, futhi zonke izinguquko abazenzayo zingenza baziqaphele. Incwadi enhle mayelana nokukhulelwa iyobamba indodakazi yakho ngolwazi oludinga ukuyifinyelela. Yisekela futhi umsize ukuba azinake izinselele zokubhekana nokukhulelwa engase abhekane nazo - njengokuthola isikhathi sakhe esikoleni, noma ukubhekana nezikhwama zokuya esikhathini.
- Abafana bangabesilisa: Kwakuyisikhathi esithile ngaphambi kokuba intombazane yakho iqaphele ukuthi abafana babengafani njengalokho ayecabanga ngaphambili. Amantombazane angama-tween angenza umfana ahlaziye, kodwa abazali bahlakaniphile ukucasula yonke into yokuphola kuze kube yilapho indodakazi yabo ikhulile futhi ikhulile kancane. Umdlalo ohambisana nobudlelwano ungaba omkhulu futhi uphazamise, futhi ufuna indodakazi yakho igxile kulokho okubaluleke kakhulu: amamaki akhe; umndeni wakhe; abangane bakhe; kanye nezithakazelo zakhe. Qinisekisa ukuthi indodakazi yakho iyazi ukuthi yikuphi ukuziphatha okufanele futhi unake ukuziphatha kwayo kwe-intanethi. Hlola, ubuze imibuzo futhi uhlale uxhumane nabanye abazali ukuze uhlale unolwazi ngalokho okwenzeka nabangane bakho nabangane bakho.
- Isikole esiphakathi sinzima: Kulungile, isikole esiphakathi kungaba nzima . Ukuxhashazwa kwanda esikoleni esiphakathi, futhi kusho ukuthi amantombazane ayindawo yonke indawo. Kodwa ngokulungiselela kancane, ungasiza indodakazi yakho ukuba ibhekane nakho kokubili. Ngaphezu kwalokho, esikoleni esiphakathi futhi kuyithuba lokuba indodakazi yakho isakaze amaphiko ayo kancane. Mkhuthaze ukuba athole iqembu, iqembu lezemidlalo, noma uhulumeni wesifundazwe. Uma engekho kulezo zesikoleni, angase anikele ukusiza uthisha ngemuva kwesikole noma ahlanganyele emisebenzini yesikhashana engazange azame ngaphambili. Ukunikeza ukukhetha, futhi lapho ehlala khona.
- Ukucindezela Kontanga Kungavunyelwa: Amathanga abhekana nokucindezela kontanga okuningi. Ukucindezela ukulingana, ukucindezelwa ukugqoka izingubo ezithile, ukucindezela ukuba usukule ngisho nokucindezela ukuxhaphaza ezinye izinkinga. Nika ingane yakho ukuzethemba okuzoyidinga ukumelana nokucindezela kontanga okubi. Mkhuthaze ukuba akhe ubungane obuhle, futhi wazi ukuthi uzomsekela ngezikhathi ezinzima. Khombisa ukuthi abanye ubungani bangaphila futhi abanye bangaboni kahle, futhi banikeze ithuba lokukhulisa umjikelezo wabangane ngemisebenzi yangaphandle, ekamu lehlobo, esontweni noma esikoleni.
- Kukhona Amathani Okuzijabulisa Okudingekayo: Ukuba intombazane ephakathi kungaba nemiphumela emihle. Indodakazi yakho kufanele yazi ukuthi le minyaka igcwele ushintsho nethuba. Msize ahlole izithakazelo zakhe namakhono, futhi qiniseka ukuthi uthatha isikhathi sokubopha nengane yakho ngaso sonke isikhathi. Hlela isikhathi ndawonye, futhi ulindele izenzakalo zonyaka ozozi ukuthi uzozijabulela, njengezinsuku zokuzalwa, izinsuku zokuphumula, ukuphumula kwehlobo nokuningi.
- Ungakhathazeki Kakhulu: Amantombazane amantombazane akhathazeke ngakho konke. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bayathandwayo noma cha, baningi noma bahlakaniphile. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sinesisindo kakhulu noma sincane kakhulu. Uhlu luqhubeka nokuqhubeka. Uzosiza indodakazi yakho ngokuyifundisa ukubeka izinto ngendlela efanele futhi ukwamukela okuhle. Lokho kuzomsiza ngeminyaka yakhe yangaphakathi, nangaphezulu. Futhi kungakusiza ukuba uphathe izinkathazo nokukhathazeka kwakho kule minyaka embalwa ezayo futhi.