Lapho Uzobuka Nalokho Ongakubuza Uma Ufuna Ukululekwa Ukungahambi kahle
Uma ufuna umeluleki ukuthi akusize ukuthi ubhekane no-infertility noma udokotela wakho udinga ngaphambi kwezokwelapha ezithile, ungase uzibuze ukuthi ungathola kanjani umuntu ozokwenza umsebenzi. Kunezizathu eziningi zokufuna isazi, futhi ezinye ngaphezu kwamanye zidinga umeluleki ngolwazi oluthile lokungasebenzi.
Nazi ezinye amathiphu ukukusiza uthole umeluleki olungile kuwe.
Qinisekisa ukuthi ulayisensi
Lokhu kungase kubonakale kusobala, kodwa kukhona umehluko phakathi komuthi oqeqeshiwe nokuthi yini eyaziwa ngokuthi "umqeqeshi wokungabhubhi" noma "umxhumanisi wokungabhubhi." Uma ubhekana nokucindezeleka nokukhathazeka, noma udokotela wakho udinga ukuthi ubone udokotela, wena udinga umuntu onguchwepheshe wezempilo engokomqondo onelayisensi - hhayi umqeqeshi wokungabi nabantwana noma umxhumanisi.
Kufanele ufune umuntu onesidingo esiphakeme endaweni yokuphila kwengqondo, njenge-psychology noma umsebenzi wezenhlalakahle, futhi uhlole ukuthi unesilayisensi sokusebenza esimweni sakho.
Hlola Database ASRM
Indawo eyodwa enhle ukuthola umhlengikazi oqeqeshwe ukusebenzisana neziguli ezingenasifo sokubeletha yi-American Society of Reproductive Medicine's Mental Health Professionals database. Ungasesha idolobha lakho, isimo noma igama lomuthi uma wazi ukuthi ufuna bani.
"Laba otholampilo bahileleke emithini yokuzala futhi abaningi baya emfundweni eqhubekayo ehlinzekwa yi-ASRM ukuba bahlale njengamanje ngezici ezingokwengqondo nezokwelashwa zokwelapha ukuzala," kusho uPenny Joss Fletcher, umeluleki wezempilo yengqondo ogxile ekubhekaneni nokungaboni kahle nokwamukela ingane.
Ungase futhi ufune ukuhlola nge-RESOLVE: I-National Infertility Association, noma uthintane ne-American Fertility Association. Bangase bakwazi ukukudlulisela kubeluleki bendawo.
Buza udokotela wakho ngezincomo
Ngisho noma udokotela wakho engeyena owakucele ukuthi ubone umeluleki, udokotela wakho usengumthombo omuhle wokuthola umeluleki wendawo ojwayele ukungabi nalutho.
Qinisekisa ukuthi uMeluleki Ufundiswa Emibhalweni Yokungafaki
Uma ubona umeluleki ukusiza ukubhekana nezici ezingokomzwelo kuphela, kungenzeka noma ungadingi umuntu onokuqeqeshwa okukhethekile ekululekeleni okungenasifo, nakuba kungasiza. Kodwa-ke, uma udinga ukubona umeluleki ukukusiza ukuthi uhambe ngezinketho zakho noma udokotela wakho udinga ukuba ubone umuntu ngaphambi kokwelapha okuthile, bese udinga othile oqeqeshwe ngokukhethekile.
"Uma ufuna usizo ukuze ukwazi ukuthi yiziphi ongakhetha kuzo, uzodinga uthisha ongachaza lezo zindlela, kodwa ngendlela engakhethi. Yingakho ukuthola ochwepheshe onolwazi ngomuthi wokuzala kungaba obaluleke kakhulu, "kuchaza uFletcher. "Kulezi zimo, lo mtholampilo angabelana ngolwazi oluthe xaxa cishe ngendlela yokufundisa. Kodwa-ke uzobuya ukuze akusize uhlaziye ulwazi olunikeziwe ukuze wenze isinqumo njengoba ukhetha ukwelashwa kukuzwa kanjani. "
Inkhulumomphendvulwano nemibuto yekubuza
Ngaphambi kokuba uqashe umeluleki, kufanele uzizwe ukhululekile ukubuza imibuzo eminingi njengoba uthanda mayelana nezinsizakalo zakhe nesipiliyoni. Abeluleki abaningi banikeza iseshini yokuqala yamahhala kuphela ngale njongo. Kubalulekile ukuthi umuntu obona umuntu ozwa ukhululekile naye.
Imibuzo ongase ucabangele ukubuza ihlanganisa:
- Yiliphi isipiliyoni onakho sokungabikho, okungumuntu siqu noma ochwepheshe?
- Uke wafunda noma yikuphi ukuqeqeshwa okhethekile kokungasebenzi? Uyazi kahle ohlangothini lwezokwelapha lokungasebenzi?
- Unayo yini amaklayenti abhekana nokuphelelwa amandla?
- Uzimisele ukubhalela udokotela wami wokuzala? (Uma kukhona)
- Ungakanani imali? Uyamukela yini umshwalense wami?
- Iyini ukutholakala kwakho?
- Ucabanga ukuthi ungangisiza?
Uma Ingasebenzi, Thola Omunye Owodwa
Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi uma ubuhlobo nomthandi wakho okhethiweyo engasebenzi, ungabiza ngokuthi uvele uphinde uthole umuntu omusha.
Kumele ukhulume naye ngakho kuqala, uma kungenzeka. Kodwa wazi ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi, akusebenzi.
Ngaxosha ochwepheshe bami bokuqala lapho ebeka amazwana mayelana nokuhlukunyezwa kwami engangikuzwanga nakho. Kodwa-ke, ochwepheshe bami wesibili uye waba usizo olukhulu, futhi ngiyajabula ngokuthi ngenza ushintsho.
Eminye imicabango yokugcina esuka ku-Fletcher:
"Udokotela kufanele ahlinzekele indawo ephephile ukuba wabelane ngemicabango yakho nemizwa yakho ngohambo lwakho lokungakhulelwa ukuze ukwazi ukuthi kungani uzizwa ngaleyo ndlela, nokuthi ufuna ukuqhubekela phambili. Udokotela ngeke akwenze izinqumo zakho - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kufanele yini noma ungayifuni i-IVF noma usebenzise amaqanda abanikeli noma uqhubekele ekutholeni ingane yakho.Umsebenzi wezokwelapha ukusiza ukucacisa nokuveza izidingo zakho, imizwelo kanye nezinhloso zakho. Uzofuna uthisha ongazizwa ukuthi awuhluleli isinqumo kodwa nje ukukusiza ukuba wenze eyodwa. "
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