Izindlela Eziningi Ezizama Ukuqonda Izimbangela Zokucindezeleka Kwengqondo
Uma unzima kakhudlwana ukubhekana nokuphelelwa amandla, awuwedwa. Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi ukucindezeleka kwengqondo okubhekene nabesifazane abanesifo sokubeletha kufana nokukabesifazane abhekana nezifo ezinjengomdlavuza, i-HIV, nobuhlungu obungapheli. Ucwaningo luye lwabona ukuthi amadoda asengozini yokukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka, ukuzwa izinhlungu zomzimba nezinhlungu ezihlobene nokucindezeleka ngokomzwelo, ukungasebenzi ngokocansi, nokunciphisa ukuzethemba.
Lezi zimo zengqondo zingase zenzeke kungakhathaliseki ukuthi "ngubani" ongenasifo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lo mbhangqwana ubhekene nokungasebenzi komuntu wesifazane , insikazi yesifo sokungasebenzi , kokubili ukungabi namuntu wesifazane nowesifazane, noma izimbangela ezingachaziwe .
Ukungenzi lutho akuyona isimo esilula ukubhekana nayo. Ungase uzizwe ucindezelekile emphakathini ukuba ube nezingane noma uzizwe ukwahlulelwa kubangane abahlose kahle, amalungu omndeni, noma ngisho nabantu abangabazi. Abanye bangase banikeze amathiphu akuzona zonke eziwusizo noma ukusikisela ukuthi ukukhathazeka kwakho ngandlela-thile ukubeka icala (hhayi iqiniso).
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungase uhlaselwe imizwa yokungakwazi, ukungabi nalutho, noma ukwehluleka okuphazamisa kokubili izinga lakho lokuphila kanye nekhwalithi yobuhlobo bakho.
Indlela eyodwa yokuzisiza ukuvuma imizwa yakho bese ubona izinto ezikucindezela kakhulu. Ngokwenza kanjalo, ungaqala ukwakha amasu okubhekana nokunciphisa le mizwa.
Impembelelo Engokomzwelo Yokungafaki
Imizwelo ehlobene nokungabi nabantwana ivela ngaphakathi nangaphandle.
Emiphakathini eminingi, isidingo sokuba nezingane sitholakale zisencane kakhulu, kaningi sinomqondo wokuphuthumayo kulabo abazokukhumbuza ukuthi "iwashi ikhathaza."
Uma ubhekene nalolu hlobo lokucindezeleka ngokomzwelo, kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa imizwa kanye nokulindela okuye kwafakwa kuwe kulabo ozibophezele wona.
Omunye uvame ukudlala kokulandelayo. Isibonelo, imibhangqwana ingaziqhathanisa neontanga eziye zaba nezingane. Lokhu kungabangela imizwa yokuziphendulela nokukhathazeka .
Ngenkathi imibhangqwana eminye isondelana ndawonye njengoba ibhekana nokungabi nabantwana ndawonye, abanye bayithola behlukana. Ukucindezeleka emshadweni kuvame ukungabi nabantwana futhi kungaholela ekuboneni okungenangqondo ukuthi konke kuzoba kuhle uma kukhona ingane futhi konke kuyobe kungalungile uma kungenjalo.
Ubuhlobo bungase buqhubekele phambili ngenqubo yangempela yokuzama ukukhulelwa. Ukuhlela ubulili ngokuvuthwa kungenza ukuba ukusondelana kube nomuzwa wokuthanda. Ucwaningo luye lwathola ukulala ngokobulili ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kungaholela ezinkingeni zokusebenza ngokobulili, kubantu, nokunciphisa ukwaneliseka ngokocansi jikelele, kokubili amadoda nabesifazane.
Uma kuhileleka imithi yokwelapha , izindleko zingaphinde zenze umqondo wokuhluleka umuntu angase ahlangabezane nakho, ikakhulukazi uma izindleko zibeka lo mbhangqwana zibe yizinkinga zemali. Izindleko zokwelapha zivela kuma-dollar amakhulu kuya ezinkulungwaneni zezinkulungwane zamaRandi, futhi ukuzama ukukhokha lezo zindleko-noma ukuzama ukunquma ukuthi zingena esikweletu-kungabangela ukucindezeleka kokubili abalingani.
Ukubona Imizwa Yakho
Ngokuvamile kunalokho, imizwelo ehlobene nokungazali akubangelwa into eyodwa futhi into eyodwa yedwa.
Bavame ukukhathala ngokulindeleke ngaphakathi nangaphandle.
Ukunqoba lokhu kudinga ukuthi ubone futhi ubeke imizwelo okungenzeka uyizwe. Lokhu kungafaka:
- Imizwa yokuhluleka noma ukungakwazi
- Imizwa yokulahlekelwa
- Imizwa yecala
- Imizwa yokugwetshwa
- Imizwa yokuhlazeka
- Umhawu noma intukuthelo
- Ukwesaba ukulahlwa noma ukulahlwa
- Ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba
- Ukucindezeleka kwezezimali
Uma usuqaphele imizwa yakho, cabanga ngalokho okushiwo imizwa, lapho uvela khona, nokuthi labo abesabayo baqondiswa bani .
Kuyinto eyodwa, isibonelo, ukuzizwa unecala. Kodwa unecala ngalokho? Ingabe imizwa yakho noma imizwa yakho isekelwe ekulindeni kwabanye?
Futhi uzizwa unecala bani? Oshade naye? Umndeni wakho? Ikusasa owazicabangele wena?
Ngokuzibuza le mibuzo, ungase uqale ukuqonda le mizwelo futhi wabelane nabo nomuntu ongasiza.
Ukuthola Ukusekela
Ucwaningo luye lwathola ukuthi ukuvuleka mayelana nokungazali futhi ukufuna ukwesekwa ngaphandle kungasiza kokubili amadoda nabesifazane ukuba babhekane nokucindezeleka ngokomzwelo.
Ngezinye izikhathi, indawo engcono kakhulu yokuthola ukwesekwa ngumlingani wakho, kepha lokhu akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ukucindezela okuqongelekile ongayithola kokubili kungenza kube nzima ukuhlehlisa imizwelo yakho ndawonye. Ukufuna ukwesekwa okuvela ngaphandle kobudlelwane kungakusiza kokubili.
Qiniseka ukuthi uyafinyelela kubangani nomndeni , kodwa qaphela ekukhethweni kwakho . Ungathola ukuthi umthombo wemizwa yakho emibi ingase ivela kulabo abaseduze nawe. Amaqembu okusekela angase abe usizo, akuvumele ukuthi uzwise imizwa nemicabango ongakwazi ukwabelana kwenye indawo, futhi uthole ukuqonda kulabo abaye bekhona ngempela.
Ungesabi ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe kusuka kumeluleki . Ungabona umuthi ngamunye noma ndawonye njengombhangqwana, kuye ngezidingo zakho. Nakuba akudingeki ukuba ubone ngokuqondile umelaphi owazi kahle kakhulu ukungasebenzi, kungasiza (futhi kuyadingeka) uma udinga usizo ukwenza izinqumo ezinolwazi. Isibonelo, uma ucabangela ama- egg donor IVF noma i- surrogacy , umtholampilo wakho ungadinga izikhathi eziningi zokwelulekwa ngaphambi kokuqhubekela phambili.
Izwi elivela ku-Verywell
Ekugcineni, umgomo ukuthola ukwamukela imizwa yakho kanye neyomlingani wakho. Ukungenzi lutho akulula. Zama ukuzwela wena nomlingani wakho njengoba uhlangabezana nale nselele yokuphila ndawonye.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani, ungavumeli ukungena kwezingane kuthathe impilo yakho. Kwezinye izimo, ungase uthande ukucabangela ukuphumula ekuzameni ukukhulelwa . Ikhefu lingakunikeza isikhathi sokukhumbula ukuthi ungaphezu kwenzalo yakho, ikunike ukubuyiswa kokucindezeleka kokuzama ngamandla, futhi unikeze isikhala ukuze ufunde amasu wokubhekana.
Uma ukhathazekile ukuthi awunawo isikhathi sokuthatha ikhefu (ngoba ukuzala kunciphisa ngeminyaka yobudala ), khuluma nodokotela wakho. Ngempela ungase uthathe isinyathelo emuva okungenani izinyanga ezimbalwa, futhi lokhu kungenza umehluko omkhulu empilweni yakho engokomzwelo.
Okubaluleke kakhulu, yazi ukuthi lesi sikhathi esinzima siyodlula. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukuphelelwa yisifo sakho sokuxazulula ukuxazulula-uma ekugcineni ukhulelwa futhi unomntwana, uthola, noma unomntwana ongenabantwana-lokho kuzoba ngcono. Isikhathi, ukululekwa, nokusekelwa kwabangani bakho nomndeni wakho kuzosiza.
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