Ukunquma Ukubeka Ukwelashwa Okunomsoco kanye Nokukhulelwa Kwakho Inhloso Yokubamba
Ucabanga ukuphumula ekuzameni ukukhulelwa? Khona-ke cishe kufanele. Ngisho noma ungase uzizwe sengathi awukwazi ukuyeka, noma uthanda ukuthi kube lula ukuqhubeka kunokuthatha ikhefu.
Kufanele ukhulume nodokotela wakho, okokuqala, kuqala. (Ngaphezu kwalokho ngezansi.) Nokho, uma udokotela evuma, futhi ungadlula ukukhathazeka okuqala kokunquma ukuyeka, isipiliyoni singaphilisa.
Ukuzama ukukhulelwa kungase kuphazamise ngokomzwelo . Ungase uzizwe sengathi impilo yakho yonke iqala ukukhulelwa.
Ukuthatha isikhathi kude - kungaba izinyanga ezimbalwa noma iminyaka embalwa - kunganciphisa amazinga okucindezeleka futhi kukunikeze isikhathi sokuthola impilo yakho yonke .
Izizathu Ongayicabangela Ukuthatha Ukuphumula
Kunezizathu eziningi ongenza unqume ukuthatha ikhefu kusuka ku-TTC.
Uphelelwe ngokomzwelo ngokomzwelo.
Ukungahambi kahle kuhlobene nokucindezeleka , ukukhathazeka nokucindezeleka okukhulu . Ungakwazi (futhi kufanele!) Ufune ukululekwa ukuze usize ekubhekaneni nokuphelelwa amandla.
Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi, ukwelashwa akwanele. Ngezinye izikhathi, udinga isikhathi esiningi ukucubungula ukuthi ubuphi.
Udinga ukwenza isinqumo esikhulu.
Isinqumo sakho esikhulu singabandakanya ukukhetha ukuthi ungakwazi yini ukukhokhela ukuhlolwa noma ukwelashwa okuphakanyiswa umtholampilo wakho wokuzala , noma ngabe ufuna ukucabangela iqanda, umbungu, noma umsizi wesilisa, noma ngisho nokuzikhethela .
Uma ungaphandle kwakho konke, ngisho nenyanga noma amabili nje kuphela, kungakusiza wenze isinqumo esingaxhunyiwe emibonweni yesikhashana.
Usuvele uhlangabezane nokulahlekelwa.
Ukuthatha umhlalaphansi kunzima emzimbeni wakho kanye nomoya wakho. Ngisho noma udokotela wakho egcizelela emzimbeni wakho ukulungele, wena nomlingani wakho yibo kuphela abangakwazi ukuthi ulungele ngokomzwelo.
Uzizwa udinga ikhefu.
Umkhawulo wokucindezeleka wonke umuntu uhlukile. Awudingi ukuthi uhambe ngezinyathelo ezintathu ze-IVF ukuze uzizwe uphisiwe.
Ungase uzizwe uphisiwe ngaphandle kokuthi ufinyelele nesigaba sokwelashwa kokuzala.
Futhi, izinga lokucindezeleka wena nomlingani wakho ohlangenwe nakho kuncike ezintweni eziningi, kuhlanganise nobudala bakho, isimo somndeni wakho, ukuxilongwa kwakho, isimo sakho sezezimali, nobuntu bakho.
Uma uzizwa udinga ikhefu, khuluma nodokotela wakho bese uthatha eyodwa.
Awunaso isiqiniseko uma kufanele uqhubeke nokwelapha.
Ukwenza isinqumo sokuyeka ukuphishekela ukwelashwa akulula.
Uma ungakakulungeli ukuyibiza nge-quits, kodwa awuqiniseki nokuthi ufuna ukuqhubeka, cabanga ukuthatha ikhefu lesikhashana kunalokho.
Khona-ke, ngemva kokuba usufike isikhathi sokudlula i-decompress, ungenza isinqumo sakho.
Izinzuzo kanye Nokuzivocavoca kokuthatha i-Break
Ezinye zezinzuzo zokuthatha ikhefu kufaka phakathi ...
- Isikhathi sokucabangela isinyathelo sakho esilandelayo ngaphandle kwengcindezi enkulu
- Isikhathi sokukhumbula ukuthi impilo ikhona uma ungazibophezeli ngezinaliti noma ukushaya izipikili zakho phakathi neviki ezimbili ulinde
- Isikhathi sokucubungula lokho oye wadlula ngaphandle kokugqugquzela ngokucindezela okuningi kwe- TTC ngesikhathi esifanayo
- Isikhathi sokwenza izinto ongeke wenziwe uma uzama ukukhulelwa
Maye, ukuthatha ikhefu nakho kunamaphutha. Ezinye zazo zihlanganisa ...
- Isikhathi esilahlekile, ikakhulukazi uma uneminyaka engaphezulu kwengu-35 noma uma imbangela yakho yokungabi nabantwana idlula isikhathi (Khuluma nodokotela wakho ngaphambi kokuthi ucabange ukuthi awukwazi ukuthatha ikhefu.)
- Ukukhathazeka okungaphezulu (Abanye abantu bangathanda nje ukuthola izinto ngaphandle kokukhulisa isipiliyoni jikelele.)
- Ukulahlekelwa ngokwezimali (isibonelo, uma usuhlelo lokubuyisela imali lwe-IVF oludinga ukuba uqedele inombolo ethile yemigudu yokwelapha esikhathini esithile, ungase ulahlekelwe izinkulungwane zamaRandi uma uyeka "maduzane." Ungase ulahlekelwe ukubuyiselwa kwakho.)
Indlela Yokuthatha Ukuphumula
Into yokuqala okufanele uyenze ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho.
Mbuze ukuthi uma uthatha ikhefu kungancipha amathuba akho okuphumelela uma uqala ukuzama futhi. Uma isikhathi kuyisici, buza ukuthi ikhefu elifushane lingenzeka yini.
Ngisho nezinyanga ezimbili zingakusiza uma ukhululekile.
Futhi, khumbula ukuthi noma ngabe udokotela wakho uthi amathuba akho okuphumelela angancipha ngekhefu, udinga ukukala ukuthi yini ebaluleke kakhulu okwamanje.
Ingabe isidingo sakho sokuphumula ngokomzwelo sibaluleke kakhulu? Noma ingabe amathuba okuba nombono wekusasa kubalulekile kakhulu?
Ukukhuluma nomthandi oqonda ukungabi nabantwana kungakusiza ukuthi usebenze kulo mbuzo.
Okulandelayo, chaza ukuthi "ukuthatha ikhefu" kusho kuwe.
Eminye imibhangqwana izothatha isinqumo "sokuzama kodwa hhayi ukuvimbela."
Lokhu kusho ukuthi ngeke balandele ukuvota noma bahambe ngokusebenzisa imithi yokwelapha , kodwa ngeke bahambe ngokulawula ukuzalwa .
Kwabanye, ukuthatha ikhefu kusho ukuvimbela nokusebenzisa uhlobo oluthile lokulawulwa kokuzalwa.
Kungase kubonakale kungaqondakali ukuvimbela ukukhulelwa emva kokulandela ukubhekana nokungasebenzi. Kodwa uma uvimbela, ngeke ushiye uzibuza njalo ngenyanga uma ukhulelwe naphezu kokungazami.
Okokugcina, usethe usuku lokuphela, noma okungenani usuku lokubukezwa kabusha, ngokuphumula kwakho. Lesi yisikhathi wena nomngane wakho ozoxoxa ngayo noma ungaqala ukuzama futhi.
Ukuthatha ikhefu iholide - hhayi isinqumo sokugcina sokuyeka ukuphathwa kahle (okuyinto ehamba nesibalo esiphezulu ngokomzwelo).
Ukuba nosuku lokuphela oluvunyelwene ngalo kunganciphisa ukungezwani phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho, ikakhulukazi uma nonke ningeke nilangazelela ukuyeka ukuzama isikhathi esithile.
Ukunquma Ukuzama Futhi
Khumbula ukuthi nguwe kuphela onganquma uma usulungele ukuzama futhi. Kufanele kube isinqumo esisodwa phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho.
Uma omunye wenu engakakulungeli okwamanje, cabanga ukukhuluma nomuthi owazi kahle ukungasebenzi. Ukuba nomuntu wesithathu ongathathi hlangothi ukuxoxisana kungasiza.