Isizathu sokuthi abantu bayeke ukwelashwa kwesibeletho kanye nezimpikiswano eziphathelene ne-IVF
Uma ngabe ubhekene nokubhekana nokungasebenzi, kungenzeka ukuthi uzwe okuningi ngokuba ngummeli wakho. Kodwa ukuthi isiguli esiphethwe amandla okungazalwa sisho ukwazi zonke izinketho zakho, futhi ukhetha ukungaphishekeli ukwelashwa kokuzala kungenye yalezo zindlela.
Yiziphi ezinye zezizathu ezingakuphishekeli ukwelashwa kokuzala noma i-vitro fertilization (IVF)? Ake sibuke ezinye zezimpikiswano eziphathelene nokuphathwa kokwelapha uma ungaqiniseki ngezinyathelo zakho ezilandelayo, noma uma ufuna nje izizathu zokusiza abathandekayo bakho baqonde isinqumo owenzile.
Ukukhetha Ukungahambisani Nokunakekelwa Ukwelashwa kuyindlela
Enye yezinketho zokwelapha ukwelashwa ayikho ukwelashwa. Nakuba lokhu kukhulunywa nje kuphela, kuyindlela "efanele" kubantu abaningi. Abanye abantu bangakhetha ukungalokothi baphathe ukwelashwa okuvamile okuzala, kuyilapho abanye bewela eziningana zokwelapha bese banquma "izinga elilandelayo" lokwelapha into abangafuni ukuyenza.
Asikwazi ukugcizelela ngokwanele ukuthi lesi sinqumo singewe nomlingani wakho wedwa. Uma ubhekene nokuphelelwa amandla okungenzeka ungumamukeli wendunduma yeseluleko esingaceliwe. Abantu abangakaze babhekane nokungaboni kahle ngokwabo bangabonisa ngokuzumayo "imibono yabo yobuchwepheshe" ngalokho okufanele ukwenze. Kungase kudingeke uziphinda kaningi uma usho ukuthi ukungenzi ukwelashwa kuyindlela yokwelapha efanelekile.
Kungani Ukukhetha Ukungahambisani Nokunakekelwa Ukwelashwa Kunzima Kakhulu
Ukunquma ukuthi ukuqala noma ukuphishekela ukwelashwa kokuzala kuyinkimbinkimbi ngisho nalapho kunabantu ababili kuphela ababathintekayo.
Kungakhuthaza ukuba uhlole izingozi nezinzuzo zalezi zelashwa nokuthi isinqumo sakho singase sisho ukuthini isikhathi eside. Udinga ukwenza isinqumo ngokusekelwe kulokho okungcono kakhulu wena nomlingani wakho wedwa-hhayi umndeni wakho nabangane. Lokho kusho, lokhu kulula ukushiwo kunokuba kwenziwe.
Umbhangqwana ungase wesabe ukuthi umndeni wabo kanye nabangani bazosabela kanjani esinqumweni.
Bangase bakhathazeke ngokuthi umndeni uzobafaka icala ngokuthi "abanandaba" ngemizwa yabo ngale ndaba. Unina wabo angabafaka icala "ngokungakhathaleli" ngesifiso sabo sokuba nomzukulu, isibonelo.
Bangase bakhathazeke ngokuthi abangane bazoqeda ubuhlungu obungokomzwelo bokungakhulelwa kwabo ngoba "abazange bazame lokho kanzima." (Labo bantu bekungalungile, yebo!)
Izizathu Zokuthi Ungalandeleli Ukwelashwa Kwenzalo
Wena nomlingani wakho ningacabangela ngokujulile ukhetho lokungafuni ukulandela imithi yokwelapha futhi ufisa ukubona ezinye zezimpikiswano ngokumelene nalezi zindlela zokwelapha. Noma, wena nomlingani wakho kungenzeka ukuthi unqume ngokumelene nokwelashwa okungenasifo futhi ufisa ukuthola izimpikiswano zokusekela isinqumo sakho phakathi komndeni nabangani abangase bazizwe ngendlela ehlukile. Yiziphi ezinye zezimpikiswano ekusekeleni ukwelashwa okungekudala kokubeletha?
Imithi yokwelapha iyabiza.
Nakuba abanye bengase bathi ukungabi namali okwanele akuyona isinqumo ngempela, kodwa kunalokho ukuhluleka ukuphishekela ukwelashwa, imali ivimbela imibhangqwana eminingi ekuphishekeleni ukwelashwa kwabantwana abangenasifo. Ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi " ukungabi nakwezimali ngokwezimali ."
Ngenhloso yezingxoxo zethu lapha, noma kunjalo, sigxile ekwenzeni isinqumo sezezimali mayelana nokuphathwa.
Ngaphandle kwe-inshuwalense (yiziphi ezimbalwa ezinezokwelapha) kanye nezibonelelo kanye nezibonelelo (okungezona wonke umuntu ofanelekayo), kunezindlela eziningi zokukhokhela ukwelashwa kokuzala. Abanye badinga ukuzidela okungaphezulu (futhi ngisho nobungozi) kunabanye. Izinketho zingafaka phakathi ukuthola umsebenzi wesibili, ukushiya noma yiziphi izinsuku zeminyaka ezayo, noma uhlala impilo engavamile. Noma ngisho nokukhipha imali , ukuthenga indlu yesibili ekhaya, nokuya esikhwameni lesikweletu.
Zonke lezi zinketho zingafaka ukucindezeleka okukhulu kuwe nobuhlobo bakho. Ingxenye enkulu kunazo zonke kungase kungabi ngisho nokukhokha ekugcineni. Akukho ukwelashwa kokuzala okuqinisekisiwe ukusebenza.
Ungase uthathe isinqumo sokuthi ukuthatha izinyathelo ezidinga ukukhokhela ukwelashwa akusho ukuthi akunangqondo kuwe, noma akuhambisani nemigomo yakho yokuphila.
Ungase ube nemali egciniwe futhi ubeke eceleni futhi unqume ukuthi awufuni ukuyisebenzisa ngaleyo njongo. Ngenxa yokuthi unayo imali akusho ukuthi manje kufanele uyisebenzise ukwelashwa. Ungase ukhethe ukusebenzisa leyo mali ukuze uphishekele ukutholwa esikhundleni, noma ngezinye izinhloso ozikhethelayo.
Ngamanye amazwi, izindleko zingase zibe yisizathu sokuba ungafuni ukuphishekela ukungabi nabantwana, futhi izindleko akusho ukuthi awunayo imali.
Ukunquma Ukuqhubeka Ukuzama Ukuthola Ngaphandle Kosizo
Ungase unqume ukuqhubeka uzama ukukhulelwa ngokwakho, noma ngabe izinkinga zakho zokuphumelela zincane kakhulu. Ngokuqinisekile lokhu kuyindlela futhi akufani nokungazinaki ukukhubazeka kwakho nokuzenza sengathi kuzozixazulula ngokwakho.
Kungumqondo omuhle ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngaphambi kokwenza lesi sinqumo. Ezinye izimbangela zokungazalwa kungaba yingozi empilweni yakho yonke. Kodwa-ke, uma udokotela wakho ekuhlolisisile futhi eqinisekisa ukuthi unempilo enhle, kulungile ukukhetha ukushiya umzali kuze kube yilezi zinsuku.
Ukufuna Ukugwema Izingozi Zezokwelapha
Imithi yokwelapha ngokuvamile iphephile, kodwa izingozi.
Ngisho neClomid inezingozi nemiphumela emibi , nakuba isengozini esincane kakhulu uma kuqhathaniswa nobuchwepheshe bokuzala obufana no-IVF.
Izingozi nemiphumela emibi yemithi yokuzala ingaba nemiphumela emibi kuya kwi- ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome .
Izinqubo ze-IVF zithwala izingozi , ngenxa yezizathu eziningana ezivela ekuhlinzekeni kokuhlinzwa kweqanda, ezinkingeni zokukhulelwa okuningi. Akuwona wonke umuntu ofuna ukuthatha lezo zingozi.
Angifuni Ukubhekana Nokucindezeleka Kokuzwela
Ukwelapha ukwelashwa kungabangela ukucindezeleka okukhulu , futhi ukucindezeleka kuvela ekujuleni komzwelo ukulinda ukubona ukuthi ukhulelwe, kumkhuba okumele ulandelwe ngokucophelela, "amahomoni avela esihogweni" njengoba ezinye zemithi zichazwa kabanzi. Unganquma ukuthi awufuni lokho kucindezeleka empilweni yakho.
Kukhona ukusekelwa ngaphandle, kufaka phakathi izinketho ezifana nabahlinzeki bokuzala , amaqembu okusekela , nezinhlelo zomzimba wengqondo . Kodwa ukwesekwa akuqedi konke ukucindezeleka; lokho kwenza kube lula ukubekezeleleka.
Ucwaningo olwenziwe eScotland nase-United States lucacise izizathu ezingokwengqondo njengokubaluleke kakhulu ezinqumweni zokungazitholi ukwelapha. Eqinisweni, eSweden naseNetherlands lapho ukwelapha ukwelashwa kuncedwa uhulumeni, phakathi kuka-50 nesigamu sesine abantu bakhetha ukungaqhubeki ngokugcwele okukhethwa kukho.
Nokho, inothi, ukuthi ukucindezeleka kuye kwafunyanwa njengesizathu esisodwa sokungaphenyi ukwelashwa kokungabi nabantwana. Uma uzizwa ungase uhlupheke, khuluma nodokotela wakho ngalokho ozizwayo ngaphambi kokwenza noma yiziphi izinqumo.
Akufuni Ukuphishekela Izinyathelo Eziphakanyisiwe
Kunezinketho eziningi zokwelashwa ezingenakuhlukunyezwa kwezintambo ezitholakalayo, futhi unganquma ukuthi uzozama ezinye, kodwa hhayi zonke. Ngokwesibonelo:
- Ungase unqume ukuthi uvulekile ezithombeni ezincane ezifana ne-Clomid, kodwa akukho okuthuthukisiwe.
- Unganquma ukuthi uzozama i-IUI (intrauterine insemination) kodwa hhayi IVF (in vitro fertilization.)
- Ungase unqume ukuthi ukusebenzisa i-egg donor , umnikezeli wesilisa, noma umnikeli wombungu akuyona into ongathanda ukuyenza.
- Ungase unqume ukuthi ukuzikhethela akuyona into ongayicabangela.
Akudingeki ukuba ube "nesizathu esihle" sokuthi uphishekele lezi zindlela zokwelapha. Ngezinye izikhathi, into nje ayizizwa kahle kuwe nomlingani wakho.
Kulungile.
Ukuba nezinqunto Zenkolo noma Zokuziphatha
Abanye abantu banezinkolelo zenkolo noma zokuziphatha ezenzweni zokwelapha.
Ungase ungakhathazeki ngomqondo wokukhulelwa okwenzeka ebhodini noma okukhathazekile ngokudala "imibungu" eyengeziwe .
Ungase ungafuni ukwenza izinqumo mayelana nama-embroshi "asele" noma ungahambisani nabo. Ungase ube nokungabaza ngokusebenzisa amaqanda noma ama-egg donor noma usebenzisa i-surrogate.
Khuluma njalo nodokotela wakho mayelana nokukhathazeka kwakho kuqala, njengoba kungase kube nezinketho ezingahambi ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokududuza.
Uma kungenjalo, kulungile ukuthi cha, kodwa ngiyabonga.
Njengombhalo ohlangothini olubalulekile, abanye abantu emphakathini ongapheliyo bangakwazi ukuzivikela ngokuqinile mayelana nokuziphatha kwemithi yokwelapha. Abathandekayo hhayi nje ngoba bakholelwa ukuthi ukwelashwa kuyamukeleka, kepha futhi ngoba ezinye zeqembu lezombangazwe zenze umsebenzi wazo ukwenza ezinye izindlela zingekho emthethweni noma ezingatholakali.
Zama ukungadidisi uthando lwabo-olugxilwe ngesifiso sokuvikela labo kanye nabanye abafanele ukukhetha-njengokuhlasela komuntu siqu kwisinqumo sakho sokuphishekela ukwelashwa ngezizathu zenkolo noma zokuziphatha.
Ukunquma Ukuphishekela Ukutholwa
Ungase uthathe isinqumo sokuthi uma ungeke ukwazi ukukhulelwa ngokwakho, ungathanda ukuya ngqo ekutholeni futhi ulashwe.
Kungenzeka ukuthi uhlale ufuna ukwamukela. Noma kungase kube yinto enqume ukuyenza ngemva kokuthola ukuhlolwa kwengane yakho.
Vele uqiniseke ukuthi usebenza nomeluleki ukusiza ukubhekana nosizi lokungabi nalutho ngaphambi kokuba uqale inqubo yokwamukelwa. Ukwamukelwa akuthathi esikhundleni sokuba nengane yezinto eziphilayo noma ukususa ubuhlungu bokungabikho. Kungenye indlela yokwakha umndeni.
Ukunquma Ukuba Ngingenabantwana (Cha) Ngokukhetha
Ungakhetha ukuphishekela ukwelashwa futhi, esikhundleni salokho, uphile impilo engenazo izingane.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ucabanga ukuthi awunabantwana ngokuzikhethela (CFBC) noma mahhala abantwana ngaphandle kokuzikhethela (CFNBC), ukunquma ukungabi nabantwana kuyisinqumo sokuphila okusemthethweni.
Igama elithi "mahhala engenabantwana" liyingcosana ye-misnomer. Usengaba yingxenye enkulu yempilo yengane.
Ungase usebenze nezingane emsebenzini wakho noma njengesivolontiya, noma ungaba u- Anti noma umalume ohileleke kakhulu . Ungase ukhethe ukungabi nabantwana ngokwakho-hhayi ngezokwelapha noma ekutholeni izingane.
Ukubhekana nesinqumo Not Ukuphishekela Ukwelashwa
Yiqiniso, ukunquma ukungaphishekeli ukwelashwa akusho ngokuyisimangaliso ukususa ubuhlungu nokudabuka kokungabikho. Kuzobaluleka, noma ngabe ufisa kakhulu ukungabi nabantwana, ukusizizela ukuthi yini okungenzeka yayiyiyo. Asikho isikhathi esinqunyiwe salesi sikhalo, futhi wonke umuntu uyabuhlungu ngezindlela ezahlukene. Yiba nomusa ngokwakho futhi uphendule ngokwakho ngenkathi usuphilisa. Umeluleki omuhle angakusiza ukuthi usebenze ngezinketho zakho, futhi akusize ukuba ubhekane nalokho okushiwo ngokomzwelo kulabo abakhethayo.
Ngezansi Ngesinqumo Not Ukuphishekela Ukungafaki Ukwelashwa
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi unquma ukuphishekela ukukhulelwa noma uzizwe unecala lokuthi ukuphishekela lezi zindlela akuzona wena nomlingani wakho, ukungabi namuntu kunomthelela omkhulu ngokomzwelo . Lokhu kungaba nzima kuwe njengombhangqwana, kodwa imibono kanye nezeluleko ezingasetshenziswanga zomndeni nabangane zingangeza kumthwalo.
Ukusebenza nomeluleki kungaba usizo kakhulu, njengoba kungase kusekele amaqembu uma nje uthola iqembu labantu abaye bakhetha ukuba bangaphishekeli ukwelashwa kwabangenasifo. Nakuba sishilo lokhu ngaphambili, isinqumo kufanele sibe phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho. Amalungu omndeni nabangane bangase baveze imibono, kodwa ekugcineni, udinga ukhetho olukuhle kuwe.
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