Ukujoyina iqembu lokusekela kwabantwana abangakwazi ukusiza izingane kungaba yindlela enhle yokubhekana nokungabi nabantwana . Ukuthola ukwesekwa uma ubhekene nokungabi nabantwana kubalulekile, kodwa akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi. Abangane nomndeni banganikeza ukusekelwa, kodwa ngisho nabangane abangcono kakhulu abakwazi ukuqonda ngempela ukuthi uhlangabezana kanjani ngaphandle kokuthola ukungabi nabantwana okuhlangenwe nakho.
Iqembu lokusekela linganikeza indawo lapho imibhangqwana ingakwazi ukuhlangana nokukhuluma nabantu abayiqondayo.
HLELA: I-National Infertility Association, inhlangano engenzi inzuzo enomsebenzi wokuhlinzekela "ukusekela ngesikhathi esifanele, ukusekela okunomusa nolwazi kubantu ababhekene nokungabi nabantwana," kugcina inethiwekhi yezahluko zesifunda kanye nabathintekayo ekuhloleni ukuhlinzeka ukwesekwa kwendawo kubantu ababhekana nokungabi nabantwana.
Ukuqalisa ngokuyinhloko ngamavolontiya, HLELA amaqembu okusekela atholakala kulo lonke elase-United States.
INDLELA YOKUKHUBA IZINDABA ZOKUSEBENZISWA KWEZINDABA
U-Penny Joss Fletcher, umshayeli womshado nomndeni onguchwepheshe wokungabikho nokululekwa kokutholwa komuntu, uyaqonda isidingo sokusekelwa kwabantwana abangenasifo esivela ekuhlangenwe nakho kwabo.
Ngemva kokuthola ukukhulelwa kwesisu kwangaphambi kwesikhathi, uPenny waya emhlanganweni wezemfundo oqeqeshiwe okhuluma ngeziguli ezingenalutho kanye nemizwa yabo. Emhlanganweni, wezwa nge-RESOLVE komuntu osebenza naye futhi wanquma ukuyibuka.
"Nakuba nganginabangane abaningi bezokwelapha abazama ukusekela (futhi bebazi ukuthi bangaba nomusa kanjani), babengakaze babone ukungabi nabantwana," kuchaza uPenny.
"Ukuhlala neqembu labesifazane okungenzeka bathi izinto ezifanayo nabangani bami bezokwelapha kodwa engazi ukuthi zitholile , zahluke ngokuphelele."
Ngenkathi uPenny eqala ukuthola iqembu lokusekela i-RESOLVE, wayeqala nje uhambo lwakhe ngezokwelapha kanye nokwelapha okungenasifo . Uzuze amalungu athola ulwazi ngaphakathi kwezwe lokungakhulelwa, kepha ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo kwakubaluleke kakhulu.
"Ngafunda okuningi ngalokho engikukhethile okwelashwa esikhathini esizayo, okwanginika ithemba elikhulu. Kodwa ikakhulukazi, kwakuyindawo engangayi kuyo yonke isonto futhi ngikhulume ngalokho okwakungathi 'ngiphume ngaphandle' ngokungakhulelwa futhi ngingabi ngumama okwamanje. "
UPenny uthi futhi kuye kwasiza ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka emshadweni wakhe. "Umyeni wami wayekhathele ukuzwa ukudabuka nokudumala kwami, kodwa laba besifazane babengenalo! Kwathatha ukucindezelwa komyeni wami ukuba ngikusekela kuphela ngokomzwelo. "
Indlela amaqembu asekela ngayo asebenza ngayo
HLELA ukuhlinzeka ngezinhlobo ezimbili zamaqembu okusekela - oholwa ochwepheshe, okuyinto enomusa uPenny aye (futhi manje uhamba naye, njengomeluleki), namaqembu okuxhumana nabantu.
Amaqembu ekuxhumanisa oontanga ngokuvamile ahlangana kanye ngenyanga, futhi aholwa umuntu onolwazi olune-infertility, kodwa hhayi ochwepheshe.
Imihlangano eholwa ngabahlengikazi ihlelekile kakhulu, ngokuvamile ihlangana kanye ngesonto, futhi ifaka imali yokuya khona. Baholwa ngumeluleki wezobuchwepheshe, kodwa akuzona ukwelashwa kweqembu. Umeluleki ukhona lapho ukusiza ukusiza ingxoxo nokusiza ukugcina imingcele enempilo eqenjini. Amaqembu angabesifazane noma imibhangqwana futhi anqunyelwe usayizi, ukunikeza isikhathi esanele sokuba wonke umuntu akhulume.
Amaqembu avame ukuhlangana amasonto angu-12, ngezihloko ezahlukahlukene ezabiwe isonto ngalinye.
U-Penny uyachaza, "Izihloko zeqembu elivamile labesifazane besifazane noma izimbhangqwana zihlanganisa ukunciphisa ukucindezeleka, ukuzinakekela, intukuthelo nokucindezeleka , ukusebenzelana nomndeni nabangane, nomthelela ebuhlotsheni bomshado, ukhetho lwezokwelapha, ukukhiqizwa komuntu wesithathu, ukwamukelwa, kanye ukuphila okungenabantwana. Ngezinye izikhathi amaqembu akha futhi agxile ezihlokweni ezithile ezifana nokutholwa noma ukukhiqizwa komuntu wesithathu. "
Ngisho noma amaqembu ahlangana ngendlela eyodwa ngesonto kuphela, abesifazane noma imibhangqwana eqenjini bayakhuthazwa ukuba bahlangane ngaphandle kokuhlelwa kweqembu.
"Ngikhuthaza abahlanganyeli ukuba baxhumane phakathi kwesonto phakathi kwemihlangano," kusho uPenny. "Ngifuna ngempela ukuba abangane!"
Indlela Yokuthola Iqembu Lokusekela Lendawo
Ukuze uthole ukuthi i-RESOLVE iqembu lokusekela liyatholakala yini endaweni yakho, vakashela iwebhusayithi ye-RESOLVE ukuze uthole ukuthi yisiphi isifunda ongowakho. Isifunda ngasinye sinesayithi, lapho ulwazi kumaqembu okusekela atholakalayo.
Abanye besifazane balwa nomqondo wokujoyina iqembu lokusekela, kodwa uma ungadlula ukubhuka kwakho, uyojabula ukuthi wenza.
"Izikhathi eziningi, abesifazane abaqala nje ukwelashwa abafuni ukujoyina iqembu 'lokungazali' ngenxa yokuthi baqiniseke ukuthi bazokhulelwa ngenyanga ezayo," kuchaza uPenny. "Kodwa ngikhuthaza ngisho nalabo abaqala ukuhlanganyela ukuze bathole ukusekelwa kanye nolwazi oludingayo kusukela kuLusuku Lunye.
"Uma bekhulelwa, bangabeka ukuhlanganyela eqenjini uma befuna. Nginabesifazane abaye belashwa iminyaka ekugcineni bahlanganyele eqenjini lokusekela, futhi bavame ukuthi bafisa ukuthi bakwenzile ngokushesha! "
Ngemuva kweminyaka emihlanu yokuzama ukukhulelwa, kuhlanganise nomunye umjikelezo we-IVF owahluleka, uPenny nomyeni wakhe bathatha ingane. Eminyakeni eyalandela, ulokhu exhumana nabantu abahlangana nabo ngenkathi eqenjini lakhe lokusekela.
"Ngemva kwamasonto angu-12 eqembu labahlengikazi bephelile, sonke saqhubeka sihlangana iminyaka emithathu ezayo kuze kube yilapho sonke sasinomntwana oyedwa. Futhi sihlangana ndawonye cishe kanye ngonyaka (eminyakeni engu-14 kamuva), kanti abanye bethu nabantwana bethu bangabangane abakhulu! "