Kuningi okwenzeka ngonyaka wokuqala wokuphila okudingekayo ukukala iminyaka emasontweni nasezinyangeni. Ngemuva konyaka owodwa, ungayeka ukubalwa lezo zinsuku ezincane zesikhathi ... uze ubheke usuku olulodwa futhi uqaphele ukuthi lo mntwana akayena "oneminyaka eyodwa ubudala." Ukhuluma ngokucacile (ngisho noma amagama akhe athile asengumsindo wezandi) futhi aziphatha ngokwengeziwe (ngisho noma eqhubeka ekhubeka futhi ehamba kancane kancane) futhi, mhlawumbe ebonakala kakhulu, isifiso sakhe esibucayi sokuzimela sande okuphindwe kabili.
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Amakhono Ongalindela Izingane Ukuba Zifunde Ngezinyanga ezingu-18Izingane zithatha izinyathelo ezindala eminyakeni ehlukile, kodwa, kodwa ngomnyaka wonyaka nengxenye, cishe uzobona amakhono athile avamile kakhulu avela ezindaweni ezilandelayo:
- Amakhono emoto amakhulu
- Amakhono emoto amnandi
- Amakhono okuqonda noma okuqonda
- Amakhono okukhuluma
- Amakhono Ezenhlalakahle Nezimoya
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Amakhono Emikhiqizo Yezimoto Ongayilindela Izingane Zibambe Ngezinyanga ezingu-18Ukubukeka komzimba wakho komntwana kungashintsha kakhulu phakathi kwezinyanga ezingu-12 no-18 ubudala. Ungalindela ukuthi abe mncane futhi azuze umthambo wezwi. Lokhu kuvamile kwengane enqaba ukugcinwa futhi ivalwe isikhathi eside.
Ukunika ingane yakho ithuba lokuzama imisipha yakhe kuzokwenza ngcono amandla nokusebenzisana, okuyizinto ezibalulekile ekuthuthukiseni amakhono amakhono amakhulu (amakhono afaka phakathi ukusebenzisa izikhali, imilenze, namanye amaqembu amakhulu omzimba). Njengoba uneminyaka engu-18 ubudala, uzokwazi ukubona ingane yakho inamakhono amakhono amaningana ezinjengezi:
- Ukunyuka ezintweni eziphansi (umbhede ophansi noma enye ifenisha)
- Ukuhamba nokugijima kancane
- Ukuzibamba ngezandla zakhe uma ewa
- Ukuphenya
Ukuqokomisa: Abaningi umzali usemangale ukuthola unyaka oneminyaka engu-18 ezama ukuphuma esikhwameni (futhi abaningi baye bamangala nakakhulu ukubona ukuthi ingane encane iphumelele). Njengeminye yeminye imizamo yakhe kulesi sigaba, uneminyaka eneminyaka engu-18 ubudala angeke avunyelwe ukukhipha isikhalazo uma yilokho afuna ngempela ukukwenza. Uma ubona ingane yakho ezama ukukhuphuka esikhwameni ngokuqinisekile ungazama ukumnciphisa ngemithetho eqinile ukuthi lokhu akuvunyelwe. Ungazama futhi itende le- crib , elingase okungenani limvimbele okwesikhashana ukuba alikhiphe. Noma kunjalo, kufanele futhi wamukele ukuthi ingane yakho izoqhubeka ukuzama futhi iwele ngaphesheya. Ngakho-ke, ngokugxila ekudaleni indawo ephephile yomqhubi ozimisele futhi ozohlola uzohamba ngendlela ende.
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Amakhono Ezimoto Ezinhle Zokufuna Ngesikhathi Esithile NengxenyeNjengoba ingane yakho ifuna ukuzimela ngokwengeziwe, kuyodingeka ukuthi wakhe amakhono akhe amakhono emoto , alawula umunwe kanye nokunyakaza kwesandla.
Amanye amakhono ozobona abe ngcono kangcono kulesi sigaba afaka:
- Ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa zokudla (i-spoon, ifologi enobungane)
- Ukukhishwa kwamakhrayoni nezinye izinto zokubhala
- Ukudweba ngeminwe noma emabhulashini
- Ukubeka impahla eyodwa phezulu komunye
Ukuqokomisa: Uma ungadlulela umonakalo, ukuvumela ingane yakho ukuba idle yona nge spoon noma imfoloko kungaba yindlela engcono kakhulu yokudonsa isidlo sokudla ukuze uqedele ukudla kwakhe.
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Amakhono Ehlakaniphile Noma Engqondweni Yokuthuthukisa Ngezinyanga ezingu-18Kunzima ukungacabangi ukuthi ingane yakho ihlakaniphile ezinyangeni ezingu-18 ubudala. Esikhathini esifushane esedlule, kubonakala sengathi konke ayekwazi ukukwenza kwakuhlezi esihlalweni sakhe somculo, futhi manje, wakha imibhoshongo enezivimbela, ehamba ngezintambo ezijwayelekile, futhi elandela izilwane. Uma uxhumana, ufunda , futhi uveza izinto, ingane yakho encane izothuthukisa amakhono amasha nolwazi olufana nesiponji. Ezinye zezinto ongalindela ukuba ingane yakho iqale ukuzenza ezinyangeni ezingu-18 ubudala zihlanganisa:
- Dlala imidlalo elula yokukholwa
- Qala ukuhlola imbangela nomphumela
- Qonda ukungafani phakathi kwezinto ezifana nezithombe zezilwane ezahlukene
- Khumbula izingoma ezijwayelekile noma izingxenye zencwadi bese usabela kubo, ngendlela efanayo, njalo
Ukuqokomisa: Amathoyizi athola "umvuzo" lapho ingane yakho isithatha isinyathelo (umculo odlala uma ucindezela inkinobho, amabhola awela phansi uma ufaka umshini, njll.) Kungenzeka ukuthi yizinto ezizithandayo zomntanakho ezungeze le minyaka. Njengoba nje kujabulisa, intsha ethi "yehlisa inkomishi" intsha encane iyicabanga injabulo ehlanzekile (futhi omama bathola okunzima kakhulu). Ingane yakho ingase ilahle indebe yayo kanye, kabili ... izikhathi eziyishumi kusihlwa. Ukuze unelise ingane yakho ngaphandle kokuphola, ungazama ukunikeza indebe kabili. Uma ewa phansi okwesithathu, maneka indebe ngaphandle ngaphandle kwedrama enkulu. Ekugcineni, kufanele afunde ukuthi ukuphonsa izinto phansi akuyona into evumelekile.
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Amakhono okukhuluma ngamazwi ajwayelekile avunyelwe yiminyaka eyi-18Ngezinyanga ezingu-18, izingane eziningi zikwazi ukusho inani elungile lamagama, kodwa akuyona into engavamile ukuba lawo mazwi abe nzima kubantu abangabazi. Inqubo yokufunda ukukhuluma idinga isikhathi esiningi namandla. Futhi uma nje uzwa ukuthi ingane yakho encane ingenzi inqubekela phambili, ungase uvuke usuku olulodwa kumntwana okhuluma nawe emisho egcwele. Into ebalulekile okumele uyikhumbule ukuthi kunezinhlobo ezehlukene ezivamile kule minyaka uma kuziwa ekuthuthukiseni amazwi. Nika ingane yakho isikhathi eside ngenkathi uxhumana naye futhi uqinisa ulimi, futhi uzoqala ukubona amanye amakhono ajwayelekile okukhuluma njengale:
- Ukukhomba amalungu omndeni wakho ngezwi lomlomo elifana negama lomuntu ngamunye ("na" for nanna; "da" kababa, njll)
- Ukusebenzisa ukuthinta nokukhomba ngenkathi wenza imisindo yokukhulumisana nalokho akufunayo noma okudingayo
- Ukukhomba izinto ezithile encwadini uma zibizwa
- Ukuhlabelela kanye nomculo nomsindo wengoma efana ne "I-ABC Song" noma ngabe amagama athile awakacacile
Ukuqokomisa: Kuvame ukucatshangwa ukuthi izingane ezikhuliswe emakhaya lapho ulimi olungaphezu koyedwa luzosetshenziswa khona zizoqala ukukhuluma kamuva kunezingane ezikhuliswe ekhaya elilodwa lolimi, kodwa akulona iqiniso. Noma kunjalo, uma ukhulisa ingane yesibili akufanele umangale uma ingane yakho ingakhulumi izinyanga ezingu-18 noma isebenzisa amagama olimini ngalunye ndawonye. Ekugcineni, uzokwazi ukuhlukanisa lezi ezimbili futhi akumele ahlupheke noma yikuphi ukukhuluma ukulibaziseka noma ukulibala isikhathi eside.
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Amakhono Ezenhlalakahle Okuthi Izingane Zithuthuke Ngezinyanga ezingu-18Izinyanga eziyishumi nesishiyagalolunye ubudala zivame ukuzimela ngokuzimele, ezingabangela ezinye izinkathazo nokulwa kwezinhloso uma zingenayo indlela yazo. Ukunikeza imihlahlandlela ecacile futhi eqinile kanye nokuzimisela ukuvumela ingane yakho ukuhlola izinto eziningi ngokuzimela kuyokusiza ukukufundisa ukuziphatha kwakho okuncane kahle nezindlela ezifanele zokuxhumana nabanye. Njengoba ingane yakho iqala ukuqonda ukuthi kunemingcele kanye nokulindela kokuziphatha okwamukelekayo, ungalindela ukumbona yenza izinto ezinjengokuthi:
- Ukuthi "cha" ngomzamo wokuhlola imingcele bese uthola indlela yakhe
- Ukukhala noma ukubonisa izimpawu zokukhungatheka uma engayitholi indlela yakhe
- Ukuhlanganyela nabanye (nakuba angase afune lokho ahlanganyela ngakho ngokushesha ngoba engayiqondi ngokugcwele umqondo wokupha abanye izinto ngokungenasisekelo noma unomphela)
- Ukuphendulela nabanye emidlalweni elula efana nokugoqa ibhola
Ukuqokomisa: Ngezinye izikhathi uphawu lwezinyanga ezingu-18 lungase luzwe sengathi lunzima ngokwemvelo. Ingane yakho izobe iphonsa phansi phansi imemeza futhi elandelayo ingase ijabulise injabulo. Ingxenye yalokhu ukusabela ngokweqile kungenxa yokuthi ingane yakho iyaqhubeka iyazi ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuxhumana nabanye. Ufunda ukuthi akuwona wonke amathoyizi angowakhe kanye nokuthi angenza umuntu ahleke ngobuso obubucayi. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi, "imithetho" yale nhlalo yomphakathi idideka kuye. Ngakho-ke ube nesineke futhi uqonde ukuthi usandaqala ukuqaphela umqondo wokuthi akuyedwa umuntu obaluleke kakhulu lapha.
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