Izindlela Ezingu-10 Ongasimemezela Umphakathi Wokungenzi Inzuzo

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Ungenza Umehluko Wokungabi Nabuthakathaka

Yebo, ungakwazi ukugqugquzela ukungabi nalutho! Ngezinye izikhathi, abantu bacabanga ukuthi ukugqugquzela kusho ukusebenzisa sonke isikhathi sakho samahhala ukuba ube yizwi ngenhloso, futhi mhlawumbe kudinga ukugqoka i-cape, nge-A enkulu (ngokubambisana, yebo).

Lokhu akulona iqiniso. Ukuba ngummeli akudingeki kube yisibopho esikhulu isikhathi. Ngisho nokukhuthaza ngesilinganiso esincane kungaba nemivuzo emikhulu wena nabanye.

Ukumemezela kungakusiza ukuba uguqulwe ube yindoda. Ukusiza abanye emphakathini ongatholakali nakho kungenza okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho okubuhlungu kube nomuzwa wentshisekelo - ungasiza abanye kangcono ngoba uke waba khona.

Nazi izindlela ezingu-10 ongazitshela ukungazalwa, ezinye ezinkulu, ezinye ezincane. Yenza okungcono kakhulu empilweni yakho, futhi wazi ukuthi konke kwenza umehluko.

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Yiba nezindaba eziphathelene nokungafihli

Ukuma ehhovisi epholile amanzi futhi uzwe abantu behleba nge- Octomom yakamuva njengokwehlambalaza?

Khuluma uphinde ubeke irekhodi ngqo.

Manje, lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele "uphume" njengomuntu olwa nokungabi nabantwana uma ungafuni. Ungamane unikeze ngezwi lesibongo.

Ama-watercooler asho amantombazane: "Wonke lawo ma-mother's IVF anezingane ezine, ezinhlanu, eziyisithupha ngesikhathi esisodwa. Kusobala ngokuphelele. "

Umnumzane we-Watercooler (nguwe wena): "Empeleni, lokho akulona iqiniso. Iningi lokukhulelwa kwe-IVF kubangela umntwana oyedwa noma amawele. I-Octomom yinkinga enkulu, hhayi evamile. "

• Inkolelo yenkolelo yeqiniso: Yikuphi okumele wonke umuntu adinga ukwazi

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Ungesabi Ukufundisa Abantu Nokuphikisa Izinkolelo Zakho

Uma uphumelele mayelana nokungazalwa kwakho, cishe uthola ithuba lokuthola iseluleko sezinganekwane .

"Kufanele uhambe eholidini. Udadewabo womakhelwane wami wahlala naye eholidini futhi wakhulelwa. "

"Ungenza nje i-IVF, yini oyikhathazayo?"

Isimiso sakho sokuqala kungenzeka kube ukugubha amehlo akho bese uvumela ukuhamba. Futhi kukhona isikhathi salokho. Cishe ngeke uzizwe ukhululekile esikoleni umphathi wakho noma izihlobo ezithile.

Futhi, uma uyazi ukuthi umsakazo-umsakazo ngeke akulalele, noma uzophikisana, ukugoqa amehlo akho ngemva kokuhamba kude kungase kube ngcono.

Kodwa-ke, ngezinye izikhathi, ukukhuluma iqiniso nokuphikisana nezinganekwane kuyinto efanele ukuyenza.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma usukuma isibindi sokwenza kanjalo, ngeke nje ufundise umuntu emaqinisweni okungazalwa, ungase ugcine nesisulu sakhe esilandelayo.

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Phuma Ngokungabi Nakho Okungaqondile

Ukukhuluma ngomzabalazo wakho ngokungafihli esidlangalaleni akuwona wonke umuntu. Kukhona izinzuzo nokuqeda ukukhuluma.

Kodwa-ke, yazi ukuthi uma utshela abantu mayelana nokungazali kwakho - ngisho noma ngabe abangane bakho abaseduze kakhulu nezihlobo - uba ubuso bokungabikho. Ukwenza lokhu kukhishwe abantu abaningi. Futhi lokho kukukwenza ube ngummeli womphakathi ongenasisekelo.

Cabanga ngakho. Awunomuzwa wokuthi uphonswe yini nemikhankaso yokugqugquzela ekhuluma nezindaba zezokwelapha noma zezombusazwe ezithinta umuntu omthandayo?

Abaningi abakhuthaza imbangela bawela kwelinye lamaqembu amabili: labo abathintekayo ngokuqondile ngendaba, nalabo abathandayo othintekayo ngendaba.

Uma uphuma mayelana nokungazalwa kwakho , unika amandla umbuthano wakho wabangani ukuba babe abagqugquzeli bokungapheli.

Lokho kunamandla kakhulu.

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Inkulumo ye-Talk #Infertility kuma-Social Media

Imithombo yezokuxhumana iyindlela elula yokubandakanyeka ekukhulumeni okukhulu. Ezingxenyeni zezokuxhumana ezifana ne-Twitter, unamandla okufinyelela umhlaba nge-tweets yakho.

Ungakhuluma kanjani ukungabi nabantwana kuma-social media?

Ku-Twitter, ungabheka ama-hashtag afanelekayo - ukungabi nandaba, # #ff, # ukuphazamiseka yizibonelo ezithile - nezinkinga ezibalulekile ze-retweet noma ulwazi oluwusizo.

Ungaphinda ufune abanye abasebenzisi be-Twitter ababhekene nokungasebenzi, futhi balandele. Kunomphakathi wonke wabasindayo abangenalutho futhi ukhuthaza ngaphandle.

• Landela @RachelGurevich ku-Twitter
• Uhlu lwe-Twitter lwe-Fertility Tweeple

Same iyaqhubeka i-Pintrest. Kukhona amabhodi amaningi adalwe ukusekela labo ababhekene nokungasebenzi. Ukuzama ama-hashtag okusesha afana no-#lessfertility, #pcos, #ivf, kanye ne- #endo.

Dala amabhodi akho wokuqwashisa okungazalwa, okuzosiza abanye emphakathini futhi mhlawumbe ufundise abalandeli bakho abavuthiwe.

• Ngilandele Pintrest
• Ububele Bokuzijabulisa Bhodi
• Ibhodi lokuBuleka kokuzala
• Izimpawu Nezizathu ZeBhodi Yokungafaki
• Ukuzama iBhodi Yokuqhafaza Nokukhulelwa

Ku-Facebook, kuyinto encane kakhulu uma ungenayo mayelana nezinselelo zakho zokuzala. Kodwa ungavumeli lokho kukuvimbele ekusakazeni ulwazi olufanele.

Usengabelana ngezixhumanisi ezijwayelekile ezindabeni zokuzala, ikakhulukazi okuqukethwe okungahle kuthande izithameli ezibanzi.

• Ngilandele On Facebook: Mayelana Fertility

Imithombo yezenhlalakahle yindawo lapho ungakhuluma khona ngezindaba zomthetho zamanje ezithinta labo abangenalutho.

Isibonelo, umthetho we-Personhood usongele ukwenza ukwelashwa kwe-IVF ngokungemthetho kwamanye amazwe. Akukadluli, kepha lokho kungenxa yamagama anjengawe, ozisa abanye abangahle bazi imiphumela yemithetho ekhokhwayo njengalezi.

Futhi ungabi nomuzwa wokuthi udinga ukuthi KUPHELA kube mayelana nokungazalisi ukukhuthaza ezokuxhumana. Izwi lakho linamandla nakakhulu lapho lifinyelela labo abangakabi yingxenye yomphakathi ongenalutho.

Ngakho Tweet - noma Pin! Noma Okuthunyelwe! - up!

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Zibophezele

Ukugqugquzela umphakathi womuntu ongenalutho ukuqala ngokuzivikela .

Uma ucindezela ukuba uzwe, uma ulwela impilo yakho kanye namalungelo okuzala, kusiza wonke umuntu.

Kusho ukuthini ukuzimela?

• Buza imibuzo odokotela bakho. Cwaninga ngezinketho zakho , bese ubuza imibuzo uma ungaqiniseki uma indlela abayincomayo ingcono kuwe.
• Funa umtholampilo ongcono kakhulu kuwe. Umtholampilo osondelene noma ophansi kakhulu wokuzala ungase ungabi umtholampilo ongcono kakhulu. Qinisekisa ukuthi usezandleni ezinhle kakhulu zesimo sakho.
• Bhala inkampani yakho yomshuwalense bese ufaka isicelo sokukhokhela. Yebo, noma ngabe inqubomgomo ngokusemthethweni ayihlanganisi imithi yakho yokuzala, sebenzisa noma kunjalo. Thumela izincwadi. Khuluma nomnyango wakho we-HR mayelana nokuthola ukwelashwa kokuzala.

Izenzo zakho zingase zihambise indlela elula kulabo abasemva kwakho.

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Ukusekela abanye nge-Infertility

Kunezindlela eziningi ongase ukwazi ukusekela abanye nge-infertility.

Ungakwazi:

• Joyina iqembu lokusekela. Yebo, ngisho nokuba yilungu leqembu lokusekela kwabantwana, uxhasa abanye eqenjini. Kunqoba-ukunqoba.
• Funa ezinye i-intanethi I-IFers (noma i-infertiles, isikhathi esifushane somthando esetshenziswa emphakathini ongapheliyo ku-intanethi.) Ungabathola emafomini, ku-Twitter, emphakathini wokubhuloga, noma kumaqembu e-Facebook (amanye angasese noma avaliwe, ukuze kudingeka ucele nxazonke ukungena.)
• Ivolontiya yokuhola iqembu lokusekela olwa ontanga. Ingabe indawo yakho ayinayo iqembu lokusekela? Uma usendaweni engokomzwelo yokwenza kanjalo, mhlawumbe ungazinikela ngokuzithandela ukuqala nokuhola iqembu elinjalo!

Uma unesithakazelo sokujoyina noma ukuqala iqembu lokusekela oholwa oontanga, xhumana no-Resolve: I-National Infertility Association.

• Thola i-Resolve Support Group

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Yenza Izwi Lakho Lizwe Nge-Hill Hill

Yilokho ngokuvamile okucatshangwa njengokwememezelo - okwenza izwi lakho lizwe ezishayamthetho zendawo.

Kuyindlela enamandla kakhulu yokukhuthaza.

Umthetho ungaba nomthelela ngqo ekufinyeleleni kwakho ekunakekeleni ukwelashwa, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngamandla akho okukhokhela ukwelashwa.

Ezinye izidingo zidinga umshwalense wezokwelapha, kuhlanganise ne-IVF, kodwa lokhu akuzange kwenzeke ngomlingo. Itholakale kuphela ngenxa yamalungu omphakathi ongenalutho wokubambelela kulezi zinzuzo.

Futhi abanye bathi baye basongela ukuthatha lezi zimali ezisekelayo. Amazwi afana neyakho angenza umehluko uma umthetho udlula.

Angazi ukwenza izwi lakho lizwe kanjani? Ungakhathazeki. Uma izimpikiswano ezinkulu ziphuma, zivame ukufaka izinhlamvu zefomu ongazithumela noma izikripthi ozolandela uma wenza ucingo.

Hlala unolwazi ngokulungiswa ku-Twitter nasesikhungweni sika-Resolve for Justice Infertility:

• Isikhungo Sobulungisa Bokungabikho

Ungase futhi uthathe ukucabangela ukuza eWashington, DC ngoSuku lokwazisa, umcimbi wonyaka ohlelwe yiSombululo. Kulezi zenzakalo, uzohlangana ubuso nobuso nabamele bendawo.

Khumbula ukuthi ngenhla ngibhala ukuthi ukwazi omunye umuntu kungathinta imizwa yomuntu ngombuzo wezepolitiki? Lokhu kwenza umehluko lapho izishayamthetho zakho zihlangana nalabo ababhekene nokuhlukunyezwa komuntu.

Awuqinisekile ukuthi ungathini? Noma wenza? Ungakhathazeki, Ukuxazulula kuzokunika ulwazi oludingayo ukwenza lokhu.

• Ukuxazulula: Usuku Lokwazisa

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Bamba iqhaza kwimicimbi yokuqwashisa ukungenzi lutho

Enye indlela yokugqugquzela ukungabi nabantwana ukubandakanya kwimicimbi yokuqwashisa.

Izinyanga zokuqwashisa nezenzakalo okufanele wazi ngazo ziyi:

• Usuku lweNational Donor, ngoFebruwari 14 ^th , ngosuku ongaqaphela amaqanda , izidakamizwa kanye nabanikeli bombungu
• Inyanga Yokuqwashisa I-Endometriosis, ngoMashi
• Iviki lokuqwashisa likazwelonke (NIAW) , ngokuvamile liviki eliphelele lokugcina lika-Ephreli
• Iviki leMpilo leMadoda, ngesonto lesibili likaJune, isikhathi esihle sokuqwashisa ngezimpikiswano zokuhlukunyezwa kwabantu besilisa
• Inyanga Yokuqwashisa I- PCOS ngo-Septhemba
• Ukukhulelwa kanye nosuku lwekukhunjulwa kwezingane ezincane ngosuku luka-Okthoba 15
• Walk of Hope, futhi ixhaswe yiSombululo. Thintana ne-Resolve yakho yendawo ukuze uthole ulwazi, uhambahamba unyaka wonke ezindaweni ezihlukahlukene

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Nikela eziNhlanganweni ezisekela umphakathi ongenzi lutho

Yebo, ukunikela ezinhlanganweni zokugqugquzela ukukhuthaza.

Lezi zinhlangano azitholi imali eyanele yokwenza umsebenzi abawudinga futhi ufuna ukuzenza.

Badinga usizo lwezezimali, futhi ungasiza.

Ungazizwa sengathi ungumnikelo awubali uma unganika kuphela imali encane. Njalo inani libala. Uma wonke amalungu omphakathi ongenasiphelo anika okulingana nezinkomishi ezimbili zekhofi epholile, lezi zinhlangano zizoxhaswa kahle kakhulu.

Futhi ungayeki ukunikela - khuthaza abangani bakho nomndeni wakho ukuba banikele futhi.

Ngokwabelana ngesifiso sakho ukuthi abangani bakho nomndeni wakho nabo bacabangele ukunikela ngembangela ethinta ngokuqondile impilo yakho, nonke kokubili niyasikhuthaza ukungasebenzi futhi nisanda ukufinyelela kulezi zinhlangano zokukhuthaza.

Awuqinisekile ukuthi uzozibuza nini noma nini? Spread izwi ngosuku lukazwelonke lokunikeza, okuyinto kulo nyaka ngoDisemba 2, 2014.

Ukuxazulula iqhaza ku-#GivingTuesday, futhi kwenza isizathu esikhulu sokuba nabangani bakho.

• Hlela: Ungabamba iqhaza kanjani ku-#GivingTesday

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Ungayeki Ukumemezela Nje Ngenxa yokuthi Uye Wathutha

Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi imibhangqwana eminingi ehluleka ukungena ekugcineni ingathola indlela yokuqhubekela phambili, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iyakwazi ukukhulelwa futhi ibe nengane, noma inqume ukwamukela, noma inqume ukuthi iphile impilo engabantwana.

Izindaba ezingelona iqiniso ukuthi abaningi bayeke ukushisa emphakathini wobandlululo emva kwalokho.

Kunezizathu eziningi zalokhu. Kwabanye, bafuna ukushiya isahluko sonke sempilo yabo emva kwabo. Kungcono bangacabangi ngalokhu.

Kwabanye, babhekene necala lokusinda . Bacabanga ukuthi umphakathi awusayifuni nabo eqenjini. Bazizwa benecala ngokuxazulula lapho abangane babo abaningi besalokhu behluleka.

Ngilalele: umphakathi udinge futhi ufuna uhlale.

Indaba yakho yokuxazululwa inganikeza ithemba kulabo abasesimweni. Izindaba zakho zingase zisekele nalabo abangakolunye uhlangothi lokungasebenzi, okuza nezinselele ezakhe.

Mhlawumbe awukwazi ukuza Usuku Lokubambisana eWashington, DC ngezingane ezincane, kodwa ungakwazi ukusakaza izwi kwabanye ngezindaba zomphakathi.

Mhlawumbe awukwazi ukujoyina iqembu lakho lokusekela uma usuxazululile, kodwa ungakwazi ukujoyina noma uqale ukubeletha ngemuva kweqembu lokungabikho. (Yebo, zikhona, futhi ziyadingeka!)

Mhlawumbe ukubhuloga nge-infertility kungabe kusazizwa kulungile, kodwa usengakwazi ukuphawula kwamanye amabhulogi we-IFers.

Futhi ungahlala uthola indlela yokunikela, ngisho nenani elincane, Ukuxazulula noma enye inhlangano yokugqugquzela abantwana abangenasifo.