Kungani Ukutshela Wonke Umuntu Akuhlale Kulula Kangaka Njalo
Uma ngabe uhlangabezana nezinkinga zokungabi nabantwana noma unesisu sangasese , ungase uzizwe ungenandaba nokumemezela ukuthi ekugcineni usukhulelwe. Ngenkathi ingxenye yakho ufuna ukwabelana ngezindaba-ukugubha injabulo nabangani nabathandekayo-enye ingxenye ingase ibambelele kuwe.
Lezi zindlela zokuzizwa zijwayelekile. Ngezindlela eziningi, ubulokhu uhlala ematendeniki angokomzwelo, ubhekene nezinselelo nokudumazeka okuye kwahamba kancane kancane ekuqinisekisweni kwakho nokuqiniseka.
Ngisho noma ekugcineni usuzuzile lokho okwakulangazelela, kungenzeka usenokungabaza nokwesaba awukwazi ukususa ngokuphelele.
Ungazishayi phezulu ngalokhu. Yamukela imizwa yakho bese uthatha isikhathi uhlole lapho lezi zizwa zivela khona. Ngokwenza kanjalo, ungaqala ukukala izinzuzo nemiphumela yokwabelana ngezindaba bese ekugcineni uthole indlela yokwenza kanjalo.
Imiphumela Yokuqeda Izindaba
Nakuba kungase kubonakale emuva ukuze ubheke ukucindezeleka kuqala, ngokuvamile lokhu imizwa ekukubuyisela emuva. Enye yezinkathazo eziyinhloko abesifazane abaningi abanalo ukuthi ngabe bazobhekana nokunye ukudumazeka okuqhubeka phambili.
Ngemuva kwalokho, ukudlula ukukhulelwa kwesisu kanye kunzima kakhulu. Kodwa ingxenye yalokho eyenza kube nzima kakhulu ukutshela abanye okwenzekile , ukubona ukuphendula kwabo, nokuba yisisekelo sento okungenzeka yenze wazizwa ubi kakhulu kunokungcono.
Kusebenza okufanayo uma ulokhu uzama ukukhulelwa futhi kwadingeka ukukhuthazelele imibuzo engapheli mayelana "lapho singalindela i-patter yezinyawo ezincane" noma sibone ukudumazeka ebusweni bomuntu (kufaka phakathi nomlingani wakho) ngenkathi ukuhlolwa kwesinye isikhathi sokukhulelwa kubuya kubi .
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Izizathu Ongase Uzame Ukuzama
Uma ubhekene nalezi zinhlobo zokuhlukumezeka, zama ukushintsha ukugxila kancane bese ucabangela labo bantu abasizile futhi bakwazi ukukunikeza ukusekelwa uma udinga kakhulu. Uma unquma ukuphula izindaba, uzobe usebenzela kangcono ukuqala ngalaba bantu kuqala.
Kungenzeka ukuthi bazokwazi ukuqonda kwakho futhi bahloniphe izinqumo zakho.
Okungafunayo ngumuntu ozokutshela ukuthi uzizwa kanjani noma ukuthi ungubani ukuthatha imvelo. ("Ungabi buqili. Kufanele ujabule! Abantu bafanelwe ukwazi!")
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi iningi labesifazane abahlangabezana nokukhulelwa kokuqala luzoqhubeka nokuletha umntwana ophilile ngokuphelele okwesibili nxazonke . Ekugcineni, ukukhulelwa kwesisu akuyona into engavamile njengoba abanye bengakholelwa. Empeleni, cishe amaphesenti angama-25 abesifazane abakhulelwe bayothola ukulahlekelwa okunjalo, ngokuvamile emavikini angu-12 okutholwa.
Izizathu Zokuthi Ungase Ufune Ukuzibamba
Kwabanye besifazane, izimpendulo kungenzeka ukuthi zingenqunywa futhi zome. Uma uye waba nokuhlukunyezwa okuphindaphindiwe noma ube nesimo sezokwelapha esibeka ukukhulelwa kwakho engozini enkulu, ukukhulelwa kungase kubonakale njengesinyathelo sokuqala kwinqubo engaqiniseki.
Okuyiqiniso ukuthi izinkinga ezithile, njenge- polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) ne- endometriosis , zibeka owesifazane engozini enkulu kakhulu yokukhulelwa kwesisu. Uma ubhekene nalezi zindaba, ukwabelana ngezindaba kungaba yinto yokugcina engqondweni yakho.
Uma uzizwa unengozini futhi unzima ukubhekana nalokhu, ungase ufune ukusebenza nomchwepheshe wakho wokuzala futhi ugxile ohlelweni lwakho lwezokwelapha kuqala.
Ukwenza kanjalo kungakunika umqondo wokulawula nokuzimela okudingayo ukuze ubhekane nokucindezeleka kwangaphandle.
Ungabe usuqunta ukuthi ngubani nokuthi ngubani ongakusho ngokukhulelwa, ikakhulukazi labo abakuqonda kangcono izinselelo futhi bakwazi ukunikeza ukusekelwa kwangempela.
Indlela Yokwabelana Ngezindaba
Ngenkathi kunezinqumo eziningi ongayenza, into eyodwa ongayifuni ukuyenza yedwa. Unganaki ukubaluleka kokusekelwa. Abantu bazofuna ukusiza uma ubavumela futhi bazoba namahloni uma ubagcina ebangeni elingalo.
Futhi, masibhekane nakho, kuzobe sekugcineni isikhathi lapho wonke umuntu azokwazi ukuthi ukhulelwe.
Ngakho-ke kungcono ukuhlela uhlelo kusengaphambili ukuze wena nomlingani wakho nizokwabelana ngezindaba, hhayi abanye. Ngale ndlela, uhlala ekulawuleni futhi ungaqatshelwa ukugodla lokho abaningi abangakubhekwa njengezindaba ezinhle.
Isu elilodwa elingasisiza ibhulogi lokukhulelwa. Ikuvumela ukuba umeme umndeni nabathandekayo ukuba bajoyine futhi, ngesikhathi esifanayo, kunikeza indawo yokuchaza ukuthi kwenzekani, indlela ozizwa ngayo, nokuthi kungani unganquma ukulibazisa isimemezelo kuze kube manje.
Uma wenza kanjalo, zama ukugcina ithoni yokukhukhumeza. Into yokugcina oyifunayo iwukuba abantu bafike begijimela ukwesaba uma becabanga ukuthi kukhona okungalungile noma ukuthi unamathela okuthile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, qiniseka ukuthi ugcine abantu bevuselelwe njengoba ukukhulelwa kuqhubeka.
Ngokuthatha imali nokugcina wonke umuntu ku-loop, ungakwazi ukugwema izinkinga ezingokomzwelo ezingadingekile futhi ugxile ezintweni ezibaluleke kakhulu: ukukhulelwa kwakho.
> Umthombo:
> I-American College ye-Obstetrics ne-Gynecology. " Ukulahlekelwa Ngaphambi Kokukhulelwa Kwangaphambi kwesikhathi ." Hlanganisa i-Bulletin. May 2015; 15: 1-10.