Ukuhawukela Nokuncintisana Yizimbangela Ezivamile
Enye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu ngokuba ugogo nomkhulu ukufakaza ubudlelwane obuseduze nobuhlobo obuhle phakathi kwabaningi bomzala. Uhlangothi lwe-flip lomzala lusithandana, noma kunjalo, ngumngane womshado. Ukuncintisana emkhatsini wabozala kungaba yinto enzima kakhulu futhi enomunyu njengengxabano yakini. Futhi amathuba, ugogo nomkhulu, ukuthi kuzokwenzeka ekubukeni kwakho.
Kungani Umlingani Uphikisana Nezikhathi?
Zonke izimbangela ezivame ukubonwa ebudlelwaneni bezingane zakubo zingase zisebenze ukuze kuvezwe icala lobukhosi lomzabalazo womzala.
Ngempela, ukuhawukela kuyisici esiqakathekileko. Abazala bomndeni bangase babe nomhawu omunye nomunye uma besondelene ndawonye kanye nobulili obufanayo. Ngezinye izikhathi abazala bafuna ukunakwa ngogogo nomkhulu. Ngezinye izikhathi bayaphikisana ukunakwa komunye umzala.
Imishanguzo yemindeni nayo idlala indima. Ngezinye izikhathi ukulwa nombhangqwana kanye nomzala kuyabonakala njengemali yokubheka izingane ezikuthi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiziphi izizathu, azicabangi ngendlela edingayo. Ngezinye izikhathi, lesi simo asihambisani neze. Ingane eyodwa kuphela noma ingane yomndeni kungenzeka ingasetshenziselwa ukuncintisana ekhaya, kodwa ukuphonswa kanye neqembu lonke labazala kumakhaya kagogo nomkhulu kunendaba ehlukile. Ugogo nomkhulu abamba uGramma Camp baqinisekisiwe ukuthi kufanele babhekane nokuqubuka kwesibambisene nomzala.
Izingane zingabonisa ukuxabana nomzala kuminyaka yonke nezigaba.
Ukuncintisana kwabakwaSibongane kufinyelela ezingeni eliphezulu kakhulu phakathi kwezingane ezifunda esikoleni phakathi kweminyaka engama-8 no-12, kanti okufanayo kunjalo ngokobuhlobo bomzala. Phakathi nale festile ye-8-12, izingane zingase zihlanganyele ngokomzimba, futhi zinamandla okwanele ukulimaza. Lokho kusho ukuthi ukuphikisana kungase kuguquke ngokomzimba, futhi ugogo nomkhulu kungenzeka ukuthi bangenele ngezinye izikhathi.
Ukuphikisana Nezihlukumezi
Kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa phakathi komzala nomhlukumezi. Ukuphikisana nomzala omncane kuhilela okuningi. Omunye umzala kungaba yilabo abagcina njalo bekhala, kodwa lokho kungenxa yokuthi uthanda ukukhala izinyembezi.
Ngenkathi ukuhlukumeza kunesisindo esisodwa, kungase kuvele emizweni yesikhwele, kodwa kubhekwe kangcono njengokuhlukumezeka nokuphathwa ngokungathí sina.
Izindlela Zokugwema
Ngokuvamile izingxabano phakathi komzala ziba yisiyaluyalu esiyingozi kangangokuba ingane ayikwazi ukubuyela emuva, ngoba lokho kusho ukuthi "ulahlekile." Ngakho ukugwema izimo ezibangela ukuphikisana kungase kube yisisombululo esihle kakhulu.
Ungakwazi ukugwema ukuphikisana nomzala ngokugwema izimo ezikhuthaza ukuncintisana, kodwa lokho kusho ukuhlinzeka ngemidlalo eminingi nemisebenzi yezemidlalo. Emindenini eminingi, lokho kuyinani eliphakeme kakhulu lokukhokhela ukuvumelana komndeni. Nanka eminye imibono yalokho ongase ukwazi ukukwenza kunalokho:
- Linganisa umncintiswano uma kunokwenzeka. Akukho lutho olungalungile ngokunikeza ingane encane ukuguqula okwengeziwe ibhola, isibonelo. Futhi uma ingane encane ihlula ingane ekhulile, ingane endala izokwazi okungenani ukuthi ingane encane inikwe inzuzo.
- Gcizelela ukumnandi komsebenzi ngaphezu kokubamba. Lo mqondo omuhle ovame ukusebenza nezingane ezincane. Njengoba izingane zikhula, kunjalo, ziqhubeka zigcina ukugcina amaphuzu nokwazi ukuthi abaphumelele bani.
- Gwema imisebenzi lapho ingane eyodwa inenzuzo enkulu.
- Yethula izinhlanhla lapho kunokwenzeka, ngisho nasezemidlalo.
- Gwema ukudumisa umnqobi nokunciphisa olahlekile. Kuzoba nesikhathi esiningi sokuhleka okunjalo lapho ababelethi bevuthiwe.
Abanye ugogo nomkhulu bavumela ababelethi ukuba badlale futhi bavumele ukuthi amakhophi awele lapho angase khona, ethi izingane kufanele zifunde ukulahleka okuhle.
Lokho kuyiqiniso, kodwa ugogo nomkhulu ugula, futhi, lapho yonke imisebenzi iphela ukuqubuka.
Yiba ne-Game Plan
Lapho amasu okugwema engasebenzi, ugogo nomkhulu kufanele badinga uhlelo lokubhekana nezingxabano zomzala. Kungcono uma behlakulele amasu abo ngokubambisana nabazali, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi lokho akunakwenzeka. Uhlelo luqala ngokuvumela abazukulu bazi ukuthi iziphi izinto ezingeke zibekezeleleke. Ngokuvamile ukushaya nokubiza amagama kukhona ohlwini olungenayo. Uma abazala bomshado beqala ukungqubuzana kepha bengabetha noma bebiza amagama, ungafuna ukuwavumela ukuba ahambe nawo ekuzilungiseleleni ngokwawo.
Uma ubona izibonakaliso zokuthi ingxabano iyaqhubeka kunokunyuka phansi, kungase kube yisikhathi sokungena kuwo. Zilalele izinhlangothi zombili, kodwa ungazami ukunquma ukuthi ubani oqalisile futhi ungabeka icala. Vele uzame ukubenza badlule ukungavumelani kwabo. Uma kungekho ukulungiswa emehlweni, ungase ufune ukuphazamisa umsebenzi ohlukile.
Ngezinye izinkinga ezingathinteki, ukuhlukanisa umzala kungaba yindlela ephumelelayo. Ngempela bafuna ukudlala omunye nomunye, naphezu kokuphikisana kwabo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi bazophuthuma ngokushesha uma bebhekene nethuba lokudlala yedwa.
Elinye isu elisebenza kangcono lihlekisa. Uma kungenzeka ngandlela-thile uthole abazala bomndeni behleka, bazobuyela emuva emoyeni omuhle omunye nomunye ku-jiffy. Ukukhwabanisa nakho kungenzeka. Nakuba abanye ogogo nomkhulu bangase bahlekise umqondo wabazukulu abazuzayo ngokuziphathisa nje, abanye bahle ngokunikeza ukuqiniswa okuncane ukugcina ukungezwani okungenani. Yiqiniso, ugogo nomkhulu owanikeza umvuzo wokuziphatha okuhle kumele banamathele ekuxoxweni. Akukho mvuzo okufanele unikezwe uma ngabe ukuziphatha kuhambisane nalokho.
Ezinye Izinyathelo Eziwusizo
Ukusebenza nenhlanganisela yabazukulu onayo esikhathini esisodwa nakho kungabangela imiphumela. Uma ubonile ukuthi ukuphikisana kuyaqina phakathi kuka-A no-B ngenkathi uC iseduze, gwema ukuhlanganiswa komzala, noma ulethe umzala D. Ungase udingeke usebenzise i-A ne-B ngokuhlukile. Khumbula ukuthi ngeke kudingeke wenze lokhu kuze kube phakade. Amacala amaningi omntakwabo kanye nomzabalazo omncane avulekile.
Akusho ukuthi izingane zizohambisana kangcono uma ziphumula kahle futhi zondliwe kahle. Kanti futhi akusho ukuthi abalala njalo futhi badle kahle ezindlini zikagogo nomkhulu ngoba bengaphandle kwendawo yabo evamile.
Ukuqubuzana kobudlelwane bezingane zakubo kungabangela nokunye ukucindezeleka empilweni yengane. Ugogo nomkhulu bangadlala indima ebalulekile ekusizeni abazukulu ukuba basingathe ukucindezeleka. Ukuhlinzeka ngemvelo yokuthulisa ngamasiko aduduzayo kungasiza. Ukudlala okusebenzayo nakho kuyindlela yokuqeda ukucindezeleka okuphumelelayo futhi kungaba indlela yokuphula umjikelezo wokuziphatha komhawu.
I-Long View
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi lokhu, nakho, kuzodlula. Kungenzeka ukuthi uma abazala bomzala bekhulile, ngeke bakhumbule ukungavumelani kwabo kodwa kunalokho bazokhumbula konke okujabulisayo ababelane nabo.