5 Izindlela Zokubhekana Nest Syndrome Engenalutho

Uma ukuphila kwakho okuningi kuye kwachazwa njengomzali-okungenani kancane-kunzima ukuvumelanisa nokuphila ngaphandle kwezingane ekhaya . Abazali abanenkinga yokuguquguquka okunzima kakhulu okwaziwa ngokuthi "i-nest syndrome engenalutho."

I-syndrome ye-nest engenalutho ibhekisela emizweni yokudabuka nokulahlekelwa abanye abazali abathola lapho ingane yokugcina ishiya ekhaya. Nakuba akuyona ukuhlolwa okusemtholampilo ngokomthetho, inkinga isengempela ngempela.

Abazali abanesifo esingenalutho se-nest syndrome bazizwa bengenalutho empilweni yabo futhi bavame ukuzizwa belahlekile kancane. Kungase futhi kube nzima ukuvumela izingane zabo ezikhulile ukuba zikwazi ukuzimela njengoba kunzima ngabo ukuyeka.

Eminye imibhangqwana ihlangabezana namazinga aphezulu ezingxabano lapho omunye noma bobabili abalingani benesidumbu esingenalutho se-nest. Lokhu kungahlanganisa imizwa yesizungu nokucindezeleka.

Ngenhlanhla, kunezinto ezithile ongayenza ukuze ulungise isifo se-nest esingenalutho. Uma unzima ukubhekana nabantwana bakho ukuphuma ekhaya, lezi zindlela ezinhlanu zingakusiza ukuba ubhekane nazo.

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Thola Izindima Zakho

Ube nezinto eziningi ngokusebenzisa indodakazi yakho noma indodana yakho, umngane, isisebenzi, mhlawumbe umama noma umalume, umzala-kodwa kubaningi, akukho okubalulekile njengendima yomama noma ubaba.

Qiniseka ukuthi usengakwazi ukuthwala lelo ilebula ngokuziqhenya; kungase kungabi khona ngaphambili.

Okwamanje, thola izindima ezintsha ofuna ukuzogcwalisa phakathi nalesi sigaba esingenalutho sezidleke empilweni yakho. Ingabe ufuna ukuvolontiya? Umakhelwane ophanayo? Uhilelekile ilunga lomphakathi?

Njengoba manje unesikhathi esiningi ezandleni zakho, unamathuba okuhlola ezinye izinto ezingakunikeza incazelo nenjongo. Ukucacisa izindima ongathanda ukuzogcwalisa manje ukuthi uyisitha esingenalutho ungaqiniseka ukuthi uzizwa unenani elibalulekile.

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Xhuma kabusha nomngane wakho

Ungase ucindezele ngokuphelele ukuthi impilo yakho izoshintsha kanjani ngemuva kokuba ingane yakho ishiya, futhi engqondweni yakho, lokho kungase kungabi ngcono. Khumbula lezo zinsuku ngaphambi kokuba ube nezingane, noma kunjalo, lapho nje ningobabili? Sekuyisikhathi sokwenza izinkumbulo eziningi njengezimbili.

Thatha isikhathi sokuhamba ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngokuthi ubani ozohlala nezingane. Hlela usuku lwamabusuku ngaphandle kokucabanga ngomntwana bese upheka noma yikuphi ukudla okufunayo ngaphandle kokucabangela ukuthi uma umuntu odlayo ethanda ukukhononda ngalokhu.

Uma imisebenzi yakho eminingi igxile ekuzitholeni imicimbi yezemidlalo nemidlalo yezemidlalo , kungathatha umzamo owengeziwe ukuthola ukuthi yini enye ongayenza ndawonye. Kungathatha ukuhlela okwengeziwe ukuze uthole imisebenzi ongayithokozela ndawonye.

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Phinda uxhumane nawe

Ingabe unayo izinto zokuzilibazisa owayeka kancane uma umzali ethatha impilo yakho? Isidalwa esingenalutho sisho ukuthi unesikhala nesikhathi sokubuyela emuva othintana nawe, kungakhathaliseki ukudweba, ukudala umculo noma ukupheka.

Njengoba zonke izinto zakho zezingane zakho sezihambe, manje kukhona isikhala esiningi sokugcina izinto ozidingayo ukuze uzicwilise emisebenzini oyithandayo. Cabanga ngendlela ofuna ukuchitha ngayo isikhathi sakho.

Mhlawumbe ungathanda ukuthatha isenzo sokuzilibazisa esabeka eceleni uma waba umzali noma mhlawumbe kukhona into owake wazama ukuzama kodwa awuzange ube nesikhathi.

Uma ungaqiniseki ukuthi ungathanda ukwenzani, khetha i-hobby bese uzama. Uma uthola ukuthi akusikho kuwe, zama enye into. Isikhathi esihle sokuhlola izithakazelo zakho.

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Thola Izinselelo Ezintsha

Nciphisa umuzwa wokulahleka ongase uzizwe ngomntanakho okhulayo ngokuthola inselele entsha noma yomsebenzi wokubhekana nayo.

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uphuphile ngokugijima umjaho womgwaqo noma uhlale ufuna ukuvuselela ikamelo ekhaya lakho, manje kungaba yisikhathi esihle sokungena kuwo.

Ungase uthathe ngisho nento enkulu nakakhulu, njengokuzinikela ngokuzithandela kwezingane, okungakusiza ukuthola indawo yokuqondisa ukugxila komzali wakho.

Kodwa-ke, ungenzi izinqumo zokuguqula impilo ezinyangeni eziyisithupha zokuqala noma ngemuva kokuba ingane yakho iphume. Ungayithengisi indlu yakho noma ushiye umsebenzi wakho ngaphandle kokuthi uhlele lokho okuhleliwe kusengaphambili.

I-coaster emotioner roller ehlobene nesidleke esingenalutho se-nest ingafaka isinqumo sakho. Futhi ukwenza ushintsho olukhulu ngenkathi uzizwa ngokomzwelo kungakuvimbela ekwenzeni isinqumo sakho esingcono kakhulu.

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Gwema Isifiso Sokuhlola Ukungena Kakhulu

Uma ubheka ngokucophelela ama-akhawunti womphakathi wengane yakho, shayela njalo ekuseni bese uchitha isikhathi sakho ukhathazeka ngokuthi ingane yakho yenza kanjani ekolishi noma endaweni yakhe entsha, ngeke ukwazi ukuqhubeka nokuphila kwakho.

Ukubhekana nesifo se-nest esingenalutho kusho ukuqala inqubo yokuyeka futhi uvumele ingane yakho ikhule ibe umuntu omdala ozimele. Yiqiniso, kufanele uhlole kahle inhlalakahle yengane yakho ngezinye izikhathi. Kodwa, unike ingane yakho ubumfihlo- kanye nendawo yokwenza amaphutha ambalwa.

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Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi wenzani ukushintsha ukugxila kwakho esihlahleni sakho esingenalutho, ngeke kushintshe imizwa yokuqala yokudabuka. Kungokwemvelo ukuzwa ukulahlekelwa nokuzama ukuphazamisa noma ukucindezela imizwa yakho ngeke kulungise izinto.

Udinga ukudabuka lokho okulahlekile. Isigaba esisodwa sempilo yakho siphelile. Izingane zakho azisekho ekhaya futhi kungenzeka ukuthi kudlulile ngokushesha kunalokho owake wacabanga.

Kulungile ukuzizwa udabukile. Nokho, awufuni ukunamathela endaweni yokudabuka.

Ukuvumelana nalesi sigaba esisha empilweni yakho kungaba nzima. Kodwa abazali abaningi bathola ukuthi bayakwazi ukuzivumelanisa nezindima zabo ezintsha njengabazali bentsha yabantu abadala futhi bahlakulela umqondo omusha wokujwayelekile.

Uma uthola ukuthi le nest syndrome engenalutho iyaqhubeka ihamba phambili, esikhundleni sokuthi ingcono, noma ingaxazululwa phakathi nezinyanga ezimbalwa, khuluma nochwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo. Izimpawu zakho zingase zibe zimbi nakakhulu futhi imizwa yakho yesizungu noma ukungabi nalutho kungadinga ukwelashwa.

Imithombo

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