Izibonakaliso zokungahambi kahle ziye zachitha impilo yakho

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Izimpawu Nezibonakaliso Zokucindezeleka Okuhlobene Nokungabi Nabani Nokukhathazeka

Ingabe uzizwa sengathi impilo yakho yonke igxile ekusaneni? Ingabe uyalala futhi uvuke ucabanga ngokukhulelwa ? Ungase uhlangane nokucindezeleka okuhlobene nokungazalwa noma ukukhathazeka.

Ukungafaki okungenzeka kungase kuthathe impilo yakho.

Ukungabi nalutho kunomzwelo nangokwenyama okweqisayo. Ucwaningo luye lwabona ukuthi ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo kwabesifazane abanesifo sokungaboni kahle kufana nomdlavuza kanye neziguli zenhliziyo . Ukuzala okunselelekile nakho kungase kube nakho ukuzwa ukucindezeleka.

Kodwa nje kuba umzabalazo ongokomzwelo wokuphelelwa yisisu okujwayelekile akusho ukuthi kufanele uyishaye indiva.

Akusho ukuthi ayikho enye indlela noma ukuthi kufanele uzibophezele ukuzwa ngale ndlela.

Okulandelayo kuluhlu lwezibonakaliso ezingu-15 zokucindezeleka okuhlobene nokungakhulelwe noma ukukhathazeka.

Isekelwe ohlwini lweMelika Society of Reproductive Medicine uhlu lwezibonakaliso ongazuza ngalo ngokululekwa .

(Uma lezi zibonakaliso ezingu-15 zisebenza kuwe, yebo, ngithemba ukuthi uzocabangela ngokucophelela ukululekwa.)

Njengoba uhamba, cabanga ukuthi lezi zinzima yini. Ungase ufune ukufaka amanothi phansi ukuze wabelane nodokotela wakho.

Ekupheleni koluhlu, nginikeza iseluleko sendlela yokunqoba impilo yakho emuva kokungapheli.

Ngoba ungayinqoba . Ngikholelwa ukuthi uyathanda.

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Ucabanga Ngokungahambi Nsuku Zonke Usuku Olude

Cishe ucabanga ukuthi, "Angikwazi kanjani ukucabanga ngokungazali esikhathini sonke?"

Ikakhulukazi phakathi kwezokwelapha noma ukuhlolwa , kuvamile ukuthi ube nokungafihli ngaphambili kwengqondo yakho.

Uma uhlela izinga lokushisa lomzimba wakho , ngokusobala uzoba nokuvuthwa ebuchosheni uma uvuka.

Uma uzinika izijovo futhi ungenele ama-ultrasound , futhi, akumangalisi ukuthi imicabango yakho izogxila ekwelapheni njalo.

Noma kunjalo, lokho kuhlukile kunokuba uzizwe njengokungabi nalutho kuphela into ongayicabangela ... ngisho nalapho ungekho phakathi komjikelezo omkhulu wezokwelapha.

Uma uphuma nabangani, ingabe uthola imicabango yakho ikhuphukela ekuzaleni kwakho?

Ingabe unenkinga ukuthola izinto ongakhuluma ngazo nomngane wakho (noma abangane) ngaphandle kokungabi nabantwana?

Uma uzama ukugxila noma ujabulele ezinye izingxenye zokuphila kwakho, ingabe uzizwa sengathi u-infertility uhlale ekwazi ukungena ngaphakathi nokuphuza ukuhlushwa kwakho?

Leyo inkinga.

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Utholwa Ngecala Lokuziphendulela

Masibe sobala: inecala ngumzwelo okufanele ulinganiselwe kulabo abaye benza okuthile okungalungile.

Izigebengu, isibonelo. Banecala lobugebengu.

Ukuthobeka akufanele kuhambisane nesifo sezokwelapha.

Ungase uzizwe unecala ...

• ngokuba ungaqala ukuba nomndeni ngaphambili
• ngokuba ungatholi umlingani ngaphambili
• ngoba ungagcini amaqanda akho ... noma ngabe awukho indlela owaziyo ukuthi uzodinga

Ungase uzizwe unecala ngoba uthola isifo esithathelwana ngocansi esasiholela ezinkingeni zakho zamanje zokuzala.

Ungase uzizwe unecala - kodwa akufanele .

Ukuziphendulela kubonisa ukuthi wazi futhi uqonde ukuthi izenzo zakho zazingalungile, ukuthi wazi ukuthi imiphumela izoba yini, futhi wenza kanjalo noma kunjalo.

Ngizimisele ukubheja lokho akulona iqiniso.

Kunezimo ezimbalwa lapho ukukhetha kungalungile uma kuziwa ekuzaleni. Ukulinda ukuba nezingane akulungile. Akuwona ubugebengu.

Uma uzizwa unecala elikhulu noma uzibeka icala, ungazuza ngokululekwa.

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Uzizwa ungenanzuzo noma unamahloni

Ingabe ukhathazeka ngokuthi abantu bayokuthanda kancane (noma cha nhlobo) uma bebazi ukuthi awunalutho?

Ingabe ukhathazeka umlingani wakho uzokushiya ngenxa yezinkinga zakho zokuzala?

Uzibona wena njengephukile? Kuyi-defective?

Uma uphendule u-yebo kunoma yikuphi okungenhla, unzima nemicabango yokungabi nalutho nokuhlazeka.

Uvumela ukungabi nabantwana ukuchaza ukuthi ungumuntu.

Kodwa wena ukhulu kakhulu kunokwakho kokungazalwa. Ukululekwa kungakusiza ukuthi ubone lokho.

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Unemizwa Eqhubekayo Yokudabuka

Ukudabuka kuyindlela evamile yokusabela ezenzakalweni ezimbi. Uma uthola izinyembezi lapho ukwelashwa kwehluleka, ukuhlolwa kokuzala kufaka imiphumela emibi, noma ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa kuyinto engavamile, lokho kuvamile.

Nokho, uma ...

• ukudabuka kwakho kubonakala kungenakuphakama
• uthola izinsuku zakho ziluhlaza kunelanga
• uye wazizwa udabukile amasonto namasonto

... ungase ubhekane nokucindezeleka.

Ukucwaninga kubonisa ukuthi imibhangqwana engatholakali ingase ibhekane nokucindezeleka .

Ukucindezeleka okuchazwa ngokungaqondile njengokudabuka ukuthi awukwazi ukuzamazama, kuthatha isikhathi eside, futhi kuphazamisa impilo yakho yansuku zonke.

Uma uzizwa udabukile isikhathi esiningi - ngisho nalapho ungaqondi ngempela ukuthi kungani uzizwa udabukile - ungase ubhekane nokudabuka okuvamile.

• Ukucindezeleka nokungahambi kahle 101
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Uzizwa Uhlelekile Ngomphakathi

Ukugwema abesifazane abakhulelwe , imvula yabantwana, noma labo abanezingane ezincane kuyinqubo evamile eyi-100 uma bebhekene nokungabi nabantwana.

Ukugwema lezi zimo kungase kube uhlobo lokuzinakekela kahle.

Kodwa, uma u ...

• uzizwa unesizungu ngokwengeziwe isikhathi esiningi
• ukugwema abangane nomndeni ezimweni eziningi
• ukuhlala ekhaya futhi kude nemibuthano yezenhlalo owake wajabulela
• uzizwa uwedwa ngisho nalapho unabanye

... kungenzeka ukuthi uhlushwa imizwa yokuzihlukanisa.

Lokhu kungaba umphumela wokucindezeleka kanye / noma ukuhlazeka.

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Awunakujabulela kakhulu imisebenzi owake wakwenza

Zikhona yini izinto owake wathanda ukuthi manje awujabuli?

Lokhu akufani nokukhetha nje ukuzithokozisa okusha, yebo.

Kodwa-ke, uma kukhona izinto zokuzilibazisa, abangane, noma izindawo owake wazithandayo, futhi awukwazi nje ukuzitholela ukuzithokozisa (nakuba ufisa sengathi ungakwazi), ukudabuka ngenxa yokungasebenzi kungase kube umbala wakho umbono wokuphila.

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Uzizwa Uvame Ukukhathazeka Noma Ukwazi Ukuhlaselwa Kwamahloni

Ukungenzi lutho kungenza ukuthi kube nokwesaba okukhulu. Okunye okumele kulindeleke.

Ukwesaba mayelana nokuhlolwa kokuzala okuzayo (ikakhulukazi okungabhubhisayo), ukulinda imiphumela, nokukhathazeka ngemiphumela emibi yokwelashwa nemiphumela kungabangela ukuthi izinzwa zakho zibe nzima.

Nokho, uma uthola ...

• ukukhathazeka kuthola indlela yokuphila kwakho kwansuku zonke
• ukwesaba akubonakali ukuyeka emva kwezinkathi zokubambisana
• uzithola uzizwa ukhathazekile ngenxa yesizathu esithile
• uzithola uthola ukuhlaselwa ukwesaba

... ungase ubhekane nento engaphezu kokwesaba okuvamile. Ungase ube nokukhathazeka okuhlobene ne-infertility.

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Ngokushesha Ukhungathekile Noma Uthukuthele

Kokubili ukukhathazeka nokucindezeleka kungabangela ukukhungatheka ngaphezu kokujwayelekile, nokulahlekelwa ukubekezela kwakho kalula.

Intukuthelo nokukhungatheka ngenxa yokungabi nabantwana kungaphinde kuqondiswe kabi kulabo abakuzungezile. Ungase uthole ugoqa osebenza nabo noma amalungu omndeni ngaphezu kwezinto ezincane, hhayi ngoba lokho abakwenzile kwakungalungile, kodwa ngoba uzizwa uthukuthele futhi ukhungathekile ngaphakathi.

Ungase uzithole uzizwa uthukuthele abesifazane abakhulelwe okungahleliwe noma labo abanezingane ezincane. Mhlawumbe ngisho nabantu ongabazi.

Udokotela wami wangitshela ukuthi intukuthelo iyinhlamvu ehlukile yokudabuka. Nomaphi lapho kukhona khona intukuthelo, kukhona ukudabuka okugwedla ngakolunye uhlangothi.

Ukwelulekwa kungakusiza ukucubungula imizwa yentukuthelo, ngakho-ke abasebenzi bakho kanye nabathandekayo ababa yizinhloso ezingenacala.

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Unenkinga Yokugxila noma Ukukhumbula Izinto

Ezinye izidakamizwa zokuzala zingabangela izinkinga zokuhlushwa .

Nokho, uma uthola lokho ...

• "uhlala" isikhathi esiningi
• awukwazi ukugxila emsebenzini wakho
• awukwazi ngisho nokugxila emisebenzini ejabulisayo, njengokufunda incwadi

... ungase uthande ukucabangela ukululekwa.

Ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka nakho kungenza kube nzima ukuhlushwa, njengoba kungase kudingeke ukucabanga ngokungapheli 24/7.

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Ubuhlobo Bakho Buhlupheka

Ukungenzi lutho kwenza ukucindezela okukhulu kumbhangqwana. Eminye imibhangqwana isondela, kuyilapho abanye bezwa sengathi bahlukana.

Ukucindezeleka kwezezimali kokungabi nabantwana kungase kufike phakathi kwemibhangqwana.

• Ingabe uzithola uphikisana ngezinqumo zokunakekela ukwelashwa?
• Ingabe ukhathazeka ngokuthi umlingani wakho uzokushiya ngenxa yokungasebenzi?
• Ukhohliwe ukuthi ujabule kanjani ndawonye?

Uma uzizwa ubuhlobo bakho buhlupheka, ukubona umeluleki ndawonye kungaba yindlela enhle.

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Uyakwazi Ukulwa Nokusebenza Ngokocansi noma Ukuzijabulisa

Uma uzama ukukhulelwa, uvame ukulala ocansini uma ungazizwa uthanda.

Lokhu kungashintsha indlela umbhangqwana oya ocansini ngisho nalapho "kungadingeki" ukuba ube nawo.

Futhi, ukuhlazeka kokungabi nabantwana kungaholela ekuboneni impilo yakho yobulili njengomshini "ophukile owenza umntwana." Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ubulili bungaphezulu kakhulu kokwenza abantwana.

Lokhu kungathinta kakhulu impilo yakho yezocansi.

Izinkinga ezinye imibhangqwana engase zihlangane zifaka ...

• Ukunciphisa isifiso socansi
• Ukukhathazeka komsebenzi noma ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile
• Ukunciphisa ukujatshulwa kobulili

Ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka kungadala nakakhulu impilo yakho yezocansi.

Futhi, ukungalingani kwamanye ama-hormonal (okubangela ukungazalwa) nakho kungathinta impilo yakho yobulili. Ubulili bungaba buhlungu ngenxa yezifo zokuzala, njenge-endometriosis. Lokhu kungakhombisa nokulimaza impilo yakho yobulili.

Uma ubhekana nobunzima bobulili, kubalulekile ukuthi ungaboni kuphela ukululekwa kodwa futhi vumela udokotela wakho wokuzala ukuthi azi.

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Uphendukela Izidakamizwa Noma Utshwala Ngokuphindaphindiwe

Uyazi ukuthi akufanele uphuze uma uzama ukukhulelwa.

Kodwa mhlawumbe ukucindezeleka ukutholile kuwe , futhi uzithola uthola isiphuzo ukuze uphumule ubusuku.

Ngenye ingilazi yewayini ngezikhathi ezithile akuyona inkinga.

Kodwa, uma ...

• uzithola uphuza ukuze uphazamise imizwelo yakho
• ufihle ukuphuza kwakho kumlingani wakho
• ukuphuza kuphazamisa impilo yakho yansuku zonke

... yisikhathi sokufinyelela usizo.

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Ufuna Ukudla Yonke Isikhathi Noma Cha

Ukudla kungaba yisidakamizwa.

Ingabe uzithola udla ukuze uphazamise imizwelo yakho? Ingabe uyazitika futhi uzizwa unecala ngokudla okuningi?

Akukho lutho olubi ngokuthola ukwelashwa kanye nje. Umehluko phakathi kokudla ngokomzwelo nokujabulela ukwelashwa yisici sokujabula.

Ngokuvamile, lapho umuntu edla ukugaya imizwa eyinkimbinkimbi, lo muntu uzizwa embi nakakhulu - futhi hhayi okungcono - emva kokuzikhohlisa.

Ngaphandle kwalokho, abanye abantu balahlekelwa yizinkanuko zabo ngezikhathi zokucindezeleka okukhulu.

Izinguquko kumaphetheni wakho wokudla, kanye nezinguquko esisisindo sakho, kungaba izibonakaliso zokucindezeleka.

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Ubhekana Nokulala

Ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka kungaphazamisa ubuthongo.

Ingabe...

• Thola ulele kakhulu?
• Unenkinga yokulala ebusuku?
• Unzima ukuhlala ulele?
• Thola ulele kuzo zonke amahora angalungile?

Lokhu kungaba izibonakaliso zokucindezeleka noma ukukhathazeka.

Khumbula ukuthi ezinye izidakamizwa zokuzala zingaphazamisa amaphethini akho okulala. Khuluma nodokotela wakho uma izinkinga zakho zokulala ziqala uma uthatha imithi ethile noma umuthi wokuzala.

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Uthola Izinkolelo Zakho Ukuholela Ekufeni Noma Ukuzibulala

Uma uzithola ucabanga ukuthi uzoba ngcono uma ufile, noma ucabanga ngokuzibulala, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ufune ukululekwa.

Imicabango yokuzibulala iyisibonakaliso sokucindezeleka okukhulu. Ngokushesha uzothola usizo, ngokushesha uzokwazi ukuzwa kangcono ngokuphila kwakho futhi.

Ingabe unenkinga yokucabanga ngokuzibulala okwamanje? Uyesaba ukuthi ungazilimaza?

Sicela ushayele usizo lokuzibulala noma uzitholele ekamelweni eliphuthumayo eliseduzane.

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Ukuzibulala kuyisinqumo esingunaphakade esekelwe emizweni yesikhashana. Sicela uphumelele usizo.

• Amathiphu okubhekana nokucabanga okuzibulala

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Awudingi Ukuzwa Le Ndlela ...

Ukungafanisi kungabangela ubuhlungu. Ukubhekana nokuhlolwa kanye nokwelashwa kungadala. Kungokwemvelo ukuzwa ukudabuka ngisho nokuthukuthela ngezikhathi ezithile.

Kodwa ukungabi nalutho akudingeki kuthathe impilo yakho.

Nakuba kungase kuvamile kulabo abanenkinga yokucindezeleka noma ukukhathazeka, lokho akusho ukuthi akunakugwemeka.

Awudingi ukuhlupheka. Kukhona usizo laphaya.

• Ucabanga ukuthi Ungase Ucindezeleke? Nazi Izinto Ezinhlanu Zokukwenza Okwamanje

> Imithombo:

> Arthur L. Greil, 1 uKathleen Slauson-Blevins, 2 noJulia McQuillan2. "Okuhlangenwe nakho okungafani nalokhu : Ukubuyekezwa Kwezincwadi Zamuva." I- Sociol Health Illn . 2010 Jan; 32 (1): 140-162. Ishicilelwe ku-intanethi ngo-2009 Dec 9. sinayo: 10.1111 / j.1467-9566.2009.01213.x

> Ukweluleka kokungahambi kahle kanye nokusekelwa: nini futhi kuphi ukuthola khona. I-American Society of Medicine Yokuzala.