Ukudala Isikhathi Esiphephile Nendawo Yezinyembezi
Uzizwa sengathi udinga ukukhala? Awusodwa, hhayi ngokude. Ukubhekana nokuphelelwa yisifo kunzima kakhulu . Ucwaningo luye lwabona ukuthi okuhlangenwe nakho ngokomzwelo kwabesifazane ababhekene nokugula kungalingani nobuhlungu obungokomzwelo obubhekene nabesifazane ababhekene nomdlavuza, i-HIV, nobuhlungu obungapheli.
Ukuze senze izinto zibe zikhulu nakakhulu, izidakamizwa eziningi zokuzala ziletha ukuguquka kwemizwelo, okuqhubekayo kuphazamise ukungalingani kwethu ngokomzwelo.
Abantu bakhuluma ngama-Crazies e- Clomid - isimo sengqondo esishintsha lo muthi othile waziwa - futhi abahlezi!
Njengabesifazane abaningi bathola i-teary ngaphambi nje kwesikhathi sabo, ukungcola kwezidakamizwa zokuzala kanye namahomoni akho kanye nemizwelo ngendlela efanayo. Ngeshwa, umphakathi wethu udangalisa ukuvuma ukudabuka. Kufanele "sibone uhlangothi olukhanyayo," futhi "hlala uhle!"
Abantu bangase bafune ukuthi sibheke zonke izibusiso nobuhle esinazo empilweni yethu, noma bangase bashumayele ukuthi uma nje 'singaba nethemba' ngokwanele, sizokhulelwa ngeminwe yethu.
Yiqiniso, kukhona indawo yokubonga nokuzama ukubona ukukhanya ngisho nasebumnyameni. Kodwa ungazizwa kokubili.
Ungabonga ngalokho onakho futhi uzizwe udabukile. Lezi akuzona ukuphikisana.
Ungabambeli Izinyembezi
Ukubeka ukumamatheka kwamanga ngeke kudale isimangaliso. Futhi ukuzwa ukudabuka ngenxa yokulahleka nokukhungatheka ukuthi ukungabi namuntu okulethayo akulethi ukuhle emiphilweni yethu.
Uma udinga ukukhala, kubalulekile ukuvumela ngokwakho ukwenza kanjalo.
Ukubamba ukudabuka akukwenzi kube khona. Esikhundleni salokho, idla amandla angokomzwelo okumele ubhekane nawo futhi ubhekane nokuphila kwakho kwansuku zonke.
Izinyembezi zithola indlela yazo yokuphuma, ngezinye izikhathi ngezikhathi ezimbi kakhulu. Ngezinye izikhathi, ukudabuka okubanjwe kuyo kungase kubonakale njengokukhathazeka noma ukwesaba.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, awufuni ukudabuka kudle impilo yakho. Uma izinto zinzima ngempela, zingasiza ukukhetha isikhathi esinikeziwe sokuvumela izinyembezi ziphume.
Kungase kubonakale kungaqondakali - ukuhlela ngesikhathi esithile ukukhala - kodwa kuyamangaza ukuthi iphumelela futhi ikhululekile.
7 Izinyathelo Zokukhala Okuhle
Isinyathelo 1: Khetha usuku nesikhathi sokuzwa ukudabuka.
Uma ufunda lokhu usuqeda, mhlawumbe leso sikhathi kufanele sibe maduze kunakuqala. Ungabeka eceleni imizuzu engu-15 noma amahora ambalwa. Uma nje uzokwazi ukuhlala wedwa futhi uzizwe ukhululekile ukukhala futhi uziveze ngesikhathi saleso sikhathi.
Isinyathelo 2: Beka isikhathi sokuqala nesokuphela.
Kubalulekile ukuthi ubeke isikhathi sokuqala nesikhathi sokuphela. Lokhu akusho ukuthi awuvumelekile ukuba uzizwe udabukile ngemuva kwesikhathi esinqunyiwe, akunjalo. Kodwa kungaba nomuzwa ophephile ukwazi ukuthi ngeke ukhale njalo uma uqala.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma uthola ukudabuka okudabukisayo kuwo wonke usuku, lokhu kungakunika indlela yokuveza leyo mizwa kodwa uvimbele ukuba bangadluli ngokuphelele.
Isinyathelo sesi-3: Khetha indawo ephephile ukuze uhambe.
Leyo ndawo ingase ibe khona ekhaya, noma kungenzeka ibe ehlathini eduze nehhovisi lakho.
Uma ususebenza, futhi udinga ngempela imizuzu engu-10 ukukhala ukuze udlule usuku, ungase uthathe isinqumo sokushayela endaweni yokupaka engenalutho.
Uma ubona umeluleki, indawo yakho ephephile ingaba ngaphakathi ehhovisi lakhe. Qinisekisa ukuthi futhi unendawo ephephile ngaphandle kwelashwa. Awufuni ukuchitha isonto lakho lonke eliphethe imizwa.
Isinyathelo 4: Thola indlela yokukhipha izinyembezi.
Ngoba nje ufuna ukukhala akusho ukuthi ungadinga. Kungase kudingeke uhlehlise lezo zindezi.
Ungasebenzisa umculo, ukubhala, ubuciko, noma i-movie ukukusiza ukuthi uthole izinyembezi.
Uma ubuyele isikhathi eside, izinyembezi zingabanjwa. Uma ngizizwa isidingo sokukhala, ama-movie engiwakhethayo yiForrest Gump, i-Dead Poet's Society, futhi i -Life A Wonderful .
Angicabangi ukuthi ngike ngakwenza ngalezi zinsuku ngamehlo omile.
Ngokuphathelene nomculo, nginezinhla zokudlala ngokuzizwa. Ukukhala komculo, ukududuza umculo, umculo ojabulisayo ...
Ngokujulile: Kuyasiza!
Enye iqhinga engilisebenzisile ukuzibhalela incwadi, ngitshele zonke izinto engingayitshela omunye umuntu esimweni sami. (Akusihle yini ukuthi kuhle kangakanani ukuthethelela nokubonisa umusa kwabanye, kodwa sihlale sisahlulela ngokweqile?)
Isinyathelo sesi-5: Zinikezele ngokuzithemba okuningi.
Lokhu kungase kusho ukuphuza indebe elishisayo yetiyi we-herbal noma ukuzibophezela ngengubo noma ithawula ngaphandle kokugaya. Yenza noma yini okudingeka uyenze ukuze uzizwe unakekelwa futhi uthandwa.
Ungase uzikhandle futhi ngokuzithoba. Ukuduma kunciphisa isimiso sezinzwa. Sebenzisa lolu lwazi ukuze uzizinakekele!
Isinyathelo 6: Ungazigwebi uma ungenakukhala kule mzuzu.
Uma ungeke ukwazi ukukhala, lokho kulungile.
Noma nini isikhathi esichithwa ukukhathalela ukuzizwa kwakho ngokomzwelo yisikhathi esichitha kahle.
Isinyathelo sesi-7: Dala umsebenzi wokuphela noma wokuguquka.
Uchithe isikhathi esithile ngokudabuka kwakho. Manje sekuyisikhathi sokuthi uzuze (okwamanje) futhi uhambe endaweni engokomzwelo enhle noma okungenani kakhulu.
Mhlawumbe umculo omnandi, noma ukuhamba ngokushesha. Mhlawumbe ungabiza umngane ukuba "akhulumi lutho."
Uvele nje udinga okuthile okumele ubonakale kumuntu wakho womzwelo ukuthi ulalele, uke wavuma ukudabuka, futhi manje sekuyisikhathi sokubuyela empilweni yakho.
Isikhathi Sokuhlela Izinyembezi Ngokuvamile Njengoba Uyakudinga
Hlela lezi zikhathi noma nini lapho udinga, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ngesonto, kanye kanye namasonto ambalwa, noma ngisho nemizuzu engu-15 nsuku zonke, ngesikhathi esinzima kakhulu.
Uma unomuzwa wokuthi ukudabuka kuthatha impilo yakho, futhi lezi zikhathi ezincane azanele, cabanga ngokucophelela ukuthola ochwepheshe wezobuchwepheshe ukukhuluma nabo.
Ukwelapha kuye kwasiza izigidi zabantu ukuba zifinyelele ezikhathini ezinzima. Ungacabangi ukuthi awukwazi ukuwukhokhela. Hlola ngomshwalense wakho wezempilo, ukwelulekwa yingxenye yezinhlelo eziningi.
Ekuqaleni, kungase kuve ukwesaba ukuyeka ukubamba izinyembezi, futhi kungase kube nomuzwa wokuthi ngeke uphinde ukhale.
Kodwa uzobona.
Nakuba kubuhlungu uma usemzuzwana, emva kwalokho, inhliziyo yakho izozizwa ilungele kancane.
Okuningi ekubhekaneni ngenkathi uzama ukukhulelwa:
- Izibonakaliso zokucindezeleka okuhlobene nokungenzi lutho nokukhathazeka
- Indlela Yokubhekana Nesimo Lapho Uzama Ukuqonda Ukukunqoba
- Indlela Yokuthi Ube Nengane Uma Ube Wazama Kancane
Umthombo:
UMichelle P. Lukse noNicholas A. Vacc. "Ukudabuka, Ukucindezeleka, Nokubhekana Nabafazi Abasebenzisa Ukwelashwa Okungahambi kahle." I-Obstetrics & Gynecology 1999 93: 245-251. Ifinyelele ngoJanuwari 30, 2008.