Ingabe uthola ukukhathazeka nge-ex yakho mayelana nokusekelwa kwengane okungakhokhelwa? Ukhungathekile ngokwanele ukuvimbela ukuvakashelwa? Ukuba nentukuthelo enkulu kangaka kuyaqondakala, kodwa kufanele ucabange kabili ngaphambi kokuthi unqabe ukuvakashelwa ukusekelwa kwengane okungakhokhelwa. Nakhu.
Ngokuphelelwa yisikhathi, abazali abaningi bayazibuza ukuthi kungani bengakwazi nje ukugwema ukuvakashelwa ngenxa yokusekelwa kwengane engakhokhelwa.
Abaningi bayazibuza: "Ngeke yini ekugcineni ngimisele i-ex yami ukuba ngiyikhokha? " Akunjalo ngempela, futhi kungenzeka empeleni ukulimaze ukuma kwakho okuhle nejaji okwengamele icala lakho.
I-Connect Between Child Support and Visitation
Lezi zinqubo ezimbili, ukwesekwa kwengane nokuvakashelwa, kubhekwa njengezinkinga ezimbili ezihlukene ngokuphelele emehlweni omthetho. Abazali abatholi "ilungelo" lobuhlobo nengane yabo ngokukhokhela ukusekelwa kwengane. Kubonakala sengathi lokho kuyoba okunengqondo, kodwa akusebenzi nje ngaleyo ndlela. Ngaphambi kokuya ekuvimbeleni ukuvakashelwa ukusekelwa kwengane okungakhokhelwa, cabangela lokhu okulandelayo:
- Ukuvakashelwa kuyilungelo lomntanakho . Ekugcineni, ilungelo lomntwana ngamunye ukwazi ukwazi nokujabulela ubuhlobo bobabili abazali. Uma kwenzeka umzali ongenamkhawulo engakwazi ukukhokhela ukusekelwa kwengane (isibonelo, ngenxa yokulahleka komsebenzi), ingane ingadingeki "ikhokhe" ngokuvinjelwa ekubeni nobuhlobo nomzali.
- Ukwesekwa kwezezimali umthwalo wabazali ngamunye . Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuyomthwalo wemfanelo yomzali ukuhlinzekela izidingo zezimali zezingane. Ukunquma ukungabi nobuhlobo nengane yomuntu, njengabazali abathile abangenalo ukuvikela, akuxhasi umzali emithwalweni yakhe yemali. Ngakho-ke, abazali abangaboni ngaso sonke isikhathi izingane zabo basadingeka bakhokhele ukusekelwa kwabantwana.
Ukukhathazeka Kokuphepha Kwezingane
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi noma yikuphi ukukhathazeka okusemthethweni mayelana nokuphepha kwengane yakho kuyadingeka ukuthi kulungiswe, kodwa lokho kuvame ukuhlukana nendaba yokuthi ngabe u-o wakho ukhokha ukusekela ingane ngokugcwele noma ngesikhathi. Uma unganqikazi ukuthumela ingane yakho enkantolo-ehanjelwe ukuvakashelwa ngoba ukwesaba ukuphepha kwayo, kufanele uxhumane nenkantolo eyakhishwe i-oda lokuvakasha futhi ukhulume nommeli ogciniwe wokugcina ingane esifundazweni sakho. Ungase uthole ukuthi kuyasiza ukuloba okukhathazayo encwadini yakho ukuze ukwazi ukukhumbula ngokunembile izimo ezithile uma kamuva kudingekile ukuba ufakaze ngokukhathazeka kwakho.
Okufanele Ukwenze Ngenkxaso Yengane Engakhokhwa
Ngakho abazali bangenzani ngokusekelwa kwengane okungakhokhelwa? Kungcono ukuxhumana noHhovisi Lwasekhaya Lwasekhaya Ukusekela Ukubika ukukhathazeka kwakho. Bazokwazi ukufaka izigwebo, njengokugqoka ukukhokha kwakho, ukungamvumeli ukuba athole ipasipoti esemthethweni, abambelele isinxephezelo sokungasebenzi, ngisho nokuphoqelela isikhathi sejele. Kungcono ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuvumela izinkantolo ukuthi zibhekane nenkinga yokusekelwa kwengane engakhokhelwa esikhundleni sakho sokuthatha izinto ezandleni zakho.
Okungafanele Ukwenze
Futhi, kungcono ukungangeni esicupheni sokuvakashela ukuvakashelwa phezu kokusekelwa kwengane okungakhokhelwa.
Ekunqumeni izingqinamba zokugcinwa kwesigceme, iziphathimandla eziningi zibeka ukubaluleka kokubaluleka kokuthi umzali ngamunye usekela ubuhlobo bomntwana nomunye umzali. Ngakho-ke, noma yikuphi ukuzama ukugwema ukuhambela-ngaphandle kwezimo lapho ukholelwa ukuthi ingane yakho isengozini-ekugcineni kungasetshenziswa ngokumelene nawe.