Esikhathini esithile ngokuzalwa kokuzalwa kwendodakazi yami yokuqala, ngaqala ukuthola umkhuhlane wengane.
Ukuza emindenini emikhulu ngokwethu (izingane ezine ngasinye), mina nomyeni wami sazi njalo ukuthi sifuna ukunikeza izingane zethu isipho sokuba nabantwana bakithi eduze. Futhi ngenxa yokuthi ngakhulela nodadewethu abancane cishe eminyakeni engaba yisishiyagalolunye ngaphandle kwami, ngangifisa ngasese ukunika indodakazi yami udadewethu osondelene engangakaze ngibe nakho.
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Futhi ngenhlanhla, ngithole isifiso sami nendodakazi yami yesibili yazalwa eminyakeni emibili ngemuva kokudadewabo. Ngithanda ukuba amantombazane ami asondelene kakhulu futhi ngenxa yokuthi igebe lonyaka "iminyaka emibili" libonakala liphume kahle kakhulu, saqhubeka nokwenza izingane zethu, samukela ezinye izingane ezimbili eminyakeni emine ezayo - ukuletha inani eliphelele izingane ezine eminyakeni eyisithupha. Zonke izingane zethu cishe ziyiminyaka emibili nje, inombolo ebonakala inhle kakhulu emindenini eminingi. Nazi izizathu ezimbalwa ukuthi igebe lezinyanga ezimbili libonakala lisisebenzela:
Isebenza ngokuncelisa
Ngicabanga ukuthi igebe leminyaka emibili yobudala lenza umqondo omkhulu, ikakhulukazi ukukhuluma ngokwezinto eziphilayo. Amama omncelisayo ajwayele ukuba nemijikelezo ephuzelelekile futhi lapho abantwana beqala ukukhula ngokwemvelo ezinyangeni ezingu-12 ubudala, ukwehla kobuhlengikazi kusho umzimba wakhe ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokukhulelwa futhi!
Ukuncintisana okungaphansi komntakwethu
Isikhala sokubonakala kwesimo semvelo sokugaya izingane kubonakala sengathi sisebenza - eneminyaka emibili ubudala, izinsana zinokuzimela okuningi futhi zibonakala zithatha izinsana ezingaphezulu ngokwengeziwe. Asikaze sibhekane nezinkinga nomona wesibani, isibonelo. Futhi ohlangothini olungaphezulu, ukugcina izingane zisondele eminyakeni kusho ukuthi sihlale "kwimodi yomntwana." Ake ngitshele nje uma ushiye isiteji sezikhwama ze-diaper kanye namakhefu okuphuza nokulala ebusuku, kunzima kakhulu ukubuyela emuva!
Vala izibopho ze-sibling
Esinye sezizathu zami zokufuna ukudala umfana omkhulu eminyakeni engangineminyaka ukuthi ngithemba ukuba bonke bakhule ndawonye futhi babe abangane bompilo. Akukho lutho engilubaluleke kakhulu kunomfowethu nodadewethu futhi ngingathanda ukuthi izingane zami zithole leso sipho futhi.
Ayikho isiqiniseko sokuthi ukuba nezingane zakini kusondele eminyakeni yobudala kusho ukuthi bazokhula ndawonye. Omunye umama owakhulume ngekhasi lami le-Facebook waphawula ukuthi wayenezingane eziyisithupha ngokuqondile ngakho bonke babezokhula ndawonye - futhi manje bahlala emhlabeni wonke futhi bangalokothi bakhulume!
Isikhathi esiningi sokwenza okunye ukuphishekela
Le nzuzo akuyona wonke umuntu, kodwa kufanele ngivume, iwuphelile ingqondo yami isikhathi noma ezimbili. Ukuba nezingane zami ngesikhathi esisodwa, ngisemncane kakhulu, kungase kube mnandi ukujabulela isikhathi esiningi samahhala kamuva phansi komgwaqo noma nesikhathi sokuthola umzimba wami ubuye. Ngezindlela eziningi, ngicabange uma sifuna iqembu lezingane, kungani ungabi nazo zonke ngesikhathi esisodwa? Kodwa-ke, ingxenye yami icabanga ukuthi kuyoba kuhle ngempela ukuba nekhefu futhi kuphazamise ukuphuma kwengane yokugcina futhi.
Ngizizwele izeluleko eziningi ezahlukene ezivela kumamama amaningi ahlukene ngokuhlukanisa izingane zabo. Abanye bafunga ukuthi izikhala ezindala kakhulu yindlela yokuhamba, ngoba ingane yakhulile ingasiza ingane futhi ngibone inzuzo kulowo.
Kithina, kufanele ngitshele ukuthi ngiyajabula ngokuhlukanisa phakathi kweminyaka yami phakathi kwezingane zami futhi uma kufanele ngisenze njalo, angizange ngishintshe into.
Ucabanga ukuthi yikuphi ukuhlukanisa okuhle phakathi kwezingane?