Abazali abajabulela ukugcina izingane ngokuhambisana ne "Uzoba ngcono ngoba indlela yokubuka kukaSanta", i-Thanksgiving ibonakala iyisikhathi lapho usongo luqala khona ukusebenza. Ukwesaba uhla lwamalahle ku-stocking, kanye nezikhumbuzo ze "ngeke uthole izipho kulo nyaka," zingasetshenziselwa amacala avela ekuhlaselweni ngokomzimba ukuya ekungalalelweni.
Nakuba isikhumbuzo sokuthi uSanta "uyazi uma ulele," futhi "uyazi lapho usuphapheme," uye wasebenzisa izizukulwane, amaqhinga okuhlola aguqukile phakathi neminyaka.
Uma ukusongelwa kwamakhono kaSanta okungaqondakali ukubuka konke okushiwo ingane kusukela kude kwakungeyona into enhle kakhulu, manje uSanta unama-scouts amsiza ukuba alandele ukuthi ubani ongowakhe ohlwini olubi. I-Elf ekubhekeni okuqhubekayo kweShelf isebenza njengesikhumbuzo esingokwenyama ezinganeni ukuthi iSanta izokwazi ukuthi ngabe ihamba kahle noma imbi kulo nyaka.
Ngokusobala, ukucindezeleka kwamaholidi kungabangela izingane eziningi ukuba zenze okungaphezu kokujwayelekile. Futhi nakuba abazali abaningi besongela ngeke kube khona izipho uma ukuziphatha kwengane kungaphuthuki, abazali abambalwa kakhulu balandela lokho kusongela.
Futhi ngenkathi usongo lokuba ohlwini lukaSanta olubi lungakhumbuza ezinye izingane ukuba ziziphathe, izinsongo ezingenalutho azisebenzi neze iningi. Ngakho-ke kusongela ukukhansela uKhisimusi indlela ehlakaniphile yokuzali?
Izinkinga Ngokusebenzisa uKhisimusi Njengomgqugquzeli
Ukuthola izingane ezishukumisele ukuziphatha ngokungazi muntu-kungumqondo othakazelisayo. Ukuthi, "USanta ufuna ukuba ube mnandi," esikhundleni sokuthi, "Ngifuna ukuba ube mnandi," kwenza kube sengathi ingane yakho kufanele inakekele kabanzi ngemibono kaSanta kuneyakho.
Ukusongela okungenalutho akukaze kube umkhuba wokusiza wabazali.
Ukuhlanganisa ingane yakho ngokuziphatha kwayo nokumxwayisa ukuthi ngeke athole izipho kungabonakalisa ukuthembeka kwakho. Lapho u-Santa ehambisa izipho-kungakhathaliseki ukuziphatha okungalungile kwangaphambili-ingane yakho izocabanga ukuthi awukwazi ukuthi ukhuluma ngani.
Ngokusobala, izingane eziningi azikhathazi okwenzeka kusasa, noma kunjalo amasonto ambalwa kusukela manje. Ngakho usongo lokungatholi izipho izinsuku noma amasonto esikhathini esizayo angeke kube yinto enkulu yokuvimbela.
Ukwengeza, umqondo wokuthi kufanele ube "omuhle," kuwumqondo ongaqondakali. Ushiya izingane eziningi zibuza, "Ngabe kufanele ngempela ukuba khona?" Kuphakamisa umbuzo, ukuthi "ukuhle" kusho ukuthini ngempela? Wena nomntanakho bangase babe nemibono ehlukene kakhulu ngalokho okufaneleka ngokuthi "kuhle."
Ezinye izindlela "ohlwini olungathandeki"
Isikhathi seholide sivame ukugcwala isikhathi somndeni, ukuphathwa okweshukela, kanye nezinguquko kumigomo evamile. Futhi nakuba lezo zinto zingase zibe mnandi, zingase zicindezele izingane. Yingakho izinkinga zokuziphatha ezikhulayo phakathi kwamaholide zijwayelekile.
Ukukhumbuza izingane ukuba ziphathe kanjalo amagama abo avela "ohlwini oluhle" kungaba konke okujabulisayo. Kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuthi kube yisixazululo sesikhathi eside sempumelelo sokuphatha ukuziphatha.
Ngakho kunokuba usongele ukususa uKhisimusi nokulibeka icala kumfana kule suti enkulu ebomvu, cabangela lawa macebiso:
- Izingane zenza kahle uma zithola umphumela ngokushesha wokuziphatha kwabo okungalungile . Ngakho uma ingane yakho ishaya umfowabo, isikhathi esisheshayo sizosebenza kangcono kunokusongela "ukubuka kukaSanta."
- Izingane zidinga imigomo ethile . Esikhundleni sokulwela ukuba "kuhle," ingane cishe isabela emgomweni onjenge- "sebenzisa amagama anomusa kuphela," noma "sebenzisa kuphela ukuthinta ngothando nenja."
- Izinhlelo zokuvuza ziyisikhuthazo esikhulu . Setha ishadi lesitika noma isimiso somnotho we- token esivumela ingane yakho ukuthi ithole imivuzo esheshayo yokuziphatha okuqondile.
- Ukuqiniswa okunamandla kusebenza kakhulu kunezingsongo . Sebenzisa indumiso ngokukhululekile ukukhomba ukuziphatha okuhle futhi unikeze ukunakekelwa okuningi.
- Ukutshela ingane ukuthi "ohlwini olubi" akunakwenzeka kakhulu ekuziphatheni kwakhe . Izingane ziziphatha kahle uma zizizwa zihle ngabo. Sebenzisa amasu wokuziphatha okukhuthaza ukuzethemba okunempilo .
- Sebenza ezinkingeni zokuziphatha unyaka wonke. Uma ukhathazeke ngokuthi ingane yakho " ingabongi " noma ichithekile, ukukhansela isikhathi sikaKhisimusi kungenakwenzeka ukushintsha isimo sengqondo somntanakho. Esikhundleni salokho, sebenza ukukhuthaza ukubonga nsuku zonke konyaka ngaphezu kokuvimbela amaholidi ukuba abe yizo zonke izipho.
Uma uzosebenzisa i-Elf kuShelf kanye nezikhumbuzo mayelana "nohlu olungenangqondo," lusetshenziswe ngokujabulisayo, hhayi njengendlela yokuziphatha eyinhloko. Phela, isikhathi seholide sincane futhi udinga ukuba uhlomile ngamasu okuqeqesha isikhathi eside ngemuva kokuthi izivalo zivulwe. Gxila ekufundiseni ingane yakho ukuba iphathe ngoba into ehloniphayo, hhayi ngoba ngeke izuze uKhisimusi.
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> HealthyChildren.org: Uhlelo lwe-ABC.
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