Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi abazali abahle yibo abahlala bekela izingane zabo njalo . Ngaphezu kwalokho, abazali abahle bangavuma ukuthi ukukhulisa izingane ezifaka isandla emiphakathini yabo futhi zikhiqiza, zilungiswe kahle futhi zikhule zibe ngabantu abadala abanembeza umgomo omkhulu. Kusho ukuthini, kodwa, ukuba "ukusekela?" Nazi ezinye izimfanelo zokusekela, abazali abahle.
Bakhuthaza Izingane Zabo Ukuziveza
Abazali abahle bayavumela izingane ukuba zibe yibo ngempela, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lokho kubonisa kanjani abazali. Le nkululeko yokuzibonakalisa ibangele ekuthuthukiseni okuphakeme nokuthuthukiswa komuntu. Ukuzikhulumela kubalulekile ikakhulukazi phakathi neminyaka ephakathi lapho umntwana efuna ukuthi ungubani ngempela . Uma i-kati ingavunyelwe ukuhlola okuningi okungenzeka, kungenzeka ukuthi yenze indlela abazali bayo noma abanye abantu abathintekayo abayifunayo, okungase kubangele izinkinga zobunikazi kamuva.
Abazali Abahle Bazenza Batholakale
Emhlabeni wethu omatasa, akekho ongatholakala ezinganeni zabo 24-7, nganoma iyiphi indlela. Esikhundleni salokho, abazali abahle bazinika isikhathi nsuku zonke ukugxila kuphela ezinganeni zabo, ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka kusuka kuthelevishini, kumakhompyutha noma kumafoni. Isikhathi sekhwalithi esizinikezele sivula imigqa yokuxhumana, okubaluleke kakhulu njengoba ama-13 abhekana nezinkinga ezinzima ezinjengokuxhashazwa, ukukhathazeka , nokushintsha kwemizwa .
Balalela Ngentshiseko
Abazali abahle bahlanganyela ekulaleleni okukhuthele, lapho bebuyisela khona futhi babuyela emuva lokho ingane yabo abakushoyo nokuzizwa. Ukwenza kanjalo kwenza ingane izwe ngokuzwakalayo. Abazali asekelayo bakhuthaza izingane zabo ukuba zikhulume imizwelo yazo ngokubuza imibuzo efana, "Lokhu kwenzeka kanjani ukuba uzizwe?" Okokugcina, abazali abahle bayakugwema ukunikeza iseluleko ngaphandle uma bebuzwa ngokuqondile futhi bayeke ukuxubha ama-anecdotes abo siqu engxoxweni.
Ukulalela kusho ukulalela, hhayi ukukhuluma.
Bakhombisa Ukufudumala
Isiqalo sesitayela esihle sokubeletha, esibizwa ngokuthi umzali ogunyazayo, kuhilela ukubonisa ukufudumala. Ukufudumala kuboniswa ngombono omuhle obusweni, izenzo zesineke, nenkulumo enothando. Ukufudumala akusho ukuvumelana nakho konke okwenziwa ngumntanakho noma okushoyo. Esikhundleni salokho, kusho ukuhlala ubonisa uthando ngokomzwelo kumntwana njengomuntu ngisho nalapho eyala ngezenzo ezingalungile.
Abazali Abahle Beka Imingcele Ecacile
Yize kungase kube nzima ukuba umngane nengane yakho kuqala, abazali abahle bayahlonipha ukuthi kukhona ubuholi bomntwana nengane. Izingane ziyakhula uma kukhona isakhiwo empilweni yazo, futhi imithetho iyakusiza ukudala leso sakhiwo. Ngakho-ke, abazali asekelayo babeka imithetho ecacile nemiphumela futhi balandela ngokuyala uma imingcele iwela. Ukwenza kanjalo kusiza izingane zifunde imithwalo yemfanelo . Phakathi neminyaka ephakathi , abazali abahle bavame ukuvumela izingane zibe yingxenye yenqubo yokwenza izinqumo mayelana nokuthi yiziphi imithetho ezifanele kanye nezijeziso.
Umthombo:
Chaplin, Lan Nguyen noJohn, uDeborah Roedder. Imithonya Yomuntu Okuthandwa Ngokwemvelo Ngokwemvelo: Ukubuka Okubalulekile Indima Yabazali Nontanga. Umagazini Wokuziphatha Komthengi. 2010. 20: 176-184.