Kube khona izindaba eziningana ezindabeni zamuva mayelana nabazali ababiza amaphoyisa emantwaneni abo abancane. Abazali abafuni ukuthi izingane zabo ziboshwe, kodwa. Esikhundleni salokho, bamane nje bafuna amaphoyisa aveze futhi asabe ingane yabo ekuziphatheni.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ugula futhi ukhathele ukuziphatha kwakho okungahloniphi ingane yakho eneminyaka engu-8, noma ufuna ukuqinisekisa ingane yakho eneminyaka engu-12 ubudala ukuthi kufanele ayeke ukukhetha udadewabo, cabanga kabili ngaphambi kokusebenzisa amaphoyisa njengendlela yokwesabisa.
Nazi izizathu eziyisikhombisa zokuthi kungani ukubiza amaphoyisa kumntanakho akuyona into enhle:
1. Kubonisa ingane yakho ukuthi awukwazi ukuphatha ukuziphatha kwayo. Ukubiza amaphoyisa kuqinisa ingane yakho ukuthi awunazo izindlela eziphumelelayo zokumyala ekhaya. Kubonisa ukuthi udinga amaphoyisa ukuthi asebenze njengomhlane wakho. Ingane yakho ingase ilahlekelwe ukuqiniseka ukuthi uyakwazi ukuyigcina iphephile uma ecabanga ukuthi kufanele usebenzise ukubiza amaphoyisa ukuba aphathe ukuziphatha kwakhe.
2. Ingane yakho ingeke ifunde isifundo osihlosile. Uma ufonela amaphoyisa ngesenzo esingesibi kakhulu, amaphoyisa ngeke enze lutho olungaphezu kokukhuluma nengane yakho. Bangase bamnike isixwayiso noma bamtshele ukuthi "baziphathe." Kodwa, ekugcineni, ukungenelela kwabo kungase kubuyele emuva.
Ingane ingaphetha ngokuthi, "Yebo, ukuba namaphoyisa akubizele akuyona into enkulu. Ukulalela inkulumo akuyona into enkulu yezingane eziningi. Ukulahlekelwa amalungelo amahora angu-24 cishe kuzosebenza kangcono kunokuba ukudubula okufushane kulesi sikhulu samaphoyisa.
3. Ukwesaba amaqhinga ngokuvamile akudala ukuguquka okuhlala njalo. Amaqhinga okwethusa avame ukuphumelela esikhathini esifushane kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, alahlekelwa yimpumelelo. Ingane ingashintsha ukuziphatha kwayo izinsuku - noma ngisho namasonto - emva kokungenela kwamaphoyisa. Kodwa, njengoba ukwesaba kuncipha, amaphethini wokuziphatha omdala kungenzeka abuyele.
4. Ihlanganisa amaphoyisa ngokungadingekile. Indima yesikhulu samaphoyisa ukugcina umphakathi uvikelekile. Ukubizela amaphoyisa ekhaya lakho ukugxeka ingane yakho kuvimbela ukuba benze imisebenzi yabo. Uneminye imisebenzi eminingi ebalulekile - njengokuvimbela ubugebengu nokuphendula eziphuthumayo - okungaba yindaba yokuphila noma yokufa kwabantu emphakathini.
5. Umphumela ungase uphume ezandleni zakho. Kuye ngenkathi yengane yakho nobukhulu benkinga, kungenzeka ukuthi awukwazi ukulawula ukuthi amaphoyisa asabela kanjani kwisicelo sakho. Ngisho noma uthi awufuni ukuthi ingane yakho ibekwe icala ngobugebengu, kungenzeka ukuthi awunayo ikhetho.
Kuye ngemithetho esesimweni sakho, izindleko zingacindezelwa ngemuva kokwenza ucingo. Khona-ke, uhlelo lwenkantolo luzolawula ukuthi kwenzekani kumntanakho, hhayi wena. Nakuba kungase kube nezikhathi ezigunyaza ukushaya ucingo kumntanakho, qaphela imiphumela engase ibe khona.
6. Ukubiza amaphoyisa kuzothinta ubuhlobo bakho. Ukuxhumana namaphoyisa kumntanakho ngokuziphatha okungalungile cishe kuthatha umonakalo ebuhlotsheni bakho nengane yakho. Umntanakho angase abe nomuzwa ojulile wokukhashelwa futhi angeke akuthembe esikhathini esizayo. Ngeshwa, ubuhlobo obonakalisiwe nengane yakho bungabangela izinkinga zokuziphatha ezikhulayo.
7. Amaphoyisa awahlinzeki ngemithi. Uma izinkinga zokuziphatha kwengane yakho zikhulu ngokwanele ukuthi ucabangela ukubiza amaphoyisa, funa usizo lochwepheshe . Ingane yakho ingaba nesifo sokuziphatha noma ingadinga indlela ehlukile yokuqondisa. Ngaphambi kokubiza amaphoyisa, khuluma nodokotela wezingane wengane yakho bese ucela ukuthunyelwa kudokotela. Kubalulekile ukulawula izinkinga ezifana ne- ADHD noma i- ODD , okungase isabele kahle ekwelapheni, kunokungenelela kwamaphoyisa.