I-barbershop eGeorgia yenza izinhloko zezwe lapho beqala ukunikeza izinwele zokukhwabanisa mahhala ukuze kuhlazeke izingane ezingalungile. Abanye bathi "yi-haircut", kanti abanye babibiza ngokuthi "i-Benjamin Button Special." Ukukhanda izinwele, okuhloswe ukuba "ufundise izingane isifundo," kuhilela ukushefa izihloko zamakhanda abo ukuze babheke sengathi baling amadoda.
Ngokusobala, ukuthumela ingane esikoleni esiphansi kufana noGeorge Jefferson uthumela umlayezo ocacile.
Kodwa, ukuhlazisa ingane yakho ngenhloso kungase kubuyele emuva. Uma ucabanga ukubhekana nokuziphatha okubi ngezinwele eziphoxekayo, nansi izizathu eziyisikhombisa zokuthi kungani ungafuna ukucabanga kabusha ngale ndlela:
Ukuthotshiswa komphakathi kungaholela kwezinye izinkinga. Ukuthumela ingane yakho esikoleni ngezinwele ezingenangqondo kungase kumeme ukuhlekwa usulu kunontanga. Ukuxhashazwa kuyinkinga enkulu kubantu abasha kulezi zinsuku futhi ukuzama ukuphoqa ingane yakho ngenhloso kungase kubangele ukuba athathe abanye abafundi. Ngeshwa, izingane eziningi zakha izinkinga zengqondo, izinkinga zenhlalo, nezinkinga zemfundo ngenxa yokuhlukunyezwa.
2. Izingane ezizizwa zimbi ngokwabo zivame ukungena enkingeni. Ukucwaninga kubonisa ukuthi izingane ezivezwe isiyalo esisekelwe enhlazweni zingase zizame izidakamizwa nophuzo oludakayo futhi kungenzeka ukuthi zibe nezinkinga zomthetho ngesikhathi sobusha. Futhi bancane amathuba okusebenzisa ubulili obuphephile.
Kubalulekile ukusebenzisa amasu okuziphatha okugcina ukuzethemba okunempilo ukuvimbela izinkinga zokuziphatha esikhathini esizayo.
Thumela umyalezo othi, "Ukuziphatha kwakho kubi," kunokuthi, "Ubi." Ingane eyazizwa kahle ngaye ingase ishukunyiswe ukulandela imithetho. Uzophinde abe nokuzethemba okukhulu ekwenzeni kwakhe ukuvimbela ukucindezela kontanga futhi uzofuna ukwenza izinqumo eziphilile.
3. Abantwabisayo banciphisa ukuzwelana kwabo kwabanye. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi izingane ezihlazekile ngabanakekelwayo zivame ukusola abanye ngezinkinga zabo futhi zinesihawu esincane kulabo abaseduze nabo. Baye bavame ukuzwa ubutha nentukuthelo eyengeziwe futhi kungenzeka ukuthi baziphathe kabi . Izingane ezihlazekile nokuhleka usulu ngabazali bazo zingaphatha ezinye izingane ngendlela efanayo.
4. Ukuhlazeka kuthinta impilo yengqondo. Izingane ezihlazekile zisengozini yokuthuthukisa izinkinga zengqondo. Ucwaningo luye lwaxhumanisa isiyalo esisekelwe enhlanzeni esinezinkinga eziphansi zokuzethemba, ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka. Futhi banamathuba amaningi okuthuthukisa izidakamizwa zokugula izifo, ukucindezeleka kokucindezeleka okuthunyelwe ngemuva kwe-posttraumatic (PTSD), kanye nemibono yokuzibulala.
5. Ukuhlazeka akufundisi ukuziphatha. Ukunika ingane yakho inwele yezinwele ezingenangqondo ngeke imfundise ngokulungile noma okungalungile. Eqinisweni, izingane ezizizwa zihlazo zivame ukusola abanye ngokuziphatha kwabo, kunokuba zithwale imithwalo yemfanelo noma zifunde ukuthuthukisa ukuziphatha okuhle.
Ngokungafani namahloni, icala lingafundisa izingane ukuziphatha. Ukuveza ukudumazeka ekuziphatheni kwengane kungaholela enecala - okungaba impendulo enempilo yokulimaza abanye noma ukuphula imithetho. Esikhundleni sokuphoqa ingane ngenhloso, yenza kucace ukuthi awuvumelani futhi unikeze umphumela onengqondo .
6. Ukudumala ingane yakho kuyolimaza ubuhlobo bakho. Izingane zithandwa kakhulu ukulalela abantu abadala ababaphatha ngenhlonipho. Uma uhlazisa esidlangalaleni ingane, amathuba okufuna ukukhuluma nawe ngezinkinga noma izinkinga eziqhubekayo empilweni yakhe ziyancipha kakhulu. Uzolahlekelwa ukwethenjwa nokwethenjelwa futhi ungase ususe ingane yakho ngokungahambisani.
7. Kunezindlela eziphumelelayo zokujeziswa ezingahlanganisi namahloni. Izingane ngokuqinisekile zidinga isiyalo ukuze zizisize zifunde emaphutheni abo. Kunezinqubo eziningi zokuziphatha eziphumelela kakhulu kunamahloni omphakathi. Izinhlelo zezomnotho zesikhumbuzo , izinhlelo zokuvuza , kanye nokuthatha amalungelo angaphumelela kakhulu uma zisetshenziselwa njalo.
Lezi zindlela zibonise ukusebenza kahle ezinganeni ezinezinkinga eziningi zokuziphatha.
Uma ulahlekelwa indlela yokubhekana nezinkinga zokuziphatha, funa usizo lochwepheshe . Ngezinye izikhathi, ukuphazamiseka kokuziphatha okufana ne- ADHD noma i- ODD kungabangela ekuziphatheni kabi kanye nokwelapha kunganciphisa kakhulu izimpawu. Ngezinye izikhathi, abantwana abanamakhono ayisisekelo, njengokuxazulula izinkinga noma ukulawula ukucindezela . Ingcweti yezempilo yengqondo ingasebenza nawe ukufundisa ingane yakho ukuthi ilawule kanjani ukuziphatha kwayo. ukuziphatha.
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