Imiphumela emibi efundisa izifundo zokuphila.
Ukunquma ngesiphumo sokuziphatha kabi kwengane yakho kungaba nzima ngezinye izikhathi. Ingabe kufanele uthathe i-electronics noma umtshele ukuthi akakwazi ukuya endlini yomngane wakhe?
Noma kuthiwani uma ephula okuthile ngentukuthelo? Kufanele umfundise kanjani ukuba enze izinqumo ezingcono ngesikhathi esizayo esithukuthele?
Ngenhlanhla, imiphumela emihle ithatha omunye umsebenzi wokuqagela. Uma usebenzisa imiphumela enengqondo ungakwazi ukubhekana nokuphulwa komthetho ngamunye ngendlela eqondile futhi ewusizo.
Ziyini Imiphumela Yengqondo?
Imiphumela emihle ingumphumela hhayi isijeziso . Kodwa, bachazwe njengendlela evumela "isijeziso ukuba silingane nobugebengu."
Imiphumela eqondakalayo ihlobene ngokuqondile nokuziphatha okungalungile. Ngokungafani nemiphumela yemvelo , imiphumela efanelekayo kufanele idalwe futhi iphoqelelwe nguwe. Kodwa, kunokuba abantwana behlazo bazizwe bebi noma bezama ukuphoqa ukuba bangenise, imiphumela emihle ifundisa izingane ukuthi zenze kanjani izinqumo ezingcono esikhathini esizayo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiliphi uhlobo lwesitayela sokubeletha noma indlela yokuziphatha oyisebenzisayo, imiphumela enengqondo ingasebenza njengenye yezindlela zakho ezinhle zokuqeqesha. Futhi izindaba ezinhle kakhulu, zisebenza kahle kubantwana bazo zonke ubudala futhi ziphumelela ngokuhlukumezeka kwezimo ezihlukahlukene.
Izibonelo Zezenzo Ezihlelekile
Nazi ezinye izibonelo zemiphumela enengqondo eyenza izingane ithuba lokuzibophezela ngokuziphatha kwazo:
- Umntwana oneminyaka engu-8 ubudala ugibela ibhayisikili lakhe ngaphandle komgwaqo ukuze alahlekelwe amalungelo akhe ebhayisikili amahora angu-24.
- Umfana oneminyaka engu-10 uphonsa ibhola endlini futhi uphula isibani. Kufanele enze imisebenzi yasekhaya ukuze athole imali eyanele yokukhokha isibani esisha.
- Owesine oneminyaka engu-4 wenqaba ukuthatha izidoli zakhe. Ulahlekelwa amalungelo akhe okudlala namadonki usuku lonke.
- Umntwana oneminyaka engu-6 ubala isithombe esithebula sekhofi. Ugcina umbala etafuleni esikhundleni sephepha lakhe. Ulahlekelwa amakhrayoni usuku lonke futhi kufanele asize abazali bakhe bageze futhi bahlanze ithebula.
- Uneminyaka engu-9 ubudala ulahlekelwa ibhasi ngenhloso . Umama wakhe umyisa esikoleni kodwa kufanele enze imisebenzi yasekhaya ukuze athole imali yegesi yokukhokhela ukuhamba esikoleni futhi kufanele ahlale ngemuva kwesikole ukuze enze isikhathi esasilahlekile ekuseni.
- Uneminyaka engu-7 ubudala wenqaba ukudla isidlo sakusihlwa. Ngenxa yalokho, akavunyelwe ukuba ne-dessert noma isidla ngaphambi kokulala.
- Uneminyaka engu-11 ubudala akenzanga imisebenzi yakhe okwamanje. Akavunyelwe ukudlala nge-electronics noma abe nelinye lamalungelo akhe aze asebenze imisebenzi yakhe.
Indlela Yokwenza Imiphumela Yengqondo Ephumelelayo
Imiphumela emihle kakhulu iyasebenza kakhulu uma izingane ziyazi imiphumela ngaphambi kwesikhathi. Uma kunokwenzeka, unikeze isixwayiso njengokuthi, "Uma ungafaki ibhayisikili yakho manje, ngeke ukwazi ukuwugibela kusasa."
Lokhu kusiza ukuvimbela umzabalazo wamandla lapho umntwana ethi akungalungi ngoba wayengazi imithetho. Ngokuxwayisa ingane kusengaphambili, unenketho yokukhetha ngokuziphatha kwakhe.
Uma umphumela onengqondo uhilela ukuthatha ilungelo , qalisa isikhathi.
Ngokuvamile, ukuthatha ilungelo ngaphandle kwamahora angu-24 kuningi. Ukususa ilungelo lesikhathi eside kungase kulahlekelwe ukusebenza.
Ungase futhi unqume ukuthatha ilungelo kuze ingane yakho ithole. Isibonelo, thatha i-electronics yengane yakho uze ihlanze igaraji. Khona-ke, ushiye kuye ukuba anqume ukuthi ufuna nini umsebenzi wakhe. Ungamgodli, ukumemeza, noma ukumcindezela ukuba akwenze.
Imiphumela iphumelela kakhulu uma isheshayo. Uma ingane ingalungile namuhla futhi ingasitholi imiphumela kuze kube kusasa, ngeke neze ihlobanise nomphumela wokuziphatha okungalungile.
Qiniseka lapho unikeza imiphumela enengqondo, kodwa hlala uphile.
Uma ukhala noma wenza izinsongo, ingane yakho izokubuka njengesijeziso. Ngenxa yalokho, ingane yakho ingase igxile kakhulu ekuziphatheni kwakhe okuthukuthele, kunokuba izinyathelo angathatha ukuze ushintshe ukuziphatha kwakhe kuya phambili.
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