Fundisa Ingane Yakho Ukufunda Emaphutheni
Zonke izingane ziphula imithetho nemingcele yokuhlola ngezinye izikhathi. Uma abantu abadala bephendula ngendlela ewusizo izingane zifunda ukwenza izinqumo ezingcono esikhathini esizayo.
Kodwa akuzona zonke izindlela zokungenelela kwabantu abadala ezidalwa ezilinganayo. Kukhona umehluko omkhulu phakathi kokunikeza imiphumela yezingane kanye nezijeziso.
Ziyini Izijeziso?
Izijeziso zenza izingane zihlupheke ngenxa yamaphutha abo. Ngokujwayelekile bahloselwe ukwenza izingane zizizwe kabi.
Izijeziso kaningi azihambisani nenkinga yokuziphatha futhi zingase zibe nzima kakhulu emvelweni. Ngezinye izikhathi, zenzelwe ukuhlazeka noma ukuhlazisa izingane. Nazi ezinye zezibonelo zokujeziswa:
- Uneminyaka engu-5 ubudala akasithathi amathoyizi akhe lapho etshela. Abazali bakhe bamshaya.
- Izinkulumo ezineminyaka engu-7 ubudala zibuyela kunina. Uhlanza umlomo wakhe ngensipho.
- Izingane ezineminyaka engu-9 ubudala ezingalungile esikoleni. Abazali bakhe bamnikeza izinwele ezihlazo ukuze "amfundise isifundo."
- Umfana oneminyaka engu-12 akahlanza ikamelo lakhe lokulala. Abazali bakhe bathatha izithombe bese beyithumela kuma-social media ukuze bamenze amahloni.
- Uneminyaka engu-14 ubudala ushiya iglavu lakhe le-baseball emgwaqweni. Ubaba wakhe uhamba ngemoto ngenqola.
- Owesilisa oneminyaka engu-16 ubanjwe amanga ngesikhathi sakhe sokukhuluma nabantu abadala ase-intanethi. Umama wakhe umphoqa ukuba akhe ividiyo ebika lokho akwenzile. Umama wakhe uthumele ividiyo kuyi-intanethi.
Izijeziso zivame ukubangela izingane zizizwe kabi ngokuthi zingobani-ngokuphambene nalokho abakwenzayo.
Izingane ezithola izinto ezizimele ziba amathuba okungazenzeki esikhathini esizayo.
Izijeziso zingase zingabi nzuzo ngoba zibangela izingane ukuba zigxile ekuthukutheleni kwabo kubazali bazo, kunokucabanga ngalokho abangakwenza esikhathini esizayo kangcono. Isibonelo, ingane ingase icabange, "Umama usho," esikhundleni salokho, "Ngenze iphutha."
Ziyini Imiphumela?
Imiphumela igxila ekufundiseni izingane ukuthi zenzeni kangcono esikhathini esizayo. Imiphumela enempilo kusiza izingane ziqhubeke zizizwa zizithanda zona ngenkathi zibaqinisekisa ukuthi zingakwenza esikhathini esizayo kangcono.
Imiphumela emihle
Imiphumela emihle yenziwa ngabantu abadala futhi ihlobene ngokuqondile nokuziphatha okungalungile. Nazi ezinye izibonelo zemiphumela enengqondo:
- Uneminyaka engu-5 ubudala akasithathi amathoyizi akhe lapho etshela. Abazali bakhe bathatha amathoyizi akhe kude naye usuku lonke.
- Izinkulumo ezineminyaka engu-7 ubudala zibuyela kunina. Ubeka umsebenzi owengeziwe ukuze aqedele.
- Izingane ezineminyaka engu-9 ubudala ezingalungile esikoleni. Abazali bakhe bathatha i-electronics bayo kusihlwa.
- Umfana oneminyaka engu-12 akahlanza ikamelo lakhe lokulala. Akavunyelwe ukusebenzisa i-electronics kuze kube yilapho igumbi lakhe lihlanzekile.
- Umfana oneminyaka engu-14 ubudala ushiya iglavu lakhe le-baseball emgwaqeni. Abazali bakhe bathatha igilavu yakhe amahora angu-24.
- Owesilisa oneminyaka engu-16 ubanjwe amanga ngesikhathi sakhe sokukhuluma nabantu abadala ase-intanethi. Umama wakhe uthatha i-electronics kuleli sonto futhi uqala izinqubomgomo ezintsha ezibandakanya ukuqapha okuqhubekayo kwama-akhawunti akhe wezokuxhumana.
Imiphumela Yemvelo
Imiphumela yemvelo yimiphumela ephumela ekuziphatheni kwengane.
Abantu abadala bangavumela izingane ukuba zibhekane nemiphumela yemvelo yezinqumo zabo uma kuphephile ukwenza kanjalo nalapho ingane ingase ifunde isifundo sokuphila esibalulekile.
Nazi ezinye izibonelo zemiphumela yemvelo:
- Uneminyaka engu-9 ubudala wenqabe ukudlala ukuze adle ukudla kwasemini. Umphumela wemvelo wukuthi uzolamba uma engadli.
- Umfana oneminyaka engu-12 akafuni ukugqoka ijazi. Unina umvumela ukuba adlale ngaphandle ngaphandle kwejazi ngoba umphumela wemvelo wukuthi uzoba ubanda.
- Umfana oneminyaka engu-15 ubudala ushiya i-baseball mitt yakhe emgwaqeni futhi imvula ngaphandle. Umphumela wemvelo wukuthi i-mitt yakhe izothola amanzi futhi uma ichitheka, kuzodingeka ithenge enye.
Izijeziso ngokumelene nemiphumela
Izijeziso zingasebenza esikhathini esifushane. Izingane zingase zithobele uma ziyesaba noma zifuna ukuthi unqande ukulimaza noma ukuhlazeka.
Kodwa esikhathini eside, izijeziso zibuyela emuva . Balahlekelwa yimpumelelo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ngoba izingane azifundile amakhono adinga ukwenza izinqumo ezingcono.
Imiphumela yasiza izingane zibone ukuthi zenze ukukhetha okubi kodwa zikwazi ukwenza kangcono esikhathini esizayo. Futhi ekugcineni, imiphumela iyasebenza kakhulu ekuthuthukiseni izinkinga zokuziphatha ezinganeni.
Imithombo
> Afifi T, Mota N, Dasiewicz P, MacMillan H, J. Sareen Ukujeziswa Kwamazimo kanye Nokuphazamiseka Kwengqondo: Imiphumela Evela Kummeleli Wezwe US Sample. Izingane zokwelapha . Juni 2012.
> Webster-Stratton C. I-Incredible Years: abazali, othisha, kanye nochungechunge lwezingane: ukuqukethwe kohlelo, izindlela, ucwaningo nokusabalalisa 1980-2011 . Seattle, WA: Iminyaka Engavamile; 2011.