Yiziphi Izingane Eziphathekayo Ezikushoyo Ngomzali Wakho
Ukunika ingane izinto ezinhle kakhulu ekuphileni, akusho ukuthi kubangele izinto ezibonakalayo. Abantwana bezinto ezibonakalayo abanomusa kakhulu futhi abanokuziphendulela ngokwezezimali kunontanga yabo. Kungase kube nezindlela ongayinika ingane yakho yonke into kodwa ukhulise ingane encane enengqondo, egcwele kahle. Kunezindlela ongagwema ngazo ukuba nezingane ezibonakalayo, ngokusho kocwaningo lwamuva.
Izingane Ezibonakalayo Zinezidingo Eziphansi Zabazali Abasekelayo
Ekucwaningweni kwabangu-13 kanye nentsha, abazali ababengabasekeli ngokomzwelo babe nezingane ezingaphezu kwezinto ezibonakalayo kunezingane ezisekelayo. Ngokusekelwa, sikhuluma ikhono lomzali ukukhuluma, ukukhuthaza, nokuba khona kwengane yabo ngezikhathi ezinhle nezimbi. Ukuzethemba kuyisihluthulelo ekuqondeni lokhu okutholayo. Ukukhulisa abazali kwandisa ukuzethemba kwabafana. Ukuzihlonipha kwengane ephakeme, cishe kungenzeka ukuthi babheke izinto ukuze balethe injabulo kanye nomqondo wokubaluleka; bazuza ukuzibaluleka kwabo ebuhlotsheni, kunalokho. Ungabafundisa ukubaluleka kobudlelwane ngokuzikhokhela ngesikhathi sakho, amandla akho kanye nezithakazelo zakho. Lokhu kuzobasiza babone ukubaluleka kwabo njengomngane omuhle kanye nengane yakho. Futhi noma ngabe uthenge izinto ezithile endleleni, ukugcina ubudlelwane kuyoholela ekuzihloneni okuphakeme okuholela ekunciphiseni izinto ezibonakalayo.
Izingane Ezibonakalayo Ziba Nabangane Abangaphansi Abasekelayo
Ngokufanayo nokuthola okuphathelene nabazali, ukusekelwa kontanga kubalulekile nokulwa nokuthanda izinto ezibonakalayo. Esicwaningweni, izingane ezinabangane abesekelayo zazizihlonipha kakhulu futhi, futhi, izinkolelo ezimbalwa zokuthanda izinto ezibonakalayo. "Abangane abesekelayo" yibo abaqondayo, abasiza ngezikhathi zesidingo futhi abangazange bathukuthele noma bathukuthele ngaphandle kwesizathu.
Abangani abesekelayo nabo bagwema ukuhlukunyezwa okuhlobene nokuhlukunyezwa okucashile. Ukugqugquzela ingane yakho ukuthola nokulondoloza lezi zinhlobo zobungane kungasiza ingane yakho ukuba ingacabangi ngokwezinto ezibonakalayo.
Izingane Ezibonakala Ngokwezinto Ezibonakalayo Zivame Ukuba Nabazali Bezinto Ezibonakalayo
Ukuziphatha kwakho kubuye kuthinte ukuthi izimpahla nemali zibiza kanjani ingane yakho. Izingane zifunda ngokubukela, ngakho uma zikubona ubiza imali njengomthombo wenjabulo, kungenzeka ukuthi benze okufanayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abacwaningi bathola ukuthi ukuthanda izinto ezibonakalayo njengomzali kwakuwukuthi, ukwehlisa ukuzethemba kwengane yabo. Njengoba ukuzithoba okuphansi kuhlobene nokuthanda izinto ezibonakalayo eziphakeme, kulandela ukuthi abazali abathanda izinto ezibonakalayo babe nezingane ezibonakalayo.
Izingane Zempahla Ebonakalayo Futhi Zinezihlobo Zokuthanda Izinto Ezibonakalayo
Ngokufanayo, izimo zengqondo nezimo zontanga zithinta izinkolelo ezibonakalayo. Abacwaningi bathola ukuthi intsha enabangane bezinto ezibonakalayo yayinokuzethemba okungezansi futhi, futhi, yilabo abafuna ukuthanda izinto ezibonakalayo. Ukugqugquzela ingane yakho ukuthola abangane abeseka abangabeki imali ephezulu ngemali nezinto, ngakho-ke, bangasiza phakathi kwakho ukugwema ukudliwa.
Umthombo:
Chaplin, Lan Nguyen noJohn, uDeborah Roedder. Imithonya yokusebenzisana nentsha yokuthanda izinto ezibonakalayo: Ukubuka okusha indima yabazali neontanga. Umagazini Wokuziphatha Komthengi. 2010. 20: 176-184.