Indlela yokugcina amantombazane angene ekuhlukumezweni ngokomzwelo
Ukuxhashazwa kwamantombazana ngokuvamile kuvame ukungena emzimbeni, amazwi kanye nezitatimende esikhundleni sokunyakaza kanye nama-shoves. Kokubili okucashile futhi okukhohlisayo. Eqinisweni, uma kuziwa kubahlukumezi besifazane, ngeke ubone izenzo eziningi ezinonya kakhulu. Esikhundleni salokho, iningi lamantombazane asebenzisa amaqhinga ahlobene nobudlova afana nokungabandakanyeli amanye amantombazane , ukusakaza amahemuhemu, ukubiza amagama nokuphindaphinda - izinto kanye nabazali kanye nothisha ngokuvamile abaphuthelwa.
Enye yezindlela ezingcono zokuvimbela ukuhlukumeza ngokobudlelwane ukufundisa amantombazane ukuthi abe nomusa kanjani, acabange futhi anakekele. Nazi izindlela eziyishumi zokugcina amantombazane angabi abahlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo.
Hlola ngokucophelela ukuziphatha kwakho. Izingane zifunda indlela yokuxhumana phakathi kwabazali babo. Uma uhleba ngabanye abazali, ungafaki ngenhloso izihlobo ezivela emibuthanweni yomphakathi futhi ubusa abanye kumakomiti, ngakho akumelwe umangale lapho indodakazi yakho yenza into efanayo. Ngisho nokusetshenziswa kwakho kwezokuxhumana komphakathi kungathonya indodakazi yakho. Kunalokho, mbonise ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba nomusa nothando. Myeke akubone ube nomusa ku-cashier yokudla, usize umakhelwane osekhulile noma uthathe ukudla kumngane ogulayo.
Thuthukisa ukuhlakanipha kwakhe ngokomzwelo. Ngezinye izikhathi kunzima ukuba abantu abangu-13 kanye nentsha babone ukuthi ukuziphatha kwabo kuthinta kanjani abazungezile. Enye indlela yokuyeka ukuhlukumeza ngokobudlelwano ukugcizelela ukuthi lezi zenzo zenza ukuthi omunye umuntu abe nobuhlungu obukhulu.
Siza indodakazi yakho ukuba ibe nesihawu ngalokho izisulu zokuhlukunyezwa kungenzeka.
Yenza ukuzethemba okunempilo. Amanye amantombazane ahlukumeza abanye ngoba abhekana nokuzethemba . Kodwa uma ukhuthaza ukuzethemba okunempilo, indodakazi yakho ngeke iqiniseke ngokwengeziwe, kodwa futhi ngeke izwe ingozi kwabanye.
Futhi uzokwazi ukugubha impumelelo yabo kunokuba anqotshwe umona .
Khuthaza ubungane obuhle. Enye indlela yokugcina indodakazi yakho ingabambi ukuhlukunyezwa ngokobudlelwane ukuqinisekisa ukuthi uyakha ubungane obuqinile nabanye. Khuluma naye ngalokho okusho ubungane obunempilo . Mfundise indlela yokubona abangane abanobuthi , abangane abaqamba amantombazane kanye namantombazane asho . Futhi cindezela ukuthi kubalulekile ukuthi abe yena. Umngane wangempela uzomthanda ukuthi ungubani futhi ngeke amcindezele ukuba ahluke. Uma ephoqelelwa ukuyivumelanisa, khona-ke kungenzeka ukuthi abe ingxenye ye-clique. I-Cliques yizindawo ezishisayo zokuhlukunyezwa ngokobudlelwane.
Gwema ukumxosha emaceleni. Ngezinye izikhathi abazali bawela esicupheni sokuzama ukuthola izingane zabo zihanjiswe nezingane "ezifanele". Bashaya indlela yabo eklasini "elungile", amaqembu "ezemidlalo" namathimba "angakwesokudla". Esikhundleni salokho, zama ukuthola indlela yokuzisebenzisa ngaphezulu kule ndawo. Vumela izingane zakho inkululeko ekukhetheni abangane nemisebenzi ebathandayo. Uma uqhubezela ubungane "obulungile", indodakazi yakho izothambekela ekukhathazeni kakhulu mayelana nokuthandwa futhi ingaphetha ukwenza cishe noma yini ukuba ibe "esixukwini" esixukwini.
Xoxa ngezingozi zokuhleba, ukubuyela emuva nokuhlelwa kwamahemuhemu. Amantombazane avame ukucabanga ngemiphumela emibi yezenzo zabo.
Ngenxa yalokho, bangase bahlanganyele ebudloveni obuhlobene ngaphandle kokucabanga nokuthi lokhu kuziphatha kungabathinta kanjani isikhathi eside. Khuluma nendodakazi yakho ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba umngane omuhle. Khuthaza ukuthi angaqedi izimfihlo zabangane bakhe (ngaphandle uma ukuphepha kungukuthi udaba lukhona). Ukucindezeleka ukuthi ugxila ekubeni yiqiniso futhi onomusa kuzo zonke izingxoxo zakhe futhi njalo ucabange ngaphambi kokuba akhulume. Ukusakaza amahemuhemu noma ukufaka inhlebo kubuhlungu abanye abantu. Qinisekisa ukuthi ucabanga kabili ngaphambi kokuchofoza ukuthumela umlayezo wombhalo, i-imeyili noma okuthunyelwe kwezokuxhumana. Uma kukhona okushiwo noma kwenziwa okulimazayo, kunzima kakhulu ukwenza lokho ngemuva kweqiniso.
Mtshengise ukuhlukahluka. Esinye sezizathu zamanye amantombazane abahlukunyezwayo ukuthi akukaze avulelwe izinhlobo ezahlukene zabantu. Ngenxa yalokho, baxhaphaza abantu ngenxa yokungafani kobuhlanga, inkolo namasiko abo. Zama ukuzithandela endaweni yokulala yabesifazane noma ikhishi lokupheka ukuze abone ukuthi abantu banezinto eziningi ezihlukahlukene ababhekana nazo. Ungase futhi ufune ukuya emicimbi ehlukene yamasiko futhi ubuke amadokhumenti ukuze wandise umbono wakhe wezwe.
Hlola i-Inthanethi yakhe nomsebenzi weselula. Njengoba intsha nezingane zikhula, zithola ukuzimela nokuzibophezela okwengeziwe. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele babe nokubusa mahhala uma kuziwa kwezobuchwepheshe. Kunalokho, gcina amathebhu ngalokho abantwana bakho abakwenzayo ku-intanethi. Ungase umangale ngalokho okutholayo. Kungumqondo omuhle ukuxoxa ngesimilo se-digital futhi uqiniseke ukuthi indodakazi yakho ilandela imihlahlandlela yakho yokuphepha inthanethi. Khuluma naye ngokubaluleka kokulondoloza idumela elihle le-intanethi futhi uqiniseke ukuthi akahlanganyeli ekuqhumeni kwe-cyberbullying.
Mfundise ukuthi angamelana kanjani nokuhlukunyezwa kunokuba abe ummeli. Ukuxhashazwa kuvame ukukwenzeka uma abantu abadala bengekho. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi i-tweens kanye nentsha bayakwazi ukuma nokusho okuthile uma bebona ukuhlukunyezwa . Zijwayeze ngemibono yokuthi ungabanika kanjani amandla abaphikisi futhi ufundise indodakazi yakho ukuthi ungayisingatha kanjani lezi zimo ezinzima. Amantombazane avame ukubhekana nokucindezela kontanga okukhulu ukujoyina amanye amantombazane. Qinisekisa ukuthi indodakazi yakho iyazi ukuthi ithatha kanjani esikhundleni.
Izinkinga zekheli kade. Yikholelwa noma cha, iningi lamantombazane lizohlanganyela ekuhlukumezeni ngokobudlelwane ngesikhatsi esithile phakathi kweminyaka noma iminyaka eyishumi. Leli qiniso alibafaki izingane ezimbi. Abazange bafunde ukubhekana nezinselele zomphakathi. Uma ubona okuthile okungalungile, khuluma ngaso leso sikhathi. Kodwa zama ukungamcasuli noma ukucasula ingane yakho. Nakuba kubalulekile ukuthi kube nemiphumela yokuhlukunyezwa , umgomo wangempela ukuthi ukuziphatha akukwenzeka futhi.