Izingane ezincane azisho ukungathembeki, kodwa ukuqamba amanga kungaba umkhuba omubi
Ukuhlala nezingane zasenkulisa, ngezinye izikhathi ungase uzizwe uthanda ukukhuluma iqiniso , uzama ukuthola ukuthi yiziphi izitatimende ezivela emlonyeni wengane yakho ezingokoqobo nokuthi yiziphi izinto zomcabango wazo.
"Angizange ngisichithe ubisi," kusho lo mfana oneminyaka engu-3 ubudala omile epulazini lezinto ezimhlophe enkomishi engenalutho esandleni sakhe. "Ingane yaphuka imoto yami." "Angizange ngithathe zonke lezi ziyizinywana, inja yakwenza." Amathekisthi amakhulu ayaqhubeka nokuqhubeka.
Kodwa iqiniso lale ndaba bonke abantwana balala ngezikhathi ezithile. Futhi nakuba ukuqamba amanga kuyinto engavamile yentuthuko yengane, akuyona into ongayinakwa. Njengomzali, kungumsebenzi wakho ukufundisa ukwethembeka. Ukuze ukwazi ukubhekana nalesi simo, udinga ukwazi a) ukuthi kungani u-Pinocchio wakho omncane elele futhi b) ukuthi ungamfundisa kanjani ukuba ahloniphe ukwethembeka .
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Izingane kule minyaka zingavela nabathile bezindaba - bangakhohlisi kodwa ngenxa yokuthi ingxenye enkulu, bafunda ukuthi yiyiphi into engokoqobo nokuthi yiyiphi iphutha. Ezimweni eziningi, ingane eneminyaka engu-3, 4, noma engu-5 isencane kakhulu ukuqonda kahle ukuthi amanga yini. Ama-akhawuntta abo ama-story stories abangela umcabango osebenza gear high, hhayi lutho oluyingozi.
Uma ingane yakho eneminyaka engu-4 ithi ayizange ibe nombala odongeni ngenkathi ibambe ikrayoni esandleni sayo, kusho ukuthi uthanda ukuthi akazange akwenze ngoba ngokusobala uthukuthele.
Njengoba engasho ukuguqula udonga lwakho lokulala ekamelweni lakhe, engqondweni yakhe akazange. Ukuze unqume ukugxilisa indwangu, gwema ukumbeka esimweni esingamenza abe nomuzwa wokuthi ufanele aqambe amanga. Esikhundleni sokubuza ngokuthukuthele, "Ingabe umbala odongeni lwami?" Uthi, "Sinomthetho kule ndlu ukuthi sinebala kuphela ephepheni.
Ake sithole amathawula namanzi futhi sihlanze lokhu ndawonye. "
Uma indaba ingane yakho epheka isendaweni engaphandle - "Kwakukhona indlovu esikoleni samaschool namuhla." - inselelo ngendlela elula. Buza uma lokho akutshelayo kungokoqobo noma kwenziwa. Uma evuma ukuthi uyabamba, ungene esenzweni bese umsiza ukuba aqonde - "Cabanga ukuthi indlovu ngempela yafika esikoleni sasenkulisa? Ungadla amantongomane we-snack? "Umlando omude uphenduka indaba engacabangi ongabelana ngayo nobabili futhi usiza ingane yakho yasenkulisa ukuthi ibonise ingqondo yakhe.
Inqubomgomo yokuthembeka
Uma ingane yakho ikhuluma amanga, sebenzisa ithuba lokukhuluma ukuthi kungani ukukhuluma kubalulekile. Ukumbiza ngokuthi ungumqambimanga noma ukukhala kungenza umntwana wakho aqambe amanga ukuze agweme ukusola. Ukukhuthaza ukukhuluma iqiniso, zama ukususa imiphumela. Yithi, "Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi wenzeni, ngithembisa ukuthi ngeke ngithukuthele uma nje usho iqiniso." Izingane eziningi ziqamba amanga ngoba ziyazi ukuthi zenze okuthile okungalungile futhi azifuni ukudumaza wena kanye / noma ujeziswe. Gxila kulokho ofuna ukuthi ingane yakho ifunde - ukwethembeka. Uma ingane yakho ikhuluma iqiniso ngento ethile eyenzile okungalungile qiniseka ukuthi uyomdumisa.
Uma ingane yakho iqala ukugxilisa izinto ezingaphezu kwezinto ezingakaze zenzeke - zisho isikhathi sokujoyina esekisini noma uhambo oluhle kakhulu umndeni wakho wathatha kuWalt Disney World - umhlangabeze, kodwa hhayi ngendlela evuthayo.
Ukucabanga okufisayo kuyinto evamile kwengane kulonyaka kodwa kuyadingeka ukuthi ilungiswe. Ilula nje, "Uhambo oluya esekisini luzwakala luhle. Ngiyazi ukuthi ufisa ukuthi kwenzeka ngempela. "
Zenza lokho Okushumayelayo
Esikhathini somkhuba wakho wansuku zonke, amathuba okutshela amanga amhlophe noma amabili. Futhi lokho kulungile, yingxenye enkulu. "Amanga e-Pro-social" - ukugwema iqiniso ukugwema imizwa yomuntu - kungokwemvelo futhi kuyamukeleka kakhulu. Kodwa ungalindeli ukuthi uthathe konke-okusemthethweni ukufundela. Uma utshela ingane yakho yasenkulisa, "Ungalokothi utshele amanga," kodwa umtshele ukuthi azokutshela umama ukuthi amakhukhi angenayo ayiphundu, uyomdida.
Beka isibonelo esihle ngokuthembeka wena.
Akukaze kusheshe kakhulu ukufundisa izingane zakho ukwethembeka. Khuluma ukuthi kungani kungalungile ukukhuluma amanga - ukuthi kukudabukisa lapho ethi izinto ezingelona iqiniso. Uma ingane yakho iqaphela ukuthi ukutshela iqiniso kuyinto oyigugu , yilokho abazozama ukukufinyelela.