I-psychologist yengane ibhekisela ekungabikho kokukhathazeka okusekelwe ekukhathazeni
Ingabe unenkinga yokuthola ingane yakho ukuya esikoleni? Ukulahlwa kwesikole kuyinkinga evamile ngokusho kukaChristopher Kearney, Ph.D., isazi sezokwelapha kwengane yomtholampilo kanye nomqondisi we-UNLV Child School Refusal and Anxiety Disorders Clinic. Funda ukuthi zingathinta kanjani ingane yakho nokuthi ungayiphatha kanjani.
Ukunqatshwa kweSikole vs. School Phobia
Ukwenqaba kweSikole yi-absenteeism esekelwe ukukhathazeka engabhekiseli kokwesaba okuthile.
Ukwesaba okususelwa ekwesabeni, ngezinye izikhathi okubizwa ngokuthi i- school phobia , kuhlukile futhi kusebenza kuphela kumancane amancane wezingane.
Kukhona umehluko phakathi kokulahla kwesikole nokuziphatha ukwenqaba esikoleni, okufaka izizathu eziningi ezingezansi kokukhathazeka . Kungabandakanya ukweqa isikole ukuxhumana nabangani.
Izimpawu zokulahlwa kwesikole
Ungabona iphethini yamakilasi akho alahlekile ingane noma uhlale ungakapheli isikhathi eside. Umntanakho angase akhononde ngesikole nasongweni esikoleni. Ingane yakho ingaba nezinhlobo ezingavamile, ezingathandeki zezikhalazo ezingokomzimba, njengezinhlungu zesisu, ikhanda, ubuhlungu besisu, nobuhlungu bamuva. Izingane eziningi zizoba nezimpawu ezivelele kakhulu ezifana nokuhuda noma ukuhlanza.
Lapho Ukunqatshwa Kwesikole Kubonakala
Ukwenqaba esikoleni kungenzeka nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Isikhathi esiphezulu sengozi lapho izingane zingena esikoleni esiphakathi, ezineminyaka engu-10 kuya ku-13.
Ingozi elandelayo ephakeme kunanoma yisiphi isikhathi lapho izingane zingena esakhiweni esisha esikoleni okokuqala, njengokufaka inkulisa, esikoleni esiphakathi noma esikoleni esiphakeme.
Kungenzeka futhi uma umndeni uhambela esifundeni esisha esikoleni.
Ukuthola Usizo
U-Kearney uthi kuyadingeka lapho ukuziphatha kuphazamisa ukusebenza komntwana nsuku zonke noma komndeni. "Ingabe ifike iphuzu, isibonelo, lapho amamaki wengane ehlupheka khona, lapho kunenkinga enkulu yomndeni, lapho abazali belahlekelwa khona umsebenzi omningi, lapho umndeni usenkingeni yomthetho, noma kukhona ukuphikisana okuningi kwenzekani? " Leli phuzu lingafinyelelwa ezinsukwini zezinsuku, noma ungakwazi ukubhekana nayo isikhathi eside.
Ungase ufune usizo kumqondisi wezengqondo noma ucele isikole sakho usizo ukuze uthole ukwelulekwa.
Ukusebenza Nesikole
Kubalulekile ukusebenza nesikole sakho ukuqinisekisa ukuthi izixazululo zakho zihambisana nezinqubomgomo zabo. Ngezinye izikhathi izikhulu zezikole zingakha uhlelo lwe-504. Uma ingane ingekho esikoleni okwesikhashana, isimiso sesikhathi sesikhathi singase sihlanganiswe, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi kuxoxiswane nomsebenzi wokwenza izimonyo. Izikhulu zezikole zingakwazi ukusiza ngecebo lokuqondisa okwengeziwe nokuhambisa ingane kusuka ekilasini elinye kuya kwelinye.
Izinselele Ezivamile
UCearney uthi ukukhululeka kakhulu kuyinkinga enkulu. "Okukhethwa kukho okuzenzakalelayo kufanele kube njalo ukuthumela ingane esikoleni nokugcina lokho kulindeleke." Uphawula ukuthi abazali banesizotha ngokuvumela ingane ukuba ihlale ekhaya, okuholela ezinkingeni eziqhubekayo. Izingane ziqiniswa njengoba zihlala ekhaya kusho ukukhathazeka okuncane kanye nokukwazi ukujabulela imisebenzi emnandi. "Bayenqaba esikoleni mhlawumbe hhayi ngenxa yazo zonke izinkinga zokukhathazeka kodwa ngenxa yazo zonke izinzuzo ezibonakalayo abazithola ekhaya."
Uma ingane ithi bayaya esikoleni kodwa bachithe usuku emtatsheni welabhulali esikhundleni sekilasi, uKearney uthola ukuthi isinyathelo esihle sokuqala. Esikoleni, bazokuthola yonke imininingwane ngokuya esikoleni.
"Ngezikhathi eziningi okwenzekayo ukuthi bazophinde baxhumane nabangani babo futhi uma kungenjalo, okungenani sithole endaweni lapho sithole khona esikoleni."
Izwi elivela ku-Verywell
Ukwenqatshelwa kwesikole kuvame kakhulu futhi kungaphazamisa imindeni. Uma ubhekene nale nkinga, funa usizo ukuze ingane yakho ibe nethuba elingcono lokuphumelela esikoleni.
> Umthombo:
> Kearney, uChristopher. Ingxoxo yomuntu siqu. Julayi, 2010.