Njengoba ingane yakho ikhula futhi ihlangabezana nezinyathelo ezihlukahlukene zokuthuthukiswa, kungasiza ukwazi ukuthi ezinye zeziphi izigaba zikhona, futhi ukuthi ziyini ngempela ekugcineni phakathi kwakho nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe kwentsha. Incazelo yokufeza ubunikazi akuyona umqondo onzima ukuyiqonda. Ivele ibhekisele ekutholeni umuzwa weqiniso womuntu siqu.
Kuyinto eyinhloko yokuthuthukiswa komuntu kanye nenqubo eqala ebuntwaneni, ikakhulukazi eminyakeni ephakathi nangeminyaka eyishumi, futhi iphela ekukhuleni.
Ngamasu kanye nezibonelo ezilandelayo, thola ukuqonda kangcono ukuphumelela kobunikazi nokuthi ungabasekela kanjani izingane zakho noma abantu abasha empilweni yakho njengoba bebeka endleleni yale nqubo yokuguqula.
Yiziphi izazi zezinqondo ezikushoyo mayelana nokuphumelela kwamagama
Izazi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi ukuphumelela kobunikazi kungenziwa kuphela emva kokuba umuntu ehlolisise izinhlobonhlobo zezinketho ezitholakalayo kuye. Ngamanye amazwi, umuntu kumele abe nenkinga yesazisi (noma ukuhlonza uzisi ) ukuze afinyelele ukufezwa kwezisi. Isibonelo, umuntu owazi ukuthi usebenza kanjani ngokuqondene nomsebenzi ngabe uqale wazama izindlela ezahlukene zomsebenzi nge-internship, ucwaningo lwe-intanethi, nokuxoxisana ngolwazi ngaphambi kokubona ukufaneleka okuhle.
Lapho abantu abasha benenkinga yokuzihlukanisa noma ukwaziswa okubonakalayo kwezinhlobo zabo, bazama izinto eziningana, njengezinkolo, izinkolelo zezombusazwe noma izindlela zokuphila, ngokusayizi. Bavele bahlole izindlela ezihlukahlukene zokuphila kanye namafilosofi ngaphandle kokwenza noma yisiphi isizathu noma indlela yokuphila. Ingaphakathi lakho lingangena kumculo we-rap ngelinye ilanga, futhi ngesonto elilandelayo kungenzeka ukuthi ulalele uhlanga noma i-classic rock.
Noma, ingane yakho ingazigqoka njenge-hippie izinyanga, bese uhamba ngokuzumayo u-preppy, noma i-grunge.
Izingane, izinyanga eziyishumi nambili, kanye nentsha konke akunakwenzeka ukuthi sekufinyelele isimo sokuphumelela kobunikazi. Kungenzeka ukuthi bangaqiniseki ngokuthi bangubani ( ukuhlukaniswa kobunikazi ), ukuba baqale ngaphambi kokuthola "ubunikazi" ( ukuchithwa kobunikazi ) noma ukuba bafune umzamo wokuzikhethela ( ubunikazi bokuziphatha ). Ababona lezi zimiso ngokulandelana, noma kunjalo.
Abantu abadala bangafinyelela esiteji sokufinyelela kobunikazi ngokukhetha umsebenzi othile, amanani kanye nemigomo yokuphila. Ukubona ukuphumelela kobunikazi kwenza umuntu abe nomuzwa wokuzikhethela futhi kumsize akhulume ubuthakathaka namandla futhi athathe izinyathelo ezindabeni.
Abanye abazali bangase baqonde umbono wokuthi izingane zabo zithuthukisa izindlela zokuphila ezibonakala ziphikisana nazo, kodwa kubalulekile ukuvumela izingane ukuba zithuthukise izimpawu zabo. Kwezinye izimo, izingane zingayinselela ngokuqondile izinkolelo zabazali bazo, izinkolo, nemisebenzi yabo, kuphela ukubuyela kubo njengabantu abadala. Ngisho noma ingane ekugcineni ikhetha ukuphila ngendlela ehluke ngokuphelele kubazali bayo, kubalulekile ukuba avunyelwe ukwenza kanjalo, uma nje indlela yakhe entsha yokuphila ingabungozi yena noma abanye.
Iziqalo
Ukuphumelela kwe-Identity ingenye yezimiso ezine zobunikazi ezivezwe ngumqondo wezokwelapha waseCanada uJames Marcia. Waqala ukushicilela umsebenzi mayelana nalezi zindawo zomthetho ema-1960s. Ezinye izazi zengqondo ziye zahlanza umsebenzi wakhe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. UMarcia usuphelile ngokuthi izingane ezisencane azididekile kodwa zihlangene nezinqubo ezimbili eziyinhloko njengoba zakha ubunikazi bazo: inhlekelele nokuzibophezela. Ukuphumelela kwe-Identity ukuzibophezela.
I-Theorist u-Erik Erikson naye wabhala kabanzi mayelana nezinkinga zobunikazi, futhi uMarcia wasebenzisa umsebenzi wakhe ukuze azenzele iziphetho zakhe mayelana nokuthi ungubani lapho esekhulile. Incwadi kaMarcia ethi "Ego Identity: A Handbook for Psychosocial Research" ihlanganisa umsebenzi wakhe ekufundiseni ulwazi.
Umthombo:
I-Santrock, uJohn, Ph.D. Izingane, i-Eleventh Edition. 2010. New York: McGraw-Hill.