Ngeshwa, ukucindezeleka kwezenhlalakahle kungahlala isikhathi eside, kuye ngokuthi ngubani oye wabhekana nesimo esibuhlungu. Lokhu kubonakala kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi ezimweni zokucindezeleka ezingokwenhlalo ezibangelwa imiphumela enamandla, njengezinkinga, ukuxhashazwa , nezinye izinhlobo zobudlova obuhlobene .
Imiphumela Yesikhathi Eside
Ukucindezeleka kwezenhlalakahle kungadlulela iminyaka ngoba ngisho nesigameko sesikhathi esisodwa singasindiswa ngokucabanga ngakho.
Ngokuqhuma kwe-intanethi, abantu abangu-13 banokufinyelela kwizikhumbuzo zemicimbi edlule njengezizukulwane zangaphambili. Ngaphandle kobufakazi bezenzakalo ezedlule, abangani nemikhaya ukusabela kuyo kungase kube lula ukuthola. Abacwaningi bathola ukuthi ukuziphendulela kwengqondo kungase kubonakale kubuhlungu njengento yokuqala. Engeza kumavidiyo, izithombe, namazwana angase akhuliswe ngabanye futhi nethuba lokukhulula imicimbi ebuhlungu ingokoqobo. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, ukucindezeleka kwezenhlalo kungase kube yingozi kakhulu kunokuhlukumezeka ngokomzimba ngoba ubuhlungu obungokomzimba buba sengathi ukulimala kuyaphulukisa ngenkathi ubuhlungu obungokwengqondo bungaphinde buqhubeke. Kodwa-ke, ngokuphawulekayo, kubonakala sengathi ukuhlukana kobulili uhlobo oluthile lokuhlukumeza luyingozi kakhulu.
Ukucindezeleka Komphakathi Nokuhlukunyezwa KwamaTweens
Akubona bonke abayishumi nambili abathola ukucindezeleka kwezenhlalakahle abazozwa ubuhlungu besikhathi eside, noma kunjalo. Endabeni yokwehliswa, noma ukuxoshwa kwezenhlalakahle, zonke izingane zizozwa ubuhlungu ekuqaleni , kepha iningi lizobhekana nokucabanga kwengqondo futhi lingathutheli emagcekeni ajulile, ahlala njalo ezwa ubuhlungu.
Izingane ezikhanyisa isimo, noma kunjalo, zingase ziphele amandla kangangokuthi izinkinga zabo zengqondo ziphelile. Lokhu kubeka isisekelo semiphumela eyingozi kakhulu yokucindezeleka komphakathi okubandakanya imicabango yokuzibulala.
Ukubhekana Nezinqubo Zokubhekana Nezinkinga
Ngenxa yesikhathi esandayo, ama-13 achitha nabangani, ukucindezeleka komphakathi kungaba nzima kakhudlwana kuzo izinkinga zakho ezingokwengqondo.
Ngokusho kwe-American Psychological Association (APA), abangaphezu kuka-42% kwabasha ababikiwe abenzanga lutho ekuphenduleni ukucindezeleka komphakathi. Ungakwazi ukufundisa phakathi kwakho ukuba ube ohlangothini olucacile lwalezi zibalo. Nazi amathiphu angu-5 asikiselayo azosiza ukuthi phakathi kwakho kubhekane nokucindezeleka kwezenhlalakahle:
- Thola ubuthongo obufanele
- Yenza okulungile
- Thola ukuhamba
- Dala injabulo
- Khulumela phezulu
Njengoba ufundisa phakathi kwakho ukubaluleka kokuphendula abacindezeli ngendlela engenhloso, bazofunda ukuthi bangabhekana kanjani nokucindezeleka njengepro. Ngokuzikhandla ngesikhathi esifanele, bazothatha lezi zakhono zibe ngabantu abadala futhi babe namandla kakhulu uma ukuphila kwenzeka.
Umthombo:
Williams, Kipling D., noNida, Steve A. Ukuphazamiseka: Imiphumela kanye nokubhekana. Izikhombisi-ndlela zamanje eSayensi Yezengqondo. 2011. 20 (2): 71-75.