Izingane Zilwela Ukuzimela Kwakho Lapho Ubushakathi Bufuna
Izingane ziveza isifiso sokuzimela ezinyathelweni ezimbili - eminyakeni encane kanye nasebusheni bokuqala, eyaziwa nangokuthi i-middle and teen years. Funda ukuthi ukuzimela kubonakala kanjani phakathi kwe-tweens kanye nentsha, futhi kungani lesi sigaba sesigaba sokuthuthukisa sempilweni esikhundleni sokuthi abazali kufanele besabe.
Izingane ezifunda ukuzimela ngezikhathi ezifanele empilweni zingaqhubeka zibe ngabantu abazimele nabakhiqizayo.
Ukuchaza Ukuzimela
Kulula nje, ukuzimela kusho ukuziphatha nokucabanga ngaphandle kwabanye. Abantu abazimele abalawulwa abanye abantu noma amabutho angaphandle. Esikhundleni salokho, zizibusa, uma uthanda. Izingane zihlakulela ukuzimela kancane kancane ngesikhathi sokuthuthukiswa.
Eminyakeni encane, baqala ukuthuthukisa ukuzimela ngokuhlola imvelo yabo futhi baqale ukwenza izinto ngokwabo. Ukufunda ukusebenzisa i-potty, ukuzondla, ukukhuluma, ukuhamba nokugijima wonke amakhono asiza izingane ezineminyaka emibili ukuthuthukisa ukuzimela. Kule minyaka, izingane ziyaziwa ukuthi zitshele abazali bazo, " Cha! " Lokhu kuyisibonakaliso esicacile sokuzimela kokuncane.
Abanye abazali bangase balwe nobunzima bokubona izingane zabo zisuka esiteji sesana. Kuba nzima ngababelethi ukuba bahlele amaphupho abo namaphupho kubantwana abancane, abaye bathuthukisa abantu babo futhi balwe nokuzimela. Intukuthelo evuthayo abazali kumele ibhekane nalesi sigaba ayikusizi izinto.
Ukuzimela kuTweens kanye nentsha
Umzabalazo omkhulu olandelayo wokuzimela uyenzeka phakathi neminyaka ephakathi neminyaka eyishumi. Phakathi naleso sikhathi, izingane zilwa ukuze zibe nezizimele kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo zizwa zibuyiselwe ebuntwaneni yizifiso zabo kanye nemingcele abazali nomphakathi ababeka kuyo.
Ngesikhathi abazali bezingane ezincane bengase balwe nobunzima bokubheka izingane zabo zibe izingane ezigcwele, abazali bentsha kanye neshumi nambili kumele babheke ukuthi ukukhula kwezingane kubonisa isigaba sokugcina sokukhula kwengane.
Lapho intsha ilwa nokuzimela kwayo, kungenxa yokuthi maduze bayoba abantu abadala ngokuphila kwabo ngezandla zabo kunokuba kubazali babo.
Ama-Tweens kanye nentsha angabonisa ukuzimela kwabo ngokubuza imibuzo abazali babo abaphayo noma ngisho nokuwaphula. Bazoqala futhi ukuveza izintandokazi eziqinile ezembathweni, umculo noma mhlawumbe ngisho nezinkolelo zenhlalo noma zezombangazwe. Bazobheka phambili ekutholeni ukuzimela okuningi, njengokuthola imvume yomfundi ukushayela futhi kamuva ilayisensi yokushayela. Imikhakha yokuhamba, njenge-bar mitzvahs noma imidanso yesikolo iphinde ikhombise ukuthi ingane ikhula.
Ukuzimela ku-Adolescence Ekuseduze
Njengoba intsha ikhula, izobheka phambili ukukwazi ukuvota noma ukuphuza ngokomthetho noma ukugembula. Esikhathini samasiko aseMelika, abantu bangase bangazimele ngokugcwele kuze kufike isikhathi esithile ngesikhathi sokukhula kwabantu abadala (phakathi kweminyaka engu-18 no-25 ubudala). Isikhathi sokuzimela ngokugcwele singahluka.
Omunye oneminyaka engu-22 ubudala angase abe umfundi oqeqeshwe ekolishi oshadile osebenza isikhathi esigcwele futhi akhokhe izikweletu zakhe. Omunye oneminyaka engu-22 kungenzeka ukuthi wayengakaze abe nobuhlobo obunzima, ahlale ekhaya nabazali bakhe futhi abe khona ekolishi lomphakathi.
Okufanelekile, abantu abadala kumele babe nokuzimela ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, banikeze ukuzethemba ukuthi bangakwazi ukuzinakekela futhi benze indlela yabo emhlabeni ngaphandle kosizo lwabazali babo.
Ezinye izingane ezikhulile ezimweni ezinzima, ezifana nesistimu yokunakekela izingane noma emindenini eyimpofu, zingase zifune ukuzimela ezinsukwini zakudala.