Izindlela Eziwusizo Zokunciphisa Amanetha Omntanakho
Ingabe ingane yakho iyaziphonsa emhlabathini, ikhala, futhi ikhahle izinyawo zayo? Awusodwa. Bonke abantwana bayathukuthela njalo ngesikhathi esisodwa.
Ngenkathi beba namahloni futhi bekhungathekisa, ukufutheka kungathuthukiswa ngokubekezela okuncane nokuphikelela engxenyeni yakho. Lezi zindlela zokuqeqesha zingasiza ingane yakho ibone ukuthi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani kuye, ukuphonsa intukuthelo ngeke kusize.
Izizathu zeTantrums ezishisayo
Uma ingane yakho ibonisa ukuqubuka okukhulu, uthathe umzuzu ukuhlola isizathu esiyisisekelo. Izingane zishaya izizathu ezimbili ezibalulekile-ukungakwazi ukuphatha imizwelo yabo noma umzamo wokulawula isimo.
Uma izingane zihlukumezeka ukuze zithole ukuthi zenzani ngokwabo ngokomzwelo, zivame ukubonisa ukukhungatheka kwabo ngokuziphatha kwabo. Ingane engaqiniseki ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nemizwelo engakhululekile njengentukuthelo, ukudabuka, nokudumazeka, ingase iphose ukulingana. Ukumemeza nokukhahlela kuyindlela yabo yokuthi, "Ngisize, angikwazi ukulawula."
Esinye isizathu esiyinhloko izingane ziba nesibindi ngoba zifuna ukulawula isimo. Umgomo wabo ukuthola indlela yabo futhi banethemba lokuthi ukumemeza kuzokusiza ukuba wenze lokho abakufunayo.
Vimbela Tantrums Temper
Nakuba kungenjalo konke ukucasuka kungavinjelwa, izinyathelo ezimbalwa ezisebenzayo zingamisa eziningi ngaphambi kokuba ziqale.
Hlola lapho ingane yakho ingase ibonise ukufutheka.
Ingabe lapho elambile noma ekhathele kakhulu? Uma kunjalo, hlela phambili futhi ungalungiseleli imisebenzi ezoba nzima kumntanakho ngaphandle kokuthi abe ne-nap nokudla okunampilo .
Ngezinye izikhathi izidakamizwa ziwumphumela wokulindela okungalungile kwengane. Isibonelo, uma indodana yakho ithola ithoyizi njalo lapho eya esitolo noGogo, angase alindele ukuthi uzomthenga naye ithoyizi.
Ukufundisa kwangaphambili kungaba yindlela enhle yokusiza izingane zibe nethemba langempela. Ngaphambi kokuba ungene esitolo, chaza lokho angalindela ukuthi kuzokwenzeka. Yisho okuthiwa, "Sizothenga ezinye zokudla bese sishiya. Asibheki namathoyizi namuhla futhi asithengi amathoyizi. "
Misa imithetho ngaphambi kokufaka izimo ezintsha. Chaza ukuthi ufuna yini ingane yakho ukuthi iyenze ngokuthi, "Hamba eduze kwami futhi uzigcinele izandla zakho." Mxwayisa ingane yakho imiphumela uma engayilandeli imithetho.
Khombisa ingane yakho izindlela eziphilile zokuphatha imizwa yabo engakhululekile ngakho uyazi ukuthi benzeni kunokushisa. Ukufundisa ingane yakho ngemizwa kungamsiza ukuba afunde izindlela ezifanele zokuxhumana nazo. Ungakwenza lokhu ngokumenza athi, "Ngimangele," noma umbonise ukuthi ungathatha kanjani ukuphefumula okukhulu ukuzola.
Unganikeli Ukuyeka I-Tantrum Yomsindo
Qinisekisa ukuthi intukuthelo ayiphumelelanga ingane yakho. Uma ephonsa ukulingana esitolo ngenxa yokuthi ufuna ukuba uthenge ithoyizi, ungamthengi. Ukunikela kungenza izinto zibe lula esikhathini esifushane ngoba kuzokwenza ukuthi i-tantrum ime. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kuzomane kugcizelele kumntanakho ukuthi ukudabuka kuyindlela enhle yokuthola lokho akufunayo.
Ukuvuza izingane ngokuzwa imizwa efanelekile
Nikeza imiphumela emihle uma ingane yakho iziphatha ngendlela efanele. Mdumise ngokuphatha kahle imizwa yakhe futhi ukhombise ukuziphatha okuhle. Yisho into enjengokuthi, "UJohnny wenza kahle kakhulu esitolo nanamuhla ngokulalela nokulandela izinkombandlela!"
Mvuza ingane yakho ngokuziphatha kahle. Nikeza isitika uma esenza esitolo ngaphandle kokukhala. Uma engakwazi ukulinda kuze kube sekupheleni kohambo lokuthenga, nikeza izinkomba zonke imizuzu embalwa phakathi nohambo uma eziphatha. Lezi zindlela ezinhle zokuqeqesha zithatha umzamo omkhulu kodwa zingavimbela izinkinga eziningi zokuziphatha.
Nikeza Umphumela Omubi Wama-Tantrums
Ukuqeda amandla kudinga imiphumela emibi ukuze ingane yakho ifunde ukungawaphonsa. Ukungazinaki ukuziphatha kungaba isu elihle lokunciphisa ukugqwala. Ngemuva kwalokho, akusijabulisi kakhulu ukumisa ukulingana ngaphandle kwezilaleli.
Bheka enye indlela, sengathi sengathi awuzwa lutho, futhi wenza njengokungathi ungakhathazeki ngenxa yentukuthelo yengane yakho. Nakuba ukukhamuluka kungase kuphakame kuqala, ingane yakho ekugcineni iyofunda ukuthi ukuthukuthela ngeke kuthole ukunakwa kwakho.
Ngezinye izikhathi, isikhathi sokuphumula sinesiqiniseko futhi. Uma ukuziphatha kwengane yakho kuyimphazamisa kakhulu ukuba ahlale esitolo, isibonelo, myisa emotweni isikhathi esithile. Bese uqhubeka uhambo lwakho lokuthenga lapho ezolile.
Yazi ukuthi awunabo kulokhu okuhlangenwe nakho nokuthi izingane eziningi zilandela iphethini. Ucwaningo oluthile lwalubhekene nezidakamizwa ezingama-330 endaweni yokutholwa nomama nabantwana babo. Bathola ukuthi intukuthelo eminingi ihlala imizuzu emithathu. Futhi, kuyinto evamile ukuba intukuthelo iqale ngokuziphatha okubi, bese uhlakazeka ekucindezelekeni. Ngemuva kokucwaninga, abazali abaningi baphawula ukuthi ukuziphatha kwengane yabo kuthuthukile, kodwa lapho bebuye baphinde bajabule, balandela iphethini evamile.
Izwi elivela ku-Verywell
Ukuqhaqhazela kakhulu kuvamile futhi kuvame ukuba yingxenye evamile yezingane ezikhulayo ngenkathi efunda ukubhekana nemizwa yabo. Sebenzisa ezinye zalezi zindlela ukulwa nokufanelana futhi kufanele zivame ukuba njalo uma uhlala njalo. Umgomo ukufundisa izindlela ezifanele zomphakathi zokubhekana nemicabango yakhe enkulu. Ngokumfundisa izindlela eziphilile zokuziveza, uyamnika isifundo sokusebenzisa konke ukuphila kwakhe.
> Umthombo:
> Eisbach SS, et al. Izici ze-Tantrums ezishisayo ezikoleni zasenkulisa ezinokuziphatha okuphazamisayo ekuhlelweni kwemitholampilo. I-Journal of Nursing Psychosocial and Health Health Services. 2014; 52 (5): 32-40. i-doi: 10.3928 / 02793695-20140110-02.