Kuphilile ukufuna ukuletha okuhle kumntanakho. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi, abazali babeka izingane ngaphansi kwengcindezi enkulu yokwenza kahle ukuthi izingane zabo zibhekene nemiphumela emibi.
Abazali bahluke emibonweni yabo mayelana nokuthi ingcindezi izingane zidinga kangakanani. Eqinisweni, ucwaningo olwenziwa ngo-2013 yi-Pew Research Centre lathola ukuthi abantu abangama-64% baseMelika bathi abazali abacindezeli ngokwanele izingane ukuba zenze kahle esikoleni.
Uma izingane zingatholi ukucindezelwa okwanele ezivela kubazali, zingase zibe nzima ukwenza konke okusemandleni abo.
Abanye abadala bakhuthaza izingane zihamba ngaphansi kwengcindezi enkulu. Baveza ukukhathazeka ukuthi izingane azikwazi ukube izingane ngoba zihlale ziphoqelelwe ukwenza kahle ukuze zifike ezikoleni ezihlonishwa kakhulu noma zithole ama-scholarship best.
Yiqiniso, isikole akuyona indawo kuphela lapho abazali bebeka khona ukucindezela izingane. Abanye abazali bacindezela izingane ukuba zenze kahle ezemidlalo, umculo, yaseshashalazini noma eminye imisebenzi eminingi. Abazali abacindezelekile kakhulu bangase bafune izingane ukuba zisebenze njalo futhi zenze kahle emincintiswaneni.
Nakuba izilindelo eziphezulu zingaba nempilo , ukubeka ingcindezi njalo ezinganeni kungaba yingozi. Uma izingane zizwa sengathi isabelo ngasinye somsebenzi wesikole sizokwenza noma siphule ikusasa labo noma ukuthi umdlalo ngamunye webhola lezinyawo ungayinquma uma bethola isifundo se-ekolishi, leyo ngcindezi iyoba nemiphumela emibi.
Indlela Yokucindezela Kakhulu Izingane Kubalimaza
Nazi ezinye zezingozi izingane ezingase zizwe lapho abazali bezibeka ngaphansi kwengcindezi enkulu:
- Amanani aphezulu okugula kwengqondo. Izingane ezizizwa sengathi zingaphansi kwengcindezi njalo zingase zithole ukukhathazeka njalo. Inani eliphakeme lokucindezeleka lingenza futhi izingane zibe ingozi enkulu yokuthuthukisa ukucindezeleka noma ezinye izinkinga zempilo yengqondo.
- Ingozi eyengeziwe yokuzibulala. Izifundo zithole ukuxhumana phakathi kokuzibulala nokucindezela komzali. Cishe omunye kwabahlanu kwabafundi abahlolwe babecabanga ukuzibulala ngenxa yokucindezelwa okukhulu kwabazali ukukhiqiza amamaki ahlukile.
- Izinkinga zokuzihlonipha. Ukuxosha izingane ukuba zivelele kungalimaza ukuzethemba kwabo . Ukucindezeleka okuqhubekayo okwenzayo kuphazamisa ukubunjwa kwezingane futhi kubangele bazizwe bengenalo ngokwanele.
- Ukulahlwa. Izingane ezizizwa zicindezela njalo ukwenza kahle esikoleni zingahle zihlale zifundela isikhathi eside futhi ngenxa yalokho, zingase zibe nzima ukulala ngokwanele.
- Ingozi enkulu yokulimala. Abagijimi abazwa ukucindezelwa okukhulu bangase baqhubeke behlanganyela emidlalweni naphezu kokulimala. Ukungazinaki ubuhlungu noma ukubuyela emdlalweni ngaphambi kokulimala sekuphulukise kungaholela ekulimaleni okungunaphakade.
- Ukwandisa amathuba okukopela. Uma kugxila ekufinyeleleni-kunokufunda-izingane zingase zikhohlise. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane encane ibamba impendulo yompendulo womakhelwane wayo ekuhlolweni, noma umfundi wekolishi okhokhela othile ukubhala iphepha elilodwa, ukukopela kuvamile phakathi kwezingane ezizizwa zicindezelwa ukwenza kahle.
- Ukwenqaba ukubamba iqhaza. Uma izingane zizwa ukuthi umgomo wukuthi "uhlale uhamba phambili," ngeke bakwazi ukuhlanganyela uma bengenakukhanya. Umntwana ongeyena umgijimi onqine kakhulu angase ayeke ukudlala ibhola lezinyawo nengane engeyena umculi omuhle eqenjini angase ayeke i-choir. Ngeshwa, lokhu kusho ukuthi izingane ngeke zithathe amathuba okuthuthukisa amakhono azo.
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