Kubalulekile ukufundisa ingane yakho ngezinkinga ezifana nendlala nokungabi namakhaya
Ubumpofu kuyinkinga eyinkimbinkimbi engabangela izizathu ezihlukahlukene ezinzima kakhulu ezinganeni ezincane ukuyiqonda. Kodwa nakuba izingqinamba ezungeze indlala nokungabi namakhaya ziyinkimbinkimbi, kubalulekile ukukhuluma nabantwana ngokuhlupheka.
Uma ungumzali ongeke akhathazeke ngokubeka ukudla etafuleni noma enendawo efudumele yengane yakho ukuze ulale, ukufaka izingalo zakho nxazonke le ngxoxo kungase kube nzima kakhulu.
Kodwa ngaphandle kwencazelo ecacile, izingane zingase zingaqondi ukuthi kungani ezinye izingane zithola isidlo sakusihlwa esikoleni noma kungani kukhona umuntu ongenamakhaya ocela imali. Futhi bangase bacabange ngokungalungile ngabantu abaphila ngaphansi kobuhlwempu ..
Kungani Kufanele Ukhulume Ngokuhlupheka?
Ngesinye isikhathi, ingane yakho izobona ukuthi abanye abantu abanayo imali eningi njengabanye, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi banemibuzo ethile ngakho. Kulinganiselwa ukuthi eyodwa kwabantwana abahlanu e-United States ihlala ebumpofu. Abaningi balabo bantwana banomzali osebenzayo, kodwa umholo ophansi nomsebenzi ongakhawuleki ubayeka baphila ngaphansi kobuhlwempu. Kukhona ithuba elihle lokulwa nomfundi ofunda nabo ekilasini ngezinto ezinjengokungalaleki kokudla nokungenamakhaya.
Ungase ulingeke ukuthi uthi kumntanakho, "Yidla i-broccoli yakho. Kukhona izingane ezilambile kwezinye izingxenye zomhlaba ezingathanda ukudla lokho. "Kodwa ukukhuluma ngabantu abahlala kwelinye izwekazi kungase kube kude kakhulu nezwe lomntanakho ukuze aqonde.
Kunabantu abaningi abanenkinga yobumpofu obuseduze kakhulu nekhaya. Ukukhuluma ngezimo zangempela zokuphila emphakathini wakho kungamsiza ukuba aqonde kangcono ukuthi ubumpofu bungakanani.
Izingane ezihlala ebumpofu zingathola imiphumela yesikhathi eside. Ubumpofu buyathinta imindeni ngezindlela ezilandelayo:
- Izinkinga zezemfundo - Izingane eziphila ngobumpofu zinenkinga yokufunda futhi zingenakukwazi ukuqhubeka nemfundo yazo.
- Izinkinga zokuziphatha - Ubumpofu buyathinta intuthuko yengane nentuthuko yengane. Izingane ezikhulela ebuphofu zingase zibonise izinkinga zokuziphatha .
- Izinkinga zempilo yomzimba - Ubumpofu besifazane buxhunywe kumazinga aphezulu e-asthma, ukukhuluphala, izinkinga zokuthuthukisa ulimi , kanye nengozi yokulimala.
- Izinkinga zempilo yengqondo - Ukucindezeleka okunobuthi okuhlobene nobuphofu kwandisa ingozi yezifo eziningana zezifo zengqondo.
- Ukwenyuka kwenhlalakahle jikelele - Izifundo zibonisa ukuthi ubumpofu buyingozi enkulu ekutheni inhlalakahle yezingane ibe nemiphumela engapheli.
Ukubamba izingxoxo ngobumpofu kungaba yithuba lokufundisa ingane yakho kanye nesikhathi sokukhuthaza abanye ububele. Uma ingane yakho iqonda kancane ukuthi kungani abanye abantu bephila ngendlela ehlukile, angase abe nokuzwela okukhulu kubantu abanobuphofu.
Bheka Amathuba Okubhekana Nesihloko
Esikhundleni sokukhulisa indaba yobumpofu ngaphandle kwebala elihlaza okwesibhakabhaka, funa amathuba okukhuphula ngokwemvelo. Khona-ke, ungakhuluma ngakho ngokuqondile.
Uma kukhona i-Thanksgiving yokudla drive esikoleni, khuluma nengane yakho ngokuthi kungani unikela ngempahla ekheniwe. Noma, uma kukhona isipho esishayela phezu kwamaholidi, chaza ukuthi imindeni ethile ingase ingabi nemali eyanele yokuthenga izipho.
Yilungiselele Imibuzo Embi
Ngesinye isikhathi, ingane yakho izobona ukuthi ontanga yakhe noma abantu emphakathini bahlala ebumpofu. Yilungele imibuzo enjengale:
- Kungani u-Anna egqoka izingubo ezifanayo esikoleni nsuku zonke?
- Ufika kanjani lowo wesifazane ecela abantu imali?
- Kungani kungenjalo lowo muntu egqoke izicathulo?
- Kungani uZack ethi uthola ukudla kwasemini esikoleni?
Uma ingane yakho ibuza imibuzo, kuyisibonakaliso sokulungele ukuthola olunye ulwazi. Kubalulekile ukumnikeza ubudala izimpendulo ezifanele.
Nikeza Izincazelo Ezicacile Ezinganeni Zesikole Ezingqungquthela
Izingane aziqondi imali noma ezomnotho. Ukuhweba mayelana nendlala yengane kungadala imibuzo engenacala efana, "Kungani abazali babo bengena esitolo bese bethenga ukudla okwengeziwe?"
Phakathi kweminyaka engama-5 no-8, izingane zikulungele ukufunda izincazelo ezilula mayelana nobubha. Zama ukusho okuthi, "Abanye abantu abakwazi ukuthola imali eyanele yokuthenga ukudla noma ikhaya ukuze bahlale kulo."
Kule minyaka awudingi ukunikeza izincazelo ezinde mayelana nezici ezingavimbela umuntu ukuba athole umholo okhokhelwayo. Izingxoxo mayelana nokukhubazeka, ukusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa, kanye nomnotho ompofu kungalinda kuze kube phakathi kweminyaka noma iminyaka eyishumi.
Khuluma namaTweens and Teens Mayelana Nezizathu Eziphansi
AmaTweens kanye nentsha banamandla okuqala ukuqonda ezinye zezizathu zokuthi kungani ububha bukhona. Khuluma ngezici ezibangela ubumpofu, njenge:
- Igebe lokuthola imali phakathi kwabantu abacebile nabampofu
- Ukungabi nemisebenzi ekhokhela inkokhelo eyanele
- Ukungabi nemfundo
- Izindleko eziphezulu zokunakekelwa kwezempilo nokunakekela izingane
- Ukusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa nokugula kwengqondo
- Ukukhubazeka
- Ukuhlukaniswa
- Ububha bobuzwe
Ngaphandle kokukhuluma ngezimbangela zobumpofu, xoxani ngemiphumela. Nikeza incazelo elula yamasevisi kahulumeni kanye nezinsiza ezibekwa khona ukuze kusize abantu, kodwa futhi bakhulume ukuthi kunzima kanjani ukuthi abantu baphume ebuphofu.
Qaphela imibiko oyithumelayo
Izinto ozenzayo, kanye nezinto ongazenzi, kuzothumela imilayezo yengane yakho ngabantu abahlala ebumpofu. Isibonelo, uma uhamba ngaphesheya kwe-panhandler ngaphandle kokubheka amehlo, ingane yakho ingase ithathe abantu abangenamakhaya ingaphansi kwakho, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuchaza ukuthi kungani ungabanikeli abantu abangabazi emgwaqweni.
Yisho into enjengokuthi, "Angikunike abantu imali ngoba angiqiniseki ukuthi bazoyisebenzisa kanjani. Kodwa ngingase ngizithengele ukudla ngezinye izikhathi. "Noma, chaza ukuthi unikela ngemali ezenzweni ezisiza abantu abangenamakhaya ukuthi babe nokudla kanye nendawo yokuhlala yokuhlala.
Kubalulekile futhi ukugwema ukuthumela umyalezo obonisa umsebenzi onzima njalo uvimbela ubumpofu. Uma uthi izinto ezinjengalezi, "Ngisebenza kanzima ukuze sikwazi ukuhlala endlini enhle," ingane yakho ingaphetha ngokuthi abantu abahluphekile kumele babe novilapha.
Yenza Ingane Yakho Ihileleke Ekusizeni
Ukunikeza imali ku-charity kungase kungayifundisi ingane yakho ngokusiza abanye. Kodwa, ukumbandakanya isandla sokuqala ekusizeni abantu abadinga usizo kungamsiza ukuba aqonde kangcono ukuthi angabhekana kanjani nobumpofu.
Yenza ingane yakho ihileleke ekunikezeni ezinye zezinyathelo zakhe noma izingubo ezingasetshenzisiwe kwabanye. Mcele akhethe ukuthi yiziphi izinto ozonikeza futhi azikhulume ngazo ukuthi zingasiza kanjani ezinye izingane abazali babo abangakwazi ukuthenga amathoyizi noma izingubo zokugqoka. Letha ingane yakho kanye nawe esitolo ukuze ithenge ukudla kokushayela ukudla. Mcele ukuthi akhethe izimpahla ezisemathinini noma ezomile ongayinika imindeni engase ingakwazi ukukhokhela ukudla.
Uma ingane yakho ibona ukuthi ingathatha izinyathelo zokwenza umehluko, ingase izwe iphefumulelwe ukwenza izenzo eziningi zomusa esikhathini esizayo.
Xoxani ngezivikelo onayo endaweni
Ukukhuluma ngobumpofu kungabangela ingane yakho ukuba ingakhathazeki kancane. Angase akhathazeke ngokuthi uzophelelwa ukudla noma ukuthi ungase ungabi namakhaya ngelinye ilanga. Ngakho kubalulekile ukukhuluma nganoma yiziphi izivikelo ongase ube nazo endaweni.
Uma unomngane noma isihlobo ongakusiza uma uhlehliselwe inhlanhla yakho, tshela into ethi, "Singahlale sihlala noGogo uma singenalo ikhaya lethu." Noma chaza ukuthi kunezinhlelo zikahulumeni ezikhona esiza abantu abangakwazi ukuthenga ukudla.
Yiqiniso, njengomuntu omdala, uyazi ukuthi ngisho nezivikelo ezingcono kakhulu azikhohlisi. Ngeke kudingeke uhlangane nenhlanhla eshiya umndeni wakho isidingo esikhulu, kodwa sonke sibhekene nalokhu kungenzeka.
Into engcono kakhulu ongayenza kubantwana bakho ibaqinisekisa ukuthi uhlale ukhona ukuze ubathande futhi uwavikele futhi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi izimo zakho zikuthathephi, uzohlala njalo. Ukuhlanganyela noma yini engaphezu kwalokhu, ikakhulukazi nezingane ezincane, kungase kube nzima kakhulu ukuthi bayisebenzise.
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